When did you tell parents about your pregnancy??

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I'm only 4 weeks pregnant, but I would quite like to tell my parents on Christmas that we are having a baby. But my husband wants to wait just in case. Which I do understand but if something bad happened we would tell them anyway. Out of Curiosity what would you do??

We told our parents as soon as we found out, like you say if anything happened we would have wanted their support anyway. Telling your parents doesn’t mean you need to tell everyone else, particularly if they will keep it to themselves.

And congratulations! X

We waited until we had the 12 week scan, and excited parents didn't keep their mouths shut about it as suspected so I am glad we waited.

My DB and SIL told everyone at 5 weeks and unfortunately suffered a miscarriage news of which didn't go round to everyone and led to some painful foot in the mouth situations from well meaning relatives.

I told my mum straight away and she told everybody else. And I mean the postman, the local nurse, her friends, my sisters friends... having had a couple of misses I could have done without it but it worked out ok.

I told my mum as soon as the positive pregnancy test appeared. I couldn't have got away with not anyway because of drinking. We waited a few more days to tell the in laws, DH was so desperate to tell them, all of them kept their mouths shut until after the 12 weeks scan.

My mum told me I was pregnant before I'd realised myself

As soon as I found out, with the proviso it was very early days

Someone excitedly told me he was going to be a grandad… and then his daughter had an abortion. So that was tricky for him.

We told our parents at the same time (ish), between 8-10 weeks. I liked the news being “mine” for a bit first.

We told my husband’s parents very early on (very close to them). We won’t tell my parents until after 12 week scan because they will literally tell the entire world via Facebook and we wanted close friends and family to find out in person first.

We had an early scan around 11 weeks as it coincided with going down to visit family (but before our NHS scan). Wanted to be sure the pregnancy was as viable as possible as I would have been crushed to have told them early and then that we lost it due to whatever reason.

My mum was a midwife for 35 years. She knew before I did and had already briefed her old colleagues that were still working in the hospital I was on my way! In fact I had to be consultant led and she came to most appointments just to have a catchup with the consultant as she knew her from her when she was training. 😂
This time round I plan to put my daughter in a big sister tshirt. She's 7 and will love it. (When I eventually fall pregnant that is).

After our 12 week scan. I just didn't want to get excited before that and I know they would have been!

I had an early scan at ten weeks and told them then, I'd read that if baby has a heart beat at 10 weeks the chances were we'd make it through the rest of pregnancy so I felt like a good time to share. My mum is lovely but would have been far far too excited not to tell half the world If I'd told her early. This time we did the same scan about 9 weeks, checked baby right size for dates and heart rate and then told the parents told everyone else around 16 weeks. I didn't even know I was pregnant till 5/6 weeks with either of them though so it want long to wait to get scanned. I would have probably told my parents if I had a miscarriage but not wider friends and family so for me it felt more comfortable to wait, also then it wasn't such a long pregnancy for them all as they didn't know till 25% through :) you will know what's right for you :)

I told my parents about 5 minutes after the positive test. The in-laws after the 12 week scan. I think if you are really close to your family there is no harm in telling them, just stress how early it still is.

Totally depends on what feels right to you & your relationship with the people you're telling.
We told my parents immediately, we were going to wait a bit but I work with them & they knew we were trying so it would've been difficult to hide for long anyway (& my husband told his parents immediately so I didn't want to leave mine out!)
They aren't Facebook people & my mum had many early miscarriages so they were never going to tell anyone else before we were comfortable.
If I'd had a miscarriage I would have told my mum - if you would share this with someone that's probably a good gauge of whether you can tell them as soon as you know you're pregnant.
We waited until 12 week scan to tell the rest of family/friends though I still felt nervous until 20 weeks so might have kept it a secret until then but we got some pressure to share the news & honestly most people we told were surprised we'd waited until 12 weeks to tell them - which I find bizarre so assume they would have been shocked if we'd waited until 20 weeks!

I was 15 and my mum asked me🙈🙈
There definitely wasn't any Congratulations. I can still remember my mum standing at the kitchen sink doing the dishes with tears rolling down her face I could tell you what she was wearing 30 years later.)

Mine was an ivf baby that we waiting for 4 years. My dad supported me through it all so I told him stright after my partner that it had worked. It was the second attempt bless him we were all in shock. Didn't tell mam till later tho as she can't keep her mouth shut xxx

I told my parents last Thursday, 4 days after I found out. Will be telling my brother and SIL and DH telling his parents tomorrow. BUT, with the big proviso that it is SUCH early days (I’m only 5 weeks) so please don’t tell anyone/ get too excited.

We were told that we would find it very hard to conceive and that due to my low AMH levels, we wouldn’t be eligible for IVF on the NHS so tbh, DH and I have been feeling pretty despondent and everyone knew this as knew what had been said. So, I think for us, it’s more a case of telling our nearest and dearest ‘Look, we have actually managed to get pregnant naturally. No matter what happens at least we can take some comfort in that.’ So it’s more of an announcement that hey, we’ve managed to get pregnant, woohoo!

I wanted to wait until 12 weeks every time but l was so sick straight away l had to tell my dps as felt so miserable and no way l could hide that. I also just needed someone to cry to when feeling so sorry for myself.
A few times in work l have strongly suspected someone was pregnant but obviously said nothing.

My mother told me I was pregnant when I had barely peed on the stick. She’s had four children and apparently just knew. I tried to deny it but within a few days the gig was up as I had HG so was hospitalised with severe dehydration. I found having my mother knowing made my pregnancy easier because she literally, alongside my husband, wrapped me up in cotton wool.

I also knew, should the worst happen; my mum will be a massive shoulder to cry on.

I knew though this pregnancy would work out, I had a dream of my deceased father waving and looking so happy and what appeared to be, him holding a baby. I also had my booking in appointment on my fathers death anniversary and, first time I wasn’t upset. It was fate!

I’d only tell your parents if you’re confident they’re not going to blab to others (husband side are notorious for telling our business to everyone).

Honestly I think if there's somebody you would tell if the worst happened, then there's no reason not to share the news with them as early as you like.
We shared our news with our parents and my siblings on Christmas Day at 9 weeks pregnant; but they were sworn to secrecy until after our dating scan.

After the scan.

But for me, if something had happened before that, I wouldn’t have told them - I didn’t with my first pregnancy which ended in a miscarriage. If I was going to tell them if something happened, then I’d probably tell them sooner.

I told mine on Christmas last year :) it was lovely, lots of excitement and tears and 'I knew something was different about you' was the first grandchild so extra exciting for them.

12 weeks with first child. When I was about 7 weeks with DC2 parents were visiting for the day when DC1 came out in lots of chickenpox spots. My anxiety about it and asking my mum if she was very very sure that I'd had chickenpox as a child gave the game away. They were sworn to secrecy and did respect that. It was actually for the best as I had horrible sickness and they really helped out with toddler, much more than I'd have wanted to ask them to.

I was about 15/16 weeks when we told people but I didn't want all the attention and would have told them later - DH wanted to tell them and I was happy to go along with it.