Minster's 8th Side Car - Best not let the men see our post-partum bodies eh?!

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I'm also running a jeopardy on washing out but looks like rain at the exact point at which no doubt I'll be caught boobs out with a baby hanging off

The amount of washing is INSANE

Catch up time.....

@bez91 i dont think i'd like your brothers GF either! I would say - i'm not feeling up to it - you can come but dont bring anyone with you. 😂Back to birth weight sounds fine. They are just too ambitious!
@BellatrixK i would have been angry about the quad test too. Its like they think you have nothing better to do!?
@DKDK123 sounds like everything is going ok! Well done. And not running after DS sounds reasonable. I am not sure i could on a normal day. But you need to recover. You will get there though and you look great on your insta pics! Not good on the spilt milk! How frustrating. Agree on the measurements at scans - maybe they should keep them to themselves! OMG the neighbour. I would have screamed at him too. Utter twat. Maybe he wont bother next time though! I think the HV advice literally depends on them. Not all of them are that pro BF, as they cant be bothered to deal with it. I bought a finger prick test in the end. Worth peace of mind and i 'think' i'm ok.
@Soph0105 Mastitis? oh no! Hopefully it isnt then. Moving in with the inlaws? I hope you like them! 😬I would love to live a farm life though. The passport photo is brilliant! 2 years for a passport?! thats insane.
@Vil10 OMG - lets hope it isnt ginger? What on earth? I dunno why people say the most ridiculous things but its like - just dont say anything maybe? If you cant articulate an inoffensive sentence. 😡What a complete pain about OH and the missed scan and the solicitor saga! Honestly. I would have been angry. Idiots. But hopefully its sorted now.
@Minster2012 i definitely have waterproof mattress protectors and i've even bought one for our bed! 😂I honestly dont know how you can type, read and dog walk!? I couldnt, my multitasking is not that good. I've no idea how you feel up to dtd that soon? 😮 But @Juno231 is right. Basically the placenta leaves a massive wound and its open and bleeding. My class lady said if we could all see this, then no matter what kind of birth you had you would be doing very little for 6 weeks to let it heal. Its just that we cant see it. So infection is also a risk. Family bath time sounds fun. How big is your bath? 😂I cant believe they dont check tongue tie as standard when it seems such a common problem. Hopefully it makes a difference? And my thrush often starts on the outside so it could be worth trying one whack of cream and just see if theres any change?
@becarefuloutthere periods doesnt sound necessary. A long break would be nice! I have to say i'm not missing mine and its a positive of being pregnant at least.
@feliznavidad2 stressful on the spotting but i'm glad its nothing serious.
@whatwonder i bought the positive birth company hypnobirthing thing and i still havent found time to look! It all just goes too fast?!
@Juno231 being sick!? Aaargghhh. I'm tired too but my rhr remains boring?! And thats outragous on the nursery front?! Is there not some body that monitors them and should stop them doing that? Charging for nothing basically? And tongue tie seems very common, i didnt know you could check it privately.
@2020mission why would you want a photo of your inlaws on your wall if you arent in the photo?! And no them sitting with a baby in one hand and wine in the other would piss me off. I'd have said i'm sorry we dont have any!
@Lexber not fun on the sleep deprivation front! I hope it improves for you. Glad Elsie seems ok. They are a worry arent they!
@InkyPaper you need to learn to slow down!

Update - spoke to consultant who completely said nothing that the other Dr did and didnt seem that interested at all. Go figure. No mention of the EFW and just said baby was following a low growth rate and maybe was just small. No mention of the drop off though. Then said scan in 3 weeks (which is even further away). And of course the week i wanted to go away?! So i dont know what to do now. I've heard nothing about any scan dates but i'm going to call as they are meant to have cancelled my original scan this coming friday (because i went a week early) and i'm still getting text reminders. So whilst on the phone i will ask if anything is showing yet. She said my blood test at my 29 week app did show borderline low iron though and suggested me asking my midwife for iron tablets. She did say the braxton hicks i had shouldnt last that long or be painful though and to call next time.

I have learned how to cook boiled eggs. 😆I think my blood sugar is ok from what i can tell, so i can at least not worry about that. And hope just eating more helps. Thankfully i've had no pains since sunday night. So i'm hoping thats resolved. I actually slept ok ish monday night but god i didnt last night and had cramp! Hate that. Wakes me up shouting. So the tiredness isnt ideal. But otherwise i'm plodding on and trying not to think about it. The baby is moving ok, although she did have hiccups like 4 times yesterday!

Oh @InkyPaper sounds like you're having a tough time, hopefully deadlines are achieved and passed and you can find some space to chill a bit in whatever format works best for you?

Sure you should be back at work @Franklydear?

We did a dream feed about 11ish @Minster2012 but I guess it depends what time B is waking at the moment if it's worth doing it that late? Can you outsource some washing to a doting grandparent? DS has so many clothes (and did as a baby) so I didn't have to stress about washing!

Waking up with cramp is the worst @paintfairy! So frustrating when all the medics don't say the same thing but got to be good if she isn't concerned? I'd probably just book to go away and reschedule the scan when the appt came through but it depends if you'd still enjoy yourself or be worried?

Still migrainey here so had to cancel the gym again, hoping another quiet day and eating more protein and drinking lots of water will sort me out.

Had my consultant appt this morning and he basically said that it is more likely than not I will end up with another EMCS if I attempt a VBAC (based on reading up on what happened last time). He didn't quite recommend a ELCS but it's clearly what he was hinting at. I think that's where my head was at so I'm pretty much decided. Will have growth scans at 32 and 36 weeks then back in to see him at 36 weeks to make a plan for ELCS. Means I can start to plan in finishing work and also stuff like getting my hair done etc etc (obviously all the important things!)

@2020mission omg your in laws, wtf?? agree with whoever's plan it was to store it until you "have more space to display" and then oh no it got lost in the move, how tragic.

@larrythelizard sorry to hear the migraines are persisting, did your MW/OB ever say anything about them? And being able to plan things in (especially when you already have a child) seems like a big advantage for an ELCS!

@Juno231 nursery placements in London are absolutely bonkers. I've been on a waitlist for one since 29 weeks, apparently there are 80 families on it 😣 going to see another this weekend but it's all pretty soul crushing, especially with the eye watering London rates!

@paintfairy annoying about the lack of consistency you're getting from different people, and about the scans. Could you not ask for the scan date to be moved to the week before you plan to go away?

@Minster2012 I'm in denial about the washing already. Also trying to pre-emptively wash as much stuff in my flat (cushion covers, towels, spare bedding, etc.) so that I at least won't have to bother doing those as well during the first little bit. Oh and I definitely put a waterproof mattress protector on our bed as well (in case my waters go during the night, but also because I've heard you can have crazy postnatal sweating after birth so figured it wouldn't hurt).

@InkyPaper sorry to hear you've been having a rough time, I hope you can spend the weekend relaxing and that work calms down a bit for you!

Mumsnet cut off the last part of my message. Honestly, what is this update.

Okay so have done as much cooking as I think I can handle. Have made a lasagne, big batch of pasta sauce (top tip @Soph0105) curry, sausage rolls, muesli bars, cheese scones, two types of cookies and some mini quiches. Would do more but I honestly cba and have actually filled my freezer. Also hoping that MIL will be making us some food when they're here (DH's parents arrive from overseas next week and they're here for the entire summer). Luckily I get on really well with my MIL and she's an amazing cook

Sorry ladies, i have been completely useless this last week. I have got a new (to me) car though- it’s a Nissan QashQai. It’s brilliant with a huge boot and it’s high up which I’m loving. And I’m off on holiday next week so with that and exams in school things have seemed hectic. The nausea and sickness are worse when I’m busy too.

@Lexber you are absolutely a Wonder Woman. I’m so impressed that you are surviving on that little sleep, but also taking care of everyone else and organising what if bags. So glad that Elsie is doing well.

@whatwonder and @Juno231 I’m loving some of these ideas for food for freezing. It’s such a clever idea. We’re only in the clearing out the freezer to make room for sensible cooking stage, but I’ll definitely do some of these (or get DH to do- he’s a better cook!).

@Juno231 what is that nursery price? That’s probably most people’s monthly wage!! The fireplaces are cooool! I love a reno too, keep us updated!

@Minster2012 you are bossing life! I know that you have said that there’s been some struggles, but you’ve been managing everything! I second the previous advice, is there anyone that can help with the washing? Or anything else? Love the green ticks- see that proves how well you’re doing! I think I’m actually cringing at gummy BJs… surely no one wants that?

@Soph0105 ohhh! That’s wonderful news! So cute that it’s a family home. Also, I’d love a farmhouse! Will it be a working farm? One of my best friends lives on a farm (her husband is a farmer). Less good if you have to move in with in laws, but at least you’ll get to redesign the house?

@larrythelizard glad that you’re looking after yourself. Migraines are the worst, but maybe a sign to slow down as much as possible? Definitely rest and avoid the gym if needed!

@bez91 oh no! Wtf is life as a woman. Pregnancy is really not my favourite, but life after seems definitely worse.

@DKDK123 ffs! What even is that neighbour?! I’m so glad that you told him firmly (or full of rage). Some people are just far too cheeky and deserve a telling. I’m backing @Soph0105 the louder you tell, the faster people learn … or at least go somewhere else to be cheeky. Glad that Emily is doing so well.

@2020mission haha! Glad that your DH is on board with ‘losing’ the photo. I’d definitely use the room excuse for now. Aww, Matthew is adorable! So smiley.

@InkyPaper oh no! How are you after the panic attack? Have you talked to anyone about it?

@paintfairy that sounds intense. I thought they should be checking again 2 weeks later? And so frustrating that it’s the week you wanted to go away. It is probably good though that they’re not too worried.

@Franklydear glad that bossboy is being supportive, no matter what the cause!

@larrythelizard yes, doctor signed it off, and I've been off so much this year, I fear they'll get rid of me, @BellatrixK I wouldn't say supportive as such, less obstrusive, I've taken to just not do things I shouldn't and walking off for a rest without saying, so I guess he thinks might as well give his blessings to what I am going to do anyway, plus he won't want me on the rep ear again, bit yeah, I'll take it, one less fight
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@larrythelizard Crap on the migraines. Have you discussed it with the midwife? Can't they do anything?
@whatwonder Jesus. I find it bonkers that nursery lists are like this? Saying that- I've still not found a childminder. No one gets back to you?! Maybe nurseries are better at that? 🤷‍♀️ But honestly. Well done on the cooking. I'm hoping food will just magically appear? 🤣
@BellatrixK yay on the car! I did consider one of those but we went with an estate car in the end. Ours is new to us but not new, but it's still new! And much more modern than what we are used to. Its novel to have.

So- piss up. Brewery. I had a text after my last post saying my next scan is next Wednesday (a day under 2 weeks, assume because of BH). I phoned them this afternoon to check my one this Friday had been cancelled like it was meant to be (nope) so I cancelled that. Then I asked what else she had me down for. Next Wednesday. With a follow up phone call the Monday after from the consultant. Nothing else until 24 June which is the 36 week one I had in all along. So when she said 3 weeks the other night, clearly she made that up. 🤣 Which means the phonecall would be the night before we were going to go away.

So assuming they don't suddenly say something weird, we can still go. So I dunno if to book it and hope for the best? (Annoyingly it's only 50% refundable if I cancel after booking it).

@2020mission aww look at the size of Matthew now, he seems to be growing so fast (even if he is still dinky). He's adorable 😍

@InkyPaper hope you're feeling a bit better now, was it something specific that triggered your panic attack or was it completely out of the blue? Either way it must have been scary for you. Rest up and take it easy.

@Minster2012 must be the stage for them being fussy, mine hasn't been settling lately either, only time she stopped crying yesterday was when out in the pram but of course that means no rest or ability to get on with other things while you're pushing the pram 😴 I just ordered a sling to see if that gives me any respite so I can get things done as DS is off nursery now so I'm definitely going to be needing some free hands 🤞

Had to post early as it wouldn't let me copy and paste to see the next page again 🙄

@Minster2012 with you on the amount of washing, I forgot how hard one tiny person can make a washing machine work 😂 She required 3 full clothes changes yesterday from poonami incidents 💩

@paintfairy If they dont appear to be overly concerned about the growth now and think its just a small baby I'd just book your holiday, very worst case is that you need to cancel it because they want baby out (which chances of that happening right away at the next appointment are slim for it to happen that fast) and if baby is coming out you won't really care about losing the holiday money as you'll be too focused on getting to meet your baby so it would still be a happy week regardless 😊 Or alternatively wait till nearer the time but book a last minute break away somewhere after you've had your next scan.

@larrythelizard you really aren't having a good time of it with the migraines lately! Hopefully it's a pregnancy thing and once baby's here they shift.

@whatwonder fab on the batch cooking. I never got round to it and we literally lived on takeaways the first week home as we were both too tired to cook. It got to the point I couldn't stand the thought of eating another takeaway but didn't have the energy to actually cook anything, wish I'd batch cooked for that first week!

@BellatrixK that's the car I have, I like it, the boot space is definitely good for the pram, no need to fight it in!

I was so tired last night (well at 4am) I had to put DD back into the cot with wind as I was scared I was actually going to drop her from tiredness. I felt bad as I could hear her crying but I literally couldn't sit up and hold her any longer (she hadnt settled all night so I'd had no sleep) Luckily DH woke up and took over so I managed to get 2 hours sleep before he had to get ready for work. First day with DS off nursery today, so I can't even sneak in an afternoon nap later. This is going to be fun 😴 I predict lots of cartoons on netflix will be on the cards today!

Right I'll try to catch up before school run

@paintfairy personally I'd not book anything until after next scan then do last minute purely because I think I'd stress & worry more if I had something booked that I could lose 50% on & that's not great for baby to worry. However, I agree that they don't seem that overly concerned now so that's good

@whatwonder that's bloody amazing cooking!! We've still got lots left & im having some tonight as DH shooting for the day so he's out. I can confirm that the PP sweats are HORRENDOUS I'm still having them at nearly 4 weeks and they are awful

@DKDK123 yep fussy one here last night I was walking around from 9.50 to midnight. We had nights of lots of shouting ABD it turned out she was just hungry 😬

Ahhhhh need to go so will carry on in a bit

Yes bold is back, what a novelty! Checking in 😴 ...

@2020mission he's gorgeous, people are always obsessed with rolls but I love a skinny babe 🥰

@paintfairy all sounds rather confusing, They do say BH shouldn't hurt, mine were more than uncomfortable so would class them as 'painful' but it in doubt definitely get it checked. Maybe you'll have a hiccuping baby, Z definitely hiccups we much outside the womb as he did in! I'd still book the break for a few days

@larrythelizard sorry you're still suffering with migraines, you've had a lot and it's really rough. Glad all is sorted with the ELCS, kinda makes it a bit easier I suppose that the decision has been made for you so you're not on the fence which is good.

@whatwonder sounds ideal on the MIL, get her in the kitchen, maybe buy her an apron as a gift so she gets the hint?! I'm enjoying my freezer stash tbh, just would like some time now to do a bit more.

@BellatrixK some respite for you 🤞🏼 hopefully the sickness wears off as you can relax more! Off anywhere nice on holiday?

@Minster2012 @DKDK123 with you both on washing. It's raining today too so that's tomorrows job!
Fussy baby here today too, won't be put down, also DDs day off nursery. I've just managed to put him down(ish) and should be doing house things but can't move. I'm managing 4/5 hours of broken sleep which I'm grateful for because it could be a lot worse but my body just isn't used to it 😂 DD finally slept in her own bed all night last night for the first time since Z was born so hopefully if that continues DH can help out with nighttime's over the weekend and we can actually share a bed 🥳

Right back after HORRENDOUS time getting X to have chickenpox vaccine, in the process of holding him down (literally) he kicked me a few times on my scar, I'm hoping it's not done too much damage, but it is killing me & itchy as hell. Left B with my mum to do it, hoping she would do a big nap, she did ok so fortunately it was alright so first abandonment done 😳

Anyway, @bez91 that's great DD slept in her bed 🤞🏻it continues and you can bed share with DH, I'm also hoping that at some point 🤣

Sorry gonna have run argh

Me: "where is the pasta, dearest husband?"

H: "I ate it all, sorry, probably should've said. When are you doing the big shop?"

Me: "yesterday"

I am currently pausing my pasta sauce making to bury H under the patio.

Stupid husband talk...
Is you’re husband as stupid as mine? http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4557159-is-youre-husband-as-stupid-as-mine

I also have a fussy one @Minster2012, @bez91 and @DKDK123 because of her congestion 😔
@bez91 E is skinny whereas T is starting to fill out more and has little leg rolls ❤️

I'm completely exhausted and getting to the point of being sick and tired of feeling like I am doing everything for everyone whilst functioning on no sleep and also being invisible when I'm not doing something for someone... I feel absolutely shit within myself (and I keep trying to tell myself I only had twins 6 weeks ago and to stop being so hard in myself) so I'm going to try and go to slimming world in the morning in the hope of that helping me to feel better.

Oh is waking (not a morning person) after sleeping through and moaning at me about anything and nothing when I've been up and down all night some nights getting an hour or 2 sleeps, then coming home from work and moaning at me about whatever from work..
And apparently he's sick of picking up after the lad who he works with so he's not doing it at home... so I get no help because he's doing it for everyone else at work?! Are you serious?! D1ckhead!! If I'm up all night tonight im going to start digging a big 6ft sized hole behind the shed at the bottom of the garden...

I've basically in no uncertain terms just told OH after not stoping all day (including going to fetch his prescription, making everyone's tea which I've not eaten yet and now not hungry!, done 3 loads of washing and drying, been shopping, washed all bottles (11) and sterilised and prepared tonight's ready to take up, cleaned the kitchen TWICE, sorted all babies stuff, put away all other washing, sorted nappies baskets and night basket in bedroom and living room ready for later, and fed babies twice and that's only since 5pm...) until about 15 minutes ago (10.45PM) that if things don't change and I don't start getting more help I'm on a slippery slope towards PND! I know the single and I can feel myself getting more and more distant and fed up and im trying so hard to not let it happen but I honestly feel like im being pushed in that direction!

I've cried so many times over the last couple of days from being exhausted, fed up, feeling shit within myself, etc
sorry for the negative post I just needed to vent as I feel like I'm going crazy and starting to dread bed time and even thinking it'd be easier to just stay up 😔
Then dread mornings because OH is such a moaning arse in a morning when I'm already exhausted 😬😔

@bez91 great news with DDs bed, i hope she did the same tonight?

@Minster2012 hope your scar's OK and that X isn't too traumatised from the incident too. Is he usually like that with needles or wad it unexpected? It's going to sound bad but on the lead up to one of DSs older vaccines I pinched him to show him how it would hurt so it wasn't an unknown build up in his head of how painful jt would be, as he wasn't buying that it wouldn't be sore at all so I made it a relatable sore that he knew was a quick 'ow' then went away again and that definitely helped him as he knew how sore it was going to be .....if that makes sense and doesn't make me sound like a cruel mum 🙈

@Soph0105 we'll be your alibi, you were on the bus all along.....now get digging!

@Lexber the biggest of hugs, you sound completely exhausted and no wonder as it does sound like you're having to do everything! I think you need to stop asking DH to help and start directly telling him what to do. Stop making dinners tell DH that's his job, if the girls say they're hungry send them to him (make sure you have a sneaky sandwich the first few days of refusing to cook so you don't go hungry if he protests let him wait it out till he has no choice but to cook 😉). Take yourself off for an hour long bath every evening to give yourself some me time again don't ask if he'll watch the twins just tell him, I'm going for a bath they're due a feed at x time and walk off lock yourself in the bathroom away from everyone. Definitely speak to your GP if you're noticing signs of PND as the earlier they can help the better but it does sound as though you're absolutely exhausted and tired and just need a proper break and time to yourself to feel human again. Keep ranting to the bus to get it off your chest if it helps, don't worry about not having the energy to reply to others just offload on us that's what we're here for 😘

Thanks @DKDK123 ❤️❤️❤️ I think I'm just exhausted and fed up and just getting it off my chest helped.

I've booked myself a nail appointment tomorrow as mine were last done 7 weeks ago and look awful now (I have gel on my own as they break so easily otherwise) and I've just done some Next sale retail therapy while trying to settle E and ordered new jeans and converse as non of my clothes currently fit as I'm at that not pregnant no more but too podgy and jelly belly to fit old stuff and my maternity jeans are ready to fall to pieces after excess use!

Anyone looking for cheaper maternity stuff there's some in the next sale and my jeans I've worn since 10 weeks are so comfy and it's only because I wore them to death and have chunky thighs and could have possibly gone a size up (so starting to thin on the thigh seems) I can highly recommend xx

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a time of it @Lexber you sound like super woman, and are doing a sterling job. Enjoy your nail appointment later and be kind to yourself. 🤗

Aah hope you're ok @Minster2012 and that X is alright now, we had our DS vaccinated for it when he was one and I'm really glad we did.

You've inspired me @whatwonder - have bought some foil tins with lids and planning to make some chicken curry and chicken enchiladas to freeze next with - along with some banana bread granola and brown butter banana cake 🍌 theme it would seem.

Looking gorgeous in your IG post @larrythelizard !

Last day at work and 34 week midwife appointment first thing today. 😬 what the...

Oh @Lexber big hugs to you ❤️❤️❤️ as @DKDK123 said you're doing an amazing job but you do need to just tell H what to do and let him get on with it. I also have a H who is extremely busy and important and "doesn't see" what needs to be done around the house so now he just gets told and life is so much better. Sometimes I have to bite my tongue because he doesn't do things the way I like them to be done, but it's the lesser of two evils!

Meanwhile my H has been sent off to work today with a flea in his ear and a shopping list 🙄 next time it's the patio for sure!

Another day, another dog walk, @paintfairy I can drink coffee at the same time too! It's amazing the things you can do one handed!

@Soph0105 that's a lovely new patio you have there, but no pasta 😳

Shall read that one shortly @bez91

Shall we just dig a lovely big communal patio for us all to use & put all our men under it? Then sit & have lovely food and drink on it & natter in the future?? @Lexber I'm sorry your OH feels he does too much at either to then help you, that's awful. I'm pleased you told him. If he's not a morning person then could he take a late shift for the twins? Also, what can you get the other girls helping with? Washing? Cooking a meal each a week? (So that's 2 meals sorted?) like pizza or a pasta dish? Actually write a list of chores /jobs for ppl which gets stuck up. If you wrote yours on it then it would be the longest so might also show them? I think you need to get military on your approach. I'm pleased you ordered some new jeans, did you see the post on the Facebook group about clothes PP? Everyone there was saying get a new pair of jeans that fit NOW & it makes you feel a lot better

@feliznavidad2 I shall def get B vaccinated earlier, doing it as a toddler or child where they "understand" & can say no & fight is not fun. You are finished today?! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🥳🥳🥳

@DKDK123 it has been ever since his preschool jabs. The first was ok, then he got a bit upset then the 3rd I had to hold him & the needle was MASSIVE, at that point he walked out saying "I don't like doctors & nurses they are mean" & now thinks doctors are awful 😞. Unfortunately he kicked me in the scar directly a few times whilst I was holding him (I was kneeling) & I had some bleeding last night so it's not ideal. The pinching sounds like a decent idea, if only this vaccine wasn't in 2 parts it would be over now 😬

So I'm officially really stinky here. Our shower pump has broken which means no hot water or water pressure to showers. It was broken yesterday. And yes I'm still a stinking sweaty post Partum mess (glamorous as ever). Bath is ok so last night (on my own as DH out yesterday) I bathed X & Bronte & even put B in the bath with X, they were brilliant actually, it was lovely but leaning over a bath didn't do me any favours. £500 later & a new pump ordered but likely not get here til next week. We were hoping it was gonna last til we replaced all the heating/boiler/bathrooms but clearly not 🙄

@Soph0105 yeah the pasta thing would have pissed me off! But then mine the other day told me to cook spag bol (he does the shopping and does cook some days but he was at work that day) and when I came to do it there were no bloody tomatoes? Only ever half thought out!
@bez91 the sex worker thread. 🤣
@Lexber oh that sounds really tough. I think the way you feel about all of that is likely completely normal in those circumstances. OH needs to pull his head out his arse and sort himself out! Firstly you are in a relationship and its give and take, that's how it works, the people at work are irrelevant. As is anyone else. They are his kids too. But when one person is struggling your other needs to pick up the slack! And clearly you've been through a lot. If now is not a time when that's not expected, I don't know when is? And just leave things if you can't do it. Don't keep battling on.
@DKDK123 @Minster2012 the washing thing sounds unappealing. I hate washing! And what I've realised is i will have to do baby stuff separately if using different wash powder? (Fairy non bio). Whilst I can use that on our things, I wasn't going to use fabric softener on the baby stuff?

Is it normal for babies to push out of your stomach so much? I think I've realised that was part of my pain issue the other day. She's taken to stretching or something and it feels like she's trying to leave via the front! Its rather uncomfortable. I feel I could nearly hold her she's so far out. 🤣 And it hurts when she pushes lower down towards my bladder etc. Small maybe, but she's apparently part incredible hulk.....

Ahh @Lexber that's tough, you're doing amazing with 4 (5 inc DH) children! You're right don't be too hard on yourself, it's only been 6 weeks and there shouldn't be any pressure for you to feel like you have to bounce back, I've been living on rubbish just as quick fixes to hunger! Other are right, tell DH you're doing X, Y, Z and take an hour for yourself 💕 on the PND thoughts though, be open about it to as many people as you can and if you feel it's going that way insist on help from your GP and hold them to account to help you, I suffered PND after my DD and it's an awful place to be, don't hide it from everyone.

@DKDK123 yesss she slept in her own bed all night again 🥳 she woke up a few times but progress not perfection and all that, so DH got a decent nights sleep-ish, Z was a fusspot most of the night . How is Emily doing?

@Minster2012 yes injections with older children are much harder, we used to have to take DD for monthly injections for her heart defect for a couple of years. It was awful - at least babies can't see them coming. Try and rest up if you've had bleeding from your scar. What a pain on the shower argggh, always before a weekend too so it takes longer. They say a cold shower is good for you 🙈

@paintfairy I think it's normal, baby girl might be stretching her legs out and pushing their back out against your tummy. They're so bloody strong for little people

My best friend has persuaded me to meet her for coffee (and cake) taken DD to nursery and it's taken us until now to prepare to leave, I've even managed to put a bit of makeup on for the first time in almost 3 weeks. I forgot how epic leaving the house with a newborn is 🤦🏼‍♀️😆

Impressive batch cooking @whatwonder, all sounds delicious! I've lost track, have you finished work now? Lovely that you get on with your IL's...they're not staying with you for all that time are they?!

I found my nausea was a lot worse when I was tired @BellatrixK - sounds like holiday has come at a useful time for you!

Sounds like progress with DD @bez91 which has to be a relief! Well done for getting out to see your friend 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Oh @Minster2012 the CP jab sounds so tough, DS would likely be the same (although we do need to get him jabbed and just consistently don't get round to it). Any chance of some bribery for the next one? Pump going is not ideal timing, hope it arrives on time. Perhaps you should ship DH and DS off to IL's for the weekend so they can be clean and you can get a bit of a break? 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 scar is just angry and nothing more sinister.

Wow @Soph0105 i would also not be impressed!

@Lexber no wonder you're starting to feel PNDy, that is a long time with no proper sleep. I know it takes more mental energy to arrange but I'd be assigning jobs to the whole household (maybe not the twinkles) and spelling it out to them how you feel (obv age appropriate for your girls). Can you draft in any other help? Your dad? Friends? Someone to come and cuddle the babies for a couple of hours in the day so you can get some sleep?

That has flown @feliznavidad2, the finish line is in sight!!

Sounds like she's saying 'oh, you think I'm small do you, well just you see how strong I am' @paintfairy! It might just be the position she's in?

MW and consultant fairly unconcerned about my migraines, I think the normal ones are generally blood sugar levels related so no doubt next week's GTT will spike one. Annoying.

Think baby is transverse at the moment judging on where I'm feeling movements...Plenty of time for them to move and also I think I'm having an ELCS anyway so in a way it doesn't really matter.

DH not that much of an idiot here today but my mum is. She's allergic to tomatoes and they give her mega migraines. She ate some a couple of days ago and was in quite a state when she arrived here yesterday. She then didn't sleep all night. Apparently she had 4 doses of caffeinated painkillers yesterday and some coffee, no wonder she didn't sleep!

@paintfairy our washing is def worse cos of DS, we just use the same powder for all so as to make life easy and no softener! Though I got softener in the bounty free pack so no reason why you can't use on baby stuff? The pushing out def normal, remember we said about it's like the baby is auditioning for Alien?? Mine def did that!

@bez91 it takes an age to get out but worth it, enjoy! I am resting now don't worry! And excellent progress with DD 🥳

Do mega migraines run in your family then @larrythelizard but god no wonder!! I really hope your migraines disappear when baby arrives, can't believe you are still able to work out 💪🏻 as much as you do with the migraines! I'm afraid it did already involve a lot of bribery yesterday & still didn't work, he was being very cunning trying to get us outside saying "see, it says doctors are closed, so we need to go home!" He is a sly one 😂

Def a chill day here. A stinky chilled one 😂
Friends coming over tomorrow which will be great 😊