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Terrified for my 12 week scan tomorrow 😔

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Bulbasaur90 · 30/03/2022 20:55

Hi all,
I have my first scan tomorrow. I'm around 11 weeks (long cycle so dates don't match to LMP) with pregnancy 4. We have a 10 year old son and we have lost two babies in the last year. I can't help but be scared for tomorrow and the possibility that we're going to get bad news again. My husband is trying to reassure me and I know that statistically things are more likely to be positive but I just can't help it. Everytime I think about it I feel like crying because I can't stand the thought of it. The closer it gets the more scared I'm feeling. I just can't shake it off.
I just needed to get this out of my head because I feel like screaming and no-one else knows about the pregnancy yet so I have no one else to talk to about it.

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annlee3817 · 30/03/2022 22:46

Sorry for your previous losses, the first trimester is such an anxious time anyway, without having been through that before. Hope all goes well at your scan tomorrow and that it's an early one

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Bulbasaur90 · 31/03/2022 05:56

@annlee3817 Thank you ❤ I've been so positive up until now but I think knowing today will "make or break it" as it were is just terrifying. The appointment is at 15.50 😔 I'm at work and asked for the latest possible appointment so I didn't have to tell anyone. So lots of waiting but at least I can keep busy.

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TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 31/03/2022 05:58

I'm so sorry for your previous losses. Will be thinking of you today, I'm sure all will be ok x

Roseandgeranium · 31/03/2022 06:03

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I also had two miscarriages within a year between my first and second babies and the run up to the 12 week scan in that second successful pregnancy was so anxious. Is there anything you can reassure yourself with? In my case, my pregnancy symptoms were markedly different between successful and unsuccessful pregnancies so that was something to hold on to. But I know that’s not true for all women. Either way, wishing you the best of luck. I’ll be thinking of you at 4pm.

Pamparam · 31/03/2022 06:21

Best of luck. I’ve had two late first trimester losses and both made themselves known before the scan, so I feel no news is good news, im sure you’ll be fine but sending best wishes x

Jessasamantha · 31/03/2022 06:27

I’m so sorry for your losses. I have been where you are and thought I was going to be physically sick sitting in the waiting room for my 12 week scan after a miscarriage. I could not imagine a positive outcome. But all was fine and she is now a heathy 12 year old. I’m sure yours will be fine too. Try to keep yourself busy and distracted until the scan - fingers crossed for you. X

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Bulbasaur90 · 31/03/2022 06:54

@Pamparam @TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo @Jessasamantha @Roseandgeranium Thank you all ❤ things have been going well so far and I feel like I've had a lot more symptoms than with my two losses so I'm trying to stay hopeful. It's just really hard to be positive after everything.

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hopefulsunshine11 · 31/03/2022 08:19

@Bulbasaur90 Good luck! ✨ x

Cakecakecheese · 31/03/2022 08:35

I very much understand your anxiety. I've also had losses and still can't quite believe I've got this far. People can say 'it's going to be ok' all they like but the only thing that will help is seeing your baby. I have everything crossed for you that it's going to be good news.

I had a private scan at 17 weeks to break up the wait between the 12 week and 20 week ones so that might be an idea if it's possible for you.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 31/03/2022 08:38

Ttc is an absolute minefield op.. Good luck.

ChateauMargaux · 31/03/2022 08:41

I am so sorry you are going through this and I hope you get good news this afternoon. In the meantime, breath, take breaks from work when you need, keep yourself distracted.

fineappleglasgow · 31/03/2022 09:15

This was me OP (though I had one loss rather than two, I think a lot of the same feelings you are describing).

The waiting was just awful. I think it is hard when the thought of bad news is so vivid for you, from recent experiences of loss and the more likely good news seems so hard to imagine.

I had convinced myself my pregnancy had ended, and had even started to prepare my DH for 'bad news' (when my symptoms reduced prior to the scan).

I didn't imagine it could go well, but now over half way there and feeling more relaxed.

Thinking of you this afternoon and hope you get good news.

Favourodds · 31/03/2022 09:17

Oh, poor you. I was crying at the start of my 12 week scan for similar reasons. Typing this watching my 18 month old cause chaos in the bath. Good luck, good luck ❤️

Greedy7 · 31/03/2022 09:26

Hi @Bulbasaur90 I hope you're okay. It's harder said than done when people tell you to stay positive isn't it. Is your husband going with you tomorrow? I have my dating scan tomorrow as well. I was bleeding last week and had an emergency scan but everything was fine then. I've been worrying so much since. Since I got pregnant something has just felt completely different than my last.
I'm thinking it's a boy as it's causing trouble already.
Have you thought about having a gender scan at 15/16 weeks? I think I'm going to have one. There's no way I can go another 8 weeks until my next scan I'm on pins as it is. I know it's hard to think past tomorrow.
I'm sure everything is going to be okay. Please update us tomorrow xx

ChateauMargaux · 31/03/2022 10:17

Is your partner going with you? Maybe you could write and print a short message to hand to the person at the desk and the radiographer to let them know your situation and that you would prefer not to make small talk.

Nikki037297 · 31/03/2022 10:20

So sorry for your losses. I had two losses ina. Row then 3rd time I carried a beautiful healthy baby to term he’s almost 4. Please try not to worry

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Bulbasaur90 · 31/03/2022 13:25

Thank you so much to everyone for all of your kind words ❤ it means the world.
I will try to reply to everyone as best I can in one post.
My husband is coming with me today. Makes a huge difference that I'm not going on my own like I did with the first one I lost.
I like the idea of booking a private scan between this one and the next so will definitely check that out.
I think once I see baby I will be fine but that horrible nagging doubt is just drumming away at me. Roll on 4pm is all I can say!

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CopperLily · 31/03/2022 13:30

Best wishes for today. I've been in a similar situation myself, I has 2 missed miscarriages before having my first baby. I felt like throwing up prior to each scan and had many sleepless nights, it's utterly terrifying and consumes you.

2022IamHavingYa · 31/03/2022 13:44

Thinking of you today x

lunar1 · 31/03/2022 14:03

I've been where you are, sending positive thoughts your way.

DuckaLucka · 31/03/2022 14:09

Best of luck op

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 31/03/2022 14:10

Good luck x

coffeebabes · 31/03/2022 17:55

Hope it went okay for you today Thanks

AchillesPoirot · 31/03/2022 17:56

Hope it went ok op Flowers

momtoboys · 31/03/2022 17:57

I hope all is well.