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2 potential fathers clear blue 1-2 weeks

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ramdom · 11/08/2022 00:24

I have found out I am 1-2 weeks pregnant on clear blue test on Monday 8/08/22

My last period was 11/07/2022

On the 21/07/2022
I slept with guy 1

On 28/07/2022 I slept with guy 2
30/07/2022 I slept with guy 2 again

Does anyone have any understanding on who the father could be by the dates and the clear blue being 1-2 weeks

It's a mess and I'm really stressed out
I have an abortion booked on Monday because I don't know for certain who father could be and I am hoping for it to be guy 2 is this too close together to hope for guy 2 ?

Please don't judge :'(

2 potential fathers clear blue 1-2 weeks
2 potential fathers clear blue 1-2 weeks
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Peasplease12 · 15/08/2022 20:43

There are ante natal DNA tests available but I don’t know what exactly is involved or the cost

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ramdom · 15/08/2022 20:45

The worst thing is I spoke to guy 1 again today he is still determined he didn't cum in me
😢
It such a difficult situation

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ijustcouldntthinkofausername · 15/08/2022 20:47

I'm putting my money on guy 2
You slept with him twice within a week
And if guy 1 saying he didn't finish in you then the odds are it's very likely guy2

What a position to be in 😩 sorry

user1477391263 · 15/08/2022 20:50

OP, for the love of God, just terminate and get yourself straightened out. Your situation sounds completely unstable. You slept with a married father of four, then with another guy in close succession. You want Guy 2 to be baby daddy, but he doesn't know about the other guy, right? How would he react if he found out?

Terminate, get some counselling, and then look for a stable, monogamous relationship when you are ready.

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ramdom · 15/08/2022 20:54

ijustcouldntthinkofausername · 15/08/2022 20:47

I'm putting my money on guy 2
You slept with him twice within a week
And if guy 1 saying he didn't finish in you then the odds are it's very likely guy2

What a position to be in 😩 sorry

Like I put my hand on my genital area and smelt semen when I got into my room

I told him this he said he came in my trousers

If this was the case
I could have pulled them back up it went on there

Or he actually came in me this is what is making me not believe him
Because I am not certain if it's a lie or not

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Original poster
ramdom · 15/08/2022 20:56

user1477391263 · 15/08/2022 20:50

OP, for the love of God, just terminate and get yourself straightened out. Your situation sounds completely unstable. You slept with a married father of four, then with another guy in close succession. You want Guy 2 to be baby daddy, but he doesn't know about the other guy, right? How would he react if he found out?

Terminate, get some counselling, and then look for a stable, monogamous relationship when you are ready.

He wouldn't mind about guy 1

It's just if guy 1 is the father it's a issue

I had my abortion booked for today and it didn't go to plan not viewable on scan I'm not 5 weeks pregnant

I am 5 weeks by my last period but not by scan

And its rebooked for 10 days thankyou very much for your input though. 😁

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Jaaxe · 15/08/2022 20:58

ramdom · 15/08/2022 20:28

I really don't want to terminate the pregnancy I really would like it to be guy 2 I would love to keep the baby if it was for certain guy 2

But I can't carry a baby for guy 1 as he has a family and wife I can't do that to a family and ruin and break their situation from a silly mistake

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Completely understand this but ultimately remember you need to do what is right for YOU….if guy 1 has been trying to sleep with you for 2 years then he clearly doesn’t care that much about breaking up his family, it might of been a silly mistake for u but surely 2 years of trying for him it wasn’t a silly mistake for him, he just doesn’t want to be found out as yes it would likely break up his family. Chances are you aren’t the first and won’t be the last person he cheats on his wife with and she will no doubt see his true colours at some stage whether that’s soon or a few years down the line with another woman so try not base your decision on solely this.

If he didn’t ejaculate in you this lowers the chances of it being his but obvs nothing is certain.

You still have lots of time to decide what to do so if you aren’t sure don’t rush into it xx

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/08/2022 21:02

But guy 1 was the 1st and last time we had sex I am friends with him and he is married and I'm friends with the wife too they have 4 children he has been trying with me for 2 years just for sex and I gave in after a few drinks I am so ashamed of my actions and I've spoken to him he has said I should get rid of the baby he also knows about guy 2

Whatever else happens I'd tell his poor wife. What a wanker. And a liar so don't believe his nonsense about where he came.

MayThe4th · 15/08/2022 21:08

OP no good can come from having this baby.

Guy 2 might say now that he wants the baby, but your whole relationship is going to be based on mistrust. If you have further children he will always wonder whether you’ve been sleeping with other men. You’ve shown that you have 0 boundaries, and chances are that once this bloke comes to his senses he will run like the wind.

And sleeping with a married father of 4 is not a “silly mistake,” it’s a conscious choice.

Terminate this pregnancy and then get yourself some counselling to explore why your boundaries are so off.

And stay away from married men.

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ramdom · 15/08/2022 21:09

MayThe4th · 15/08/2022 21:08

OP no good can come from having this baby.

Guy 2 might say now that he wants the baby, but your whole relationship is going to be based on mistrust. If you have further children he will always wonder whether you’ve been sleeping with other men. You’ve shown that you have 0 boundaries, and chances are that once this bloke comes to his senses he will run like the wind.

And sleeping with a married father of 4 is not a “silly mistake,” it’s a conscious choice.

Terminate this pregnancy and then get yourself some counselling to explore why your boundaries are so off.

And stay away from married men.

My boundaries are far from off

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AnneLovesGilbert · 15/08/2022 21:13

They’ve got you in a bit of a mess though haven’t they. I hope things work out for you.

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ramdom · 15/08/2022 21:14

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/08/2022 21:13

They’ve got you in a bit of a mess though haven’t they. I hope things work out for you.

What is they ?

The boundaries or guys ?

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MayThe4th · 15/08/2022 21:14

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Not in the spirit

Workyticket · 15/08/2022 21:14

I wouldn't have a baby in these circumstances (and I have had a termination, years ago)

Sod's law says it's Man1 and that would be terrible all round

Why didn't you tell man2 about man1? Does he think he's the only possible father?

MayThe4th · 15/08/2022 21:16

Oh and get yourself down to the STD clinic, and advise both men to do the same.

Chances are they’re both sleeping with other women as well, especially the married one who will be sleeping with his wife at the very least, and most likely with anyone else he can charm into his bed.

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ramdom · 15/08/2022 21:21

@MayThe4th

My boundaries are not off

The husband
Has no boundaries it's been years of him trying I refused
I know both the wife and husband we are all friends together
After a few drinks I gave in with him
1st and last time
I woke up the next day with instant regret and was very upset with my choices
This is something I've avoided for a very long time

Guy 2 has wanted a relationship with me for sometime

I have been sleeping with only him but I have refused to take him seriously or make it official
He tells everyone I am his girlfriend but I have explained to him I'm not ready to put my full trust into the relationship from a past experience I am not able to take him serious I was waiting for the consistency

I am not proud of my choices
And regret what I've done so much
I am the one who is having to battle through this daily until my next appointment no one else
And I'm certain my boundaries are correct

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ramdom · 15/08/2022 21:22

MayThe4th · 15/08/2022 21:16

Oh and get yourself down to the STD clinic, and advise both men to do the same.

Chances are they’re both sleeping with other women as well, especially the married one who will be sleeping with his wife at the very least, and most likely with anyone else he can charm into his bed.

I did the second I found I was pregnant thankyou very much

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Aquamarine1029 · 15/08/2022 21:22

My boundaries are far from off

You knowingly slept with a married man, your boundaries and standards need serious work. Not being honest with yourself isn't helping your situation.

Think about the potential child. Don't bring them into the world in this mess to burden them. Sort yourself out, be in a long-term, stable relationship, and then think about having a child.

whateveryouwantmetosay · 15/08/2022 21:22

But guy 1 was the 1st and last time we had sex I am friends with him and he is married and I'm friends with the wife too they have 4 children he has been trying with me for 2 years just for sex and I gave in after a few drinks I am so ashamed of my actions and I've spoken to him he has said I should get rid of the baby he also knows about guy 2

So you slept with your friends husband?! Shame on you both.

Loulou1712 · 15/08/2022 21:24

I don't think you can use the age of the pregnancy to determine which guy it was. I'm pregnant with my 3rd and all 3 times they've changed my due dates by 3-4 days based on babies size at 12 week scan, even though on one of them my husband was working away and we only had sex once a few days before the day they're saying we conceived.
You need to do what's right for YOU and YOUR BABY, regardless of if either men were involved. As others have said, I wouldn't trust man 1 and I'd tell his wife for the sake of his family.

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ramdom · 15/08/2022 21:27

whateveryouwantmetosay · 15/08/2022 21:22

But guy 1 was the 1st and last time we had sex I am friends with him and he is married and I'm friends with the wife too they have 4 children he has been trying with me for 2 years just for sex and I gave in after a few drinks I am so ashamed of my actions and I've spoken to him he has said I should get rid of the baby he also knows about guy 2

So you slept with your friends husband?! Shame on you both.

It was not planned

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tortoiseshellsub · 15/08/2022 21:28

Not sure what advise to give you but it sounds like you need a hug. I'm sure you regret you're actions but please don't rush into an abortion- this is your baby too. Please look after yourself xx

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/08/2022 21:29

They were your boundaries. But yes, also the men.

If you had decent boundaries you wouldn’t have stayed friends with a couple where they bloke was constantly trying to cheat on his wife with you. Someone who respected herself would have told the wife he was a creep and cut ties with them both.

Aquamarine1029 · 15/08/2022 21:29

ramdom · 15/08/2022 21:27

It was not planned

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You really think that's a legitimate excuse? It's not. You slept with your friend's husband. There is absolutely NO redemption for that.