Finding out gender tomorrow

[toxitears181]

So exited but nervous about finding out sex tomorrow anyone else in same boat :)?? I have a boy already and would love a girl but just want a healthy baby thats all that matters! :)

The way i see it is if your born male your male and if your born female your female if you choose to change that later in life to whatever the fuck you want to be then fine but why oh why are people attacking me about this bollocks its the logic of science your either born male or female and gender has always been a term used im not gonna stop using it now!

Thankyou for the lovely people commenting who arnt judging me i appreciate it 😘

@PineappleCakes

FGS it's the sex not the gender This.

I sometimes look at these "gender reveal" threads and do wonder at the posters lazy casual use of language. OP, it's not about being "offended" - if you think that's the case, console yourself with the possibility that your son may change his gender in the future and you will have a girl after all.

Good luck with your healthy children.

The majority of people in the world believe that gender is not fluid, but is inextricably tied to sex. That is why the terms are used interchangeably.

@toxitears181

Im actually laughing at how pathetic people are 🤣 i came here to see if others are finding out what there having tomorrow as its nice to show other women support and have a chat!

how sad do you have to be to moan about someone writing gender instead of sex when you knew exactly what i was on about anyway! Absolutely pathetic get a grip

Sometimes, in order to not cry, we have to laugh.

Congratulations and good luck!

@toxitears181

Thankyou to the lovely people that have congratulated me and not been patronising A holes about me using the word gender i much appreciate it 💕

The world is becoming mental why do people give a fuck weather i put sex or gender my god lay off me 🤣

This happened to me one time🤣🤣🤣 I said gender instead of sex and people were literally in the comments CRYING. It’s actually pathetic. The worst thing is, is during both of my pregnancies the sonographers have said ‘would you like to know the gender’ and not ‘would you like to know the sex’ it really isn’t that deep!

I have a 10 month old girl and found out we’re having a boy so that’s nice to have both🙌 Just praying for a healthy baby regardless so I hope all goes well and you find out you could be having a girl🙂

Congratulations on your pregnancy

Just knew before clicking in that the "gender police" would be in! Take no notice OP.

Hope your scan goes ok tomorrow, please come back to update and let us know if it's Pink or Blue! We will deal with the gender associated colour bashing afterwards 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

Thankyou @babyhaha and honestly ive never seen anything so ridiculous im sorry you were harassed by people like that! Its so unnecessary its like they are trying to bring you down this post was meant to be a nice thread of people sharing there excitement and ended up being a massive bitch fest 😂

Thankyou im so exited i appreciate your comment ❤️

@motherland101 i will definitely update tomorrow ❤️❤️ the gender police can cry a bit more tomorrow on the gender of my baby ay 😉

Seasidemummy77 thankyou 🥰

Gender is a sociocultural concept. I think some people do decide that in utero that their aim will be to raise their children with as stereotypical gender norms for their culture as possible so they buy everything blue and trucks for boys and everything pink and sparkly for girls. At their gender reveals, they use pinks and blues and stereotypical gender norms. Their girls will get dolls and princesses and pinks and purples and bows and glitter and their boys will get blues and greens and trucks and dinosaurs and sports etc.

For these people, it is a gender reveal - it is a reveal of how they intend to try and entrench stereotypical gender norms in their child to meet the idea of how a male or female child should act and what they should or shouldn't like.

For others, it is finding out sex - if the baby will be male or female. And if their girl ends up liking trucks or blue or their boy ends up liking pink or dolls then they are fine with that.

The majority of people in the world believe that gender is not fluid, but is inextricably tied to sex. That is why the terms are used interchangeably.

Pretty sure the majority of the world, unless they are experts in sexism, believe gender to be absolutely made up bollocks.

The only reason they are (wrongly) interchanged is because sex also means something else and people get embarrassed saying it. How many scans do you think clinics would sell if they called them “sex scans”? It’s not right, but in marketing terms it sells.

Good luck op. Congratulations.

I knew the sex not gender thing would come up, didn't expect it in the first comment 😂

Just wait until you use vagina instead of vulva!

@ShirleyPhallus

Just wait until you use vagina instead of vulva!

This was meant to be a wink!

I'm convinced that some people go on to the pregnancy board purely to 'correct' people when they use gender instead of sex - if that's all you have to add to the discussion then why bother?
If you want to have a go at someone, perhaps start writing to the private scan companies that refer to it as a "Gender Scan" 🙄

OP - Congratulations! Fingers crossed you can find out what you're having tomorrow - update us once you know.

I have a wee boy and we found out in January that this pregnancy we're having a Girl!

@Midlifemusings

Gender is a sociocultural concept. I think some people do decide that in utero that their aim will be to raise their children with as stereotypical gender norms for their culture as possible so they buy everything blue and trucks for boys and everything pink and sparkly for girls. At their gender reveals, they use pinks and blues and stereotypical gender norms. Their girls will get dolls and princesses and pinks and purples and bows and glitter and their boys will get blues and greens and trucks and dinosaurs and sports etc.

For these people, it is a gender reveal - it is a reveal of how they intend to try and entrench stereotypical gender norms in their child to meet the idea of how a male or female child should act and what they should or shouldn't like.

For others, it is finding out sex - if the baby will be male or female. And if their girl ends up liking trucks or blue or their boy ends up liking pink or dolls then they are fine with that.

WOW!!

I'm convinced that some people go on to the pregnancy board purely to 'correct' people when they use gender instead of sex

They come up in Active Threads.

Language evolves through usage, not through individuals or groups dictating how certain words must be used. "Gender" is widely used interchangeably with "sex", therefore it is acceptable to them as synonyms. Over time, it may become so interchangeable that the two meanings conflate, or the opposite might happen. The fact is, language change is not prescriptive, and we must be very careful to not create a society where word usage is policed, as this is a means by which groups can control individuals' thinking. The few societies which have opted to police language have proven to be autocratic and oppressive ones.

@WouldIBeATwat

I'm convinced that some people go on to the pregnancy board purely to 'correct' people when they use gender instead of sex

They come up in Active Threads.

Because people are commenting on it, the first comment was about the use of gender.

Regardless, I don't see the point on coming in a thread where an OP is clearly excited about her baby just to add the "it's sex not gender" - nothing helpful to say and all that

Good luck for tomorrow, exciting times!

@stampontheground thankyou 🥰

@Lambkin689
The fact is, language change is not prescriptive, and we must be very careful to not create a society where word usage is policed, as this is a means by which groups can control individuals' thinking.

That's a really interesting post. Because from where I'm sitting, it seems that because in the past words like sex & gender have been used interchangeably, we have found ourselves in a current position where the word woman is being redefined. So how do you draw the line between "policing" language but not controlling individuals' thinking?

If I'm being told to accept that the new definition of "women" should include males, then surely that is "controlled" thinking?