Navigating pregnancy after loss

[Cruz86]

Just setting this up so we can move all pregnancy-related stuff from the TTC after miscarriage thread.

@aesgriff @speake @Bridgey8 @Prayingformyrainbow93 @mrshodgy21 @Skl2021 @Ganesh2022 @HoneyLemon29 @bunnykins123 @theblueflowers

Please tag anyone else I have missed, this is as much as my brain can handle 😂

@Ganesh2022 thankyou so much ✨ sorry to hear your update. I hope your ok 💕 take care of yourself. Were here if u need us 💞 xx

@Ganesh2022 so sorry to hear this update. Sending love and hugs xx

My pregnancy symptoms have all gone today and I have some spotting. Not looking good. Do gutted. X

@Ganesh2022 sending you a big hug. I’m sorry the world is so cruel and unfair. Here if you need us and take as much care of yourself as you can xx♥️♥️

@Cruz86 it was lovely thank you! How was your weekend? How are you feeling?? Xx

@Skl2021 how are you feeling today? Xx

@Hhdxx how many weeks are you? Could you book a private scan? I’ve got barely any symptoms and a scan at 7 weeks showed fingers crossed all was ok xx

Oh my goodness @Ganesh2022, I am so sorry to hear this 😞 We're all here if you need us. Thinking of you and sending lots of love xx

I'm sure it is @Skl2021 😞 Did you decide on another scan or are you going to wait until your 12 week one?

@Hhdxx sorry you've started spotting. I had a little bit yesterday as well which is worrying. How far are you now?

@aesgriff glad you had a good time! I'm okay thank you, just preparing myself for the worst on Thursday. I wasn't feeling too bad last week but now that we're in a new week, I'm really starting to worry 😞 How are you?

Xx

@Ganesh2022 I’m so sorry to hear this, take care of yourself 🤍

@Cruz86 @Hhdxx I know it’s a lot easier said than done but try not to panic, so far everyone that has had a little bit of spotting has been ok. The midwife told me on Friday that a lot of people bleed in early pregnancy but it’s only the very small minority where it ends up to be something bad. I know that’s none of our experience previously but try to think positive 🤍

@Skl2021 hope you’re feeling a bit better today xxx

@aesgriff glad you had a great weekend xxx

@aesgriff I'm just over 6 weeks. I've done a pregnancy test and it looks like it's getting lighter than yesterday.

@Cruz86 6 weeks.

Got a scan booked for tomorrow morning as I'm a high risk for ectopic pregnancy x

@Hhdxx so sorry your spotting I hope your ok it's not always bad news nearly all of us have had it. Keeping everything crossed for you. 💕 Xx

@aesgriff I'm extremely tired which doesn't help my mood. Keep checking everytime I go to the toilet 😣 so scared! X

@Cruz86 sorry you have had spotting aswell I hope your ok. No I couldn't get one until I was 11 weeks and then I might aswell wait until 12 so didn't bother. It won't change the outcome just trying to keep telling myself that xx

@speake thankyou I'm tired it's so draining! Hope your ok 💕 xx

Thank you for the reassurance @speake. It's weird because my mc didn't start off with spotting but I just can't help but see it as a bad thing 😩 My back is starting to ache now as well.

Does anyone look like they're already about 4 months pregnant? I'm trying so hard to breath in but I just can't 😂

@Hhdxx im glad you've got a scan tomorrow! Good luck, I hope it all goes well.

That is very true @Skl2021, no matter what we try and do, we can't change anything. At my scan last week the sonographer said "the fate of this pregnancy has already been chosen" 😩

Xx

@Cruz86 omg as if they said that! I think I would of broke down right there doesn't sound good does it 🤦not what u want to hear when your already worried xx

@Cruz86 I definitely feel like I’ve got the noticeable beginnings of a bump too but it could just be bloat 🙈 I am on the steroids though so they do make you gain weight / retain water… already feel like I can’t face wearing jeans over my leggings 😂 Literally didn’t have a bump with my daughter until 20+ weeks, very different this time 🙈 xxx

I will let you guys know tomorrow. Thank you for your support.
I don't suppose you know if partners can go or not? When I was pregnant with my daughter, my husband couldn't come to any of the scans. Xxx

@Hhdxx is it with epu? My oh came with me to mine xx

@Cruz86 Yep, huge. Nothing with baby number 1 til about 20 weeks, number 2 I was in maternity jeans before 12 weeks, and now? Massive. Hence why I'm worried I'm further along than I think. Or just fat. Or it's twins. Delete as applicable!

@Skl2021yes it's with epu. Unfortunately, when my daughter was born who sadly died, I was by myself because of COVID so I've become immune to being by myself with these things. I was also by myself when I had my induced miscarriage last year!

@Hhdxx I cant even imagine what u went through alone I would definitely take him don't do it alone 💕 hope he's allowed in xx

@skl2021 I'm not sure if anything can be seen at 6 weeks? He's got half a day holiday left now so don't want him to use it on this.

@Hhdxx I have never had one that early sorry so not much help 🙈 I know some people have seen heartbeats at 6 weeks. So must be able to see something? Xx

I'm hoping so. I'll let you know. Thank you for talking to me ❤️ It's such a difficult time. Xxx

@Hhdxx will be thinking of you 💕 xx

Do you mind if I join?
Currently 6+1 and wracked with anxiety.
I had an utterly horrific mmc in Oct (emergency surgery, blood transfusions, the lot) and 2 mc previous to that. It's fair to say 2021 wasn't a great year and I'm very thankful to still be here!

I'm being looked after under the miscarriage clinic, they've booked me in for a early scan next week as I'm going on holiday (delayed from 2020), but it doesn't feel comforting.

We had an early scan with the mmc and saw a heartbeat so you can imagine the shock when I went for the dating scan (had to attend alone due to covid procedure)

How do you cope with the anxiety? The clinic have given me some "tips" but they feel a bit ridiculous!

Afternoon everyone. Hope everyone's doing okay?
I feel my tiredness is so out of control I've just been woken by the EPU ringing and was so disorientated on the phone 😅
I've just got levels back from yesterday after the scan, so far they've gone
15DPO 884
17DPO 2406
19DPO (42 hours later) 5456
Scan still in place for 13 days unless I get negative symptoms 😮‍💨