Why does he need to

[confusedbythis1]

Me and my partner split up about 3 weeks ago I've got a positive pregnancy test and he has a daughter with another women but he says he needs to tell his ex that he's having another baby it needs to come from him and his daughter can't tell her she's nothing to him she's his ex why would he need to do this?

Well presumably they co-parent together so it's quite relevant information. She has a lot to do with him.... she's the mother of his child!

You’re nothing to him either, by your own definition, will you want to know about your kid getting a half sibling the next time he impregnates a woman?

At some point he will be telling his child she will have a sibling and he will probably be reducing cm.

An ex and an ex with whom you have a child with are two different things.

So she's not 'nothing' to him she's the mother of his child and if that child is going to have a new sibling he needs to tell her.

To tell her before his parents?

His words were I need to tell her!

I agree he should tell her, before he tells his child.

So they can co parent the situation together and be joined up with how they speak to the child about it.

Well yes, his child is more important than his parents.

If you aren’t in a relationship with this man what does it matter?

I don't understand what your issue is with this. Of course she will need to know if her child is going to have a new sibling.

The issue is I could of had a wow I'm happy congratulations anything but it was I'm pregnant babe oh I really need to tell her!
But has you all say it's ok he needs to tell her

How pregnant are you? He doesn’t need to tell anyone if you’ve only just got a positive test and are 4-6 weeks pregnant. After you start telling people (lots of people want till the 12 week scan) then yes, his ex is one of the people who will need to know, because your baby will be a sibling to her child, and it will affect child maintenance payments.

Oh and if there’s the slightest possibility you might consider a termination then he shouldn’t be telling anyone at all.

Why on earth are you having a child with this person?

@pjmasksitsthepjmasks because I love him but he doesn't love me and I fell pregnant before he told me this

He needs to tell her because they co-parent and I imagine he wants to keep that relationship amicable for the remaining decade or so. Gossip runs like wildfire so better coming from him first.

If he pays an amount calculated by the CMS, a second child could affect that amount. Also that their child is going to have a sibling.

If he finds partner no. 3 and has a child with her, I hope he has the decency to inform you face to face as well.

More fool me

Seems like you’re still struggling to understand why he would like to tell his ex about his latest ex being pregnant. Oh well. Not sure what we can do to help you understand.

Sounds like you’re heartbroken :( and this must be really hard. Just because you can’t change his feelings about you or about his ex doesn’t mean it’s wrong to feel sad or even jealous. I really hope you have some good support IRL and can feel joy about this pregnancy regardless xx