So basically I am a single mum of 1.
Her father and I split last year, and have recently been getting close again. Which has resulted in me finding myself pregnant.
I am on birthcontrol but had a stomach bug earlier this month (my guess is this resulted in me throwing by my pill).
I have a few anxieties about being pregnant, and wanted to get some reassurances and advice from people whilst I figure things out.
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I have no idea if us growing closer is going to result in us getting back together, it hasn’t been discussed. Over Christmas he said a few things that made me think maybe something could come from it but I don’t know whether the timing is right… so I have no idea how he would take this news.
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Things got tense at the end, his family and mine were both very unhappy due to him walking out on us when our daughter was so young. Ultimately they all concluded he ran away from responsibility and the need to be a ‘proper adult’ because he was scared of all the changes to his life due to being a dad now.
This makes me nervous about how any of them would take the news of me being pregnant if this pregnancy goes ahead.
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As a single mum. Can I do this? Can I cope? My little girl is amazing and does so well, she is breastfed. Feeds before naps and at night for bed time, but rarely (unless unwell) feeds at other times. Until recently we’ve not had the space so she has co-slept, but now I have a place with a room for her, so intend to move her into there. How would she cope with a new baby? How would I cope if she struggled? How will I manage with her whilst pregnant?
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During the time we had split things got tricky with our co-parenting due to a girl he saw for a while (she hated him spending any prolonged time with myself and our daughter, had issue with any things we did together as a family, kicked off for me posting things to do with him and our child on special occasions and thinks me being in contact with any of his family etc is unfair and inappropriate).
He still talks to her but they are not together, we he doesn’t think they could ever work because of her issues with how we want to raise our daughter. But due to how she behaved (she is younger than us both) I am anxious of what her reaction and response will be. She has admitted to trying to cause a rift between us before, during and after they were together in the hopes I cut him out of my life because it’s ‘not fair’ that I seem to be ‘entitled’ to having him around and she blames me spending time with him for our daughters sake for ruining their relationship.
To be clear we have not been involved sexually with one another whilst he was seeing anyone.
I am nervous of everything ahead, reactions of others especially.
I don’t think I could cope mentally with a termination and I will talk about it but i fear anyone trying to push me to decide on that. It is something that personally I am very against.