IVF Pregnancies (thread 2)

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I've definitely missed people, but hoping I've got everyone who's been active recently. Apologies if not!

Sorry that you’re having the same worries and fears @Begoniagal7 begoniagal3 it’s a tough rollercoaster of emotions. Definitely understand the feeling of just wanting baby here now.

@CurbsideProphet Great that you have a plan and it must be a relief to know there’s a date when you’ll definitely have baby by 🙂 how exciting! Your DH sounds great!

I’m toying with the idea of a caesarean too. I wouldn’t have an induction, so don’t know whether to book a caesarean for 39 weeks or leave it a bit later to see how things go naturally.

@GodspeedJune I said no to induction which my Consultant was fine with. She said statistically planned c section is safer for mum and baby between 39 - 40 weeks. I had originally intended to wait another week, but I trust my Consultant and tbh I'm pretty exhausted from the waiting and worrying so I'm glad the date has been chosen for me.

My DH is worried and impatient so I think he just wants to be at the stage where we're home and he can look after us and share the load of making sure baby is ok. He's a bit of a prepper so filling the freezer is the perfect activity for him!

@CurbsideProphet I had a booked ELCS at 39+1 and it was a really wonderful experience. I just had no appetite to try vaginal birth after 6 rounds of IVF. We’ve established my body does not know what to do 😂despite my hypnobirthing yoga teacher telling us this week after week.

From my antenatal course where hypnobirthing and birth choices were taught really well, there are 2 of us out of 10 who think they had a “good” birth and I’m one of them which I was really, really surprised about.

My little girl has just passed the 11 week mark. It’s mostly been great albeit she is a real Velcro baby during the day. I don’t know about anyone else but I honestly just can’t believe my luck that we finally got here. Every time we go to a baby class or I push her buggy down the high street it still feels totally surreal.

Yes! I have 2 now, and whilst some days can be looong, I'm just so grateful. I genuinely feel our fertility struggles have made it even better. I know not everyone feels that way - ivf mums aren't insulated from the difficulties of looking after babies - but I feel very lucky on a daily basis and have to pinch myself that I'm a mum sometimes 😊

@CurbsideProphet I’m booked for a caesarean at 39 weeks as well. Consultant said She didn’t want me going much past due to my age and I wasn’t keen on an induction. (First baby was an induction that ended in caesarean). It’s nice to know I have a date to meet baby although it still feels like forever away.

I am reassured that planned caesareans are much safer for mum and baby than emergencies and the recovery is also much better as you’re not knackered from the physical and emotional efforts of labour.

How often are you all seeing your consultant? I haven’t seen one since 26 weeks (I have so far no complications besides age/IVF) to sign consents and have just one midwife visit remaining before the caesarean. MW told me I’d hear from the hospital about attending for bloods and pre medications but haven’t heard anything yet and I’m booked in two weeks…?

That's lovely to read thank you @Porridgeislife 🙂🙂

@begoniagal3 I've seen my Consultant at 20 / 28 / 32 / and last week at 35 weeks. However I'm on the high risk plan for my epilepsy and not the fact that I've had IVF.

I saw my midwife today and had a good chat about things, as I've been feeling nervous about the next few weeks. Her advice is that however baby comes I should try to keep in the positive mindset that this is how baby intends to meet me 🙂 So if I go into labour before the planned c section I should get my head into gear and go with it. Apparently if I went into labour before 39 weeks but wanted a c section I would have to wait on a ward for a day or so to get a theatre slot. I would find that much harder than going to a quiet room just for me on delivery suite.
Equally if he's not budged and I'm on for the c section I should also see it as what is supposed to happen.

Hi everyone,

A belated message to let you know we had our little miracle on the 12th September. We had an 8lb7oz girly, unfortunately born my forceps at 5pm after I laboured with TENS machine, birth pool and gas and air from 10pm the night before. It’s been an incredibly overwhelming 2 weeks but have so much love for her.

Hope you’re all well x

Huge congratulations @2mumlife! 🎊 Hope all is going well ❤️

Hope you and baby are recovering well @2mumlife 💐

Hi! I'm 6 weeks pregnant through ivf..! I don't have any infertility problems but Unfortunately my husband has. Because of many surgeries he has done for the large intestine the doctors has done big damage and he can't produce sperm since he was 18. I am very healthy and very fertile 32 years old woman. We have done ivf 3 times. The first 2 I lost the babies because the embryos wasn't good. This time we went to another famous clinic and it worked the first try. I am now 6 weeks and we are going to do the scan in a few days. We put 2 high quality embryos. My high levels are very very high. I think I have twins. But we will see! I have all the pregnancy symptoms and they hit me hard! I hope there are two babies there. Has anyone gone though ivf these September and has succeeded? And if you are having twins, did you suspect it? I wish all the women who struggling with infertility all the good luck in the world!! I have gone through very hard times and I don't have a problem . I know I can't do it again. You are very brave women that you are doing it many many times. I admire you! I'm newly married too. Only 3 months in to marriage. Please any woman who has succeeded recently with twins help me out! Thank you!

Hello everyone, just to let you know that I had my baby boy on Wednesday morning 🙂 I had a c section and was a bit poorly afterwards with my blood pressure and then a bleed, but that was all dealt with quickly and calmly and I was able to start breastfeeding just a few hours later. We're home now and just cuddled up together. It all felt a bit surreal and fraught in hospital but he feels like mine now 💙

Congratulations @CurbsideProphet! 🎉 Hope you're healing well. Enjoy this special time (as best you can with sleep deprivation etc!) Xx

@CurbsideProphet That’s wonderful news! Congratulations to you! So pleased your little one is here safe and well, and hope you’re recovering well at home too. 🥰

Thanks so much 💐
Hope everyone is ok 💐
Won't lie the nights are hard as he wants to feed or be held continuously. DH and I have started a routine where we're all upstairs together and he sleeps while I feed / shush until approx 4am then he takes baby downstairs and cuddles until baby will go in his moses basket. He then sleeps on our comfy sofa while I'm asleep upstairs in bed. My midwife thinks we should all stay upstairs all night, but I would never get any sleep otherwise 🤔

Ignore your midwife. You do what works as long as your baby is safe and everything is easier with adequate sleep. I bed-share. I know that's a personal decision based on individual circumstances but it works for us. It won't be forever 💐

@CurbsideProphet massive congrats and welcome baby xx

@CurbsideProphet bizarre that your midwife even has an opinion to be honest- do what you need to do to get through the nights. A shift system is totally normal- very common amongst my friends. For us, DH has always moved out of the bedroom for the first 3-4 months until a routine is more established, as I've breastfed and we take the view that it's better to have at least one of us not knackered 🤣. It's also means I don't have to creep around in the night or fight the internal rage at his snoring! He then picks up more of the slack around the house/with the older kids. Works for us and no one has ever questioned or enter on it.

Thank you all 🌟 I think feeling poorly with anaemia after my PPH (plus the general c section recovery) left me feeling quite vulnerable and unsure of myself. I'm less stressed sitting listening to podcasts holding my baby while he sleeps rather than constantly putting him down and listening to him cry.

The early days are difficult sleep-wise, and made so much worse by trying to follow every guideline and piece of advice out there. Sounds like your baby is safe and you've found a way for everyone to get sleep, so don't listen to the midwife. We all have our own ways that work for us, and you'll be out of this stage before you know it.

Mine is 4 months now. They change so quickly! 😭

@Holskey my DH is asleep now and is going to take him down at 4am, so we can both have approx 5 hours. We've also said we will have our first short walk out with the pram for fresh air and then try for a rest in the afternoon.

@begoniagal3 and @GodspeedJune have you had your babies now? Hope all is well.

I’ve been absent on this thread for a few months now but really appreciated the advice and moral support from you all throughout the ivf journey and early pregnancy. Our miracle daughter was induced at 36w due to suspected placenta insufficiency and emerged 25 sept weighing 5lb 6oz. It’s been a tough few weeks but she’s healthy and now steadily gaining weight 😀. It’s wonderful to hear about the other arrivals