Friend won't see me because of my son

[Louisedaily123]

Hi,

I have no idea if I'm posting this in the right place but I really need some help.

I have a very close friend who's family member suffered a loss about 18 months ago. They've refused to see me throughout my entire pregnancy and whilst my son has been born (he's 7 months) I offered to see her without my son but that wasn't allowed either.

She would text but never about my pregnancy/son and I've tried to be as kind and supportive as possible by never saying a word about him and now it's escalated to not wanting to talk at all really.

Can anyone help me in what to do? I'm absolutely heartbroken. I have a lot of sympathy and I wasn't expecting to cause so much pain to people through having children. It's such new territory and I feel like I'm getting everything wrong and it's leading to me having huge emotions and I'm struggling a lot with it. Has anyone experienced this and know of any therapies/books/podcasts etc that might help overcome this feeling of guilt?

Thanks x

Everyone deals with loss in their own way, but this sounds a bit much.

I am dealing with infertility and many other things, pregnancy announcements can and do break me, some days photos of babies make me cry.

And if this person has suffered a loss, I understand. Are you sure the loss was from a family member and not hers? Is it possible she is dealing with infertility atm? Because of her reactions that is what i understand.

Either way, seems like you've done plenty to support you're friend! You shouldn't feel bad, you can text her once in a while to check in but dont expect an answer. Maybe at some point she will come back and explain herself, because this reaction seems a bit much for a family's loss.

Congratulations on your little angel 😍