The odds ot two false + tests is a gazillion to one presumably which means one thing and quite frankly I need support NOW NOW NOW

[Piffle]

Yes me
That bint who spent 3 YRS on the ttc boards to get her deliciuos 9 mth old ds2.
current line up
ds1 13yrs
dd 5
ds2 9 mths

Had unprotected SEX ONCE on day after AF finished.
Infact have had sex once in the last 8 weeks...
I'm NEVER EVER doing it again
FFS DP is on waiting list for vasectomy.
How the fuck will I cope, I leave long age gaps for a reason...
Shit shit shit.
am being a wimp as house is big, car can get an extra seat, ds1 and dd and even ds2 are angels.

But DP works long hours gone at 6am home at 8pm
Not sure I can do it on my own.
What if i have not finished bf ds2 by then?

SHIT

Thinking of you PIffle, really am. You sound so grounded and philosophical, I really hope it just some implantation bleeding. I had a fair amount of bleeding at about 8 weeks, was a strange patch on the placenta, but was fine. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, and hope its the same for you. terrifying at the time.

Can you get to an EPU for a scan? what ever is happening tonight, you ough to go a.s.a.p. ... I mean, dont forget what your mum said about Auntie Sheila, you might not have had a singleton in there to start with, IFSWIM? I am keeping my fingers crossed for you and sending so many positive thoughts your way.

OMG Piff!!!

Only just seen this.

Wrote a long excited post and then read yr later posts.

Hope all is OK - let us know when you can.

Thinking of you whichever way it goes.
Cxx

good lord Piffle - what a rollercoaster - was getting ready to post excitedly and then saw your later posts

I hope all is OK

How are you today Piff?

You'll cope, I got pg with ds2 when ds1 was 5 months and I coped- somehow.

And you'll become an expert on tandem feeding if needed.

But what you need to do now is take some time, breathe, adjust, be kind to yourself and the worrying about how's etc can come later.

Congrats

Oh sorry Piffle- just saw later posts

What will be will be but thinking of you and sending vibes

Hi Piffle,
I am in the same predicment(sp?),
ds 10 years
dd 11 months and have only done the deed once and now my period is a week late, my boobs are huge and fighting the urge not to vomit!! just need to get the courage to do a test to comfirm my fears. My dd can be a bit of a handful and still does not sleep well plus we live in a 2 bed house...don't know how i will cope, I also just got my dream job which i start in feb and am unsure about what to do now, i keep hoping all this is just in my mind..............
Offering you lots of support.xx

Sorry piffle just read through all the posts. hope everything is o.k.xxxx

Right firstly thanks- what great bunch of lasses you are on here.

Went to docs this morning, she said yep her test came out + but she said given the amount of bleeding it was probably an early miscarriage - she did offer me EPU scanning and the option for D+C if I wanted after that.
I have refused both, I am feeling ok physically, will see what the weekend brings
FWIW the bleeding is much lighter than my period, no real pains, just crampy aches. plus I have had enough invasions before and know that if this is it, there is nothing anyone can do to stop it.

Yes am feeling odd, was horrifed to think I moight have been pregnant @ 7 days ago.
Now I am gutted. And guilty of course....
Life is strange.
Dp asked if I was ok and where did this leave us if this ended. We both surprised ourselves with our reactions I think.
But time to take it easy and wait it out.
Thanks again you bunch of lovelies

not sure if you're a "huggy" person - but hug anyhow....

but now being nosey - what was the surprising reaction that you both had??? Another DC in the future???

Piffle.

((()))

Oh piff...I really rea;lly hopes it all works out ok.

Don't tell anyone I'm sending this because they'll all want one but have a very rare(((hug))) from me....

You do sound very grounded and philosophical - I suppose there is no choice really. If these things are meant to be - well then they just will be.

Hugs.

Yeah learnt to be philosophical when I appendicitis when pregnant with ds2.
Mega stress effort to get pregnant (oh the irony) and I thought I was going to lose him.
then I thought.
Here I am I have to have the op or I will die and so would he.
That's grounding - had forgotten that and have been slobbering stupid kisses on his divine smelling head all morning

And yes dp and I had come around to it very well... we'll see how things pan out afterwards though - to actively try might be beyond both of us I think.

I've just seen this thread for the first time piffle and have gone from being totally thrilled for you to now being really sad.
Glad you can be philisophical about things.

Oh, Piffle, my love - what a roller coaster. I have my fingers crossed for a positive outcome for you. Don't worry about the distant future - get through the immediate bit for now. Big decisions about trying again or not can wait until your emotions are more settled. You must be in turmoil. I'm very glad you have a soft baby head to kiss for comfort. Lots of love xx xx

Aw, piffle, it's a lot to get your head round all at once - you must be all over the place. Be kind to yourself and I hope you're OK over the weekend.

Yes Piffle, rooting for you over here too. You come across as a very strong person.

Wow, you sound so strong. been thinking of you alot. i know i said it before, and of course its nothing to do with me at all, but maybe you ought to just have a scan, just to make sure whats going on. realise you dont want anything doing, should it be the worst that is happening.

You wouldnt have to change your mind on what you've said about a D&C but you know, it may be that you were pg with twins, it may be a clot on the placenta, which is what i had. I bled alot, with it. thought i was loosing my girl, but it was a huge clot which measured 3x3cm, which is large apparently.
Sorry to mention it again, and i'm sure your mind is made up, but, it may just maybe not be what you think. of course, i am not trying to give you false hope at all, just sharing what happend to me... anyway, will still be thinking of you. and sending you a virtual hug.

Thinking of you Piffle xxx

Thanks again everyone
Am doing ok, getting quite bad lower back dragging pain now, bleeding has been on and off (TMI sorry) but steady now
I am no longer getting + tests (had a lot of cheap ebay tests from ttc ds2 left around) so am sure that is it. GP has said that the bleeding should slow down after 6 days and if not then to go in for a check up.
Am feeling a bit up and down, I feel weird like nothing ever happened, that I'm watching someone elses life - tis my coping mechanism I think.

Ahh it will come back and bite me on the bum when I' more able to cope I suspect.

Thansk again top mn lassies

have been following but not sure what to say

so sorry piff x

am relievd not another ep

Tutter me too. Totally different this time I have got an issue with adhesions from the EP which still need resolving

So sorry Piffle been thinking about you alot today, sorry prob sound a bit weird.... you just popped into my mind a few times. just so sad for you

Hey, Piffle - thanks for keeping us posted, sorry it's not better news Just take it one day at a time, eh? Take care x