Anyone due late dec (thread 4)

[jadey1991]

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@Theawkwardblonde thanks, I feel ok with it. Just feels like a cold.

@Theawkwardblonde glad all is well. That's lovely to hear hun.. I'm not planning on having anymore babies now. The age gap between mine are 13, 7 and 6 weeks old. So there is a huge gap. It took me and very long time to conceive. X

@2020mission aww bless you.. Matthew will have a sibling soon. I'm actually scared to have sex. That's due to my birthing experience and the fact it's been so long since we have had sex. Last time we did have sex was when I was around 6months pregy

@Curlymam88 aww bless you all. I hope u have all recovered. Glad leola is ok. I am doing well thanks. I agree to the fact Josiah is going longer without a feed too and he is actually sleeping longer. Only problem I can say is he is slightly constipated and pooing once every 2-3 days. I don't n ow of that is normal but I have HV coming over on 2nd Feb

@theawkwardblonde, I have a two year gap between my first two, and while it wasn't easy having two being so dependent on me, they are so close now and always have been. Like @jadey1991 we're not having anymore (definitely a geriatric mum at 40!) and have a big gap between our second and third because it took so long to conceive third time. It's impossible to predict whether it will be easy or difficult to conceive so I would say that you should go for the very smallest gap you would be happy with and start trying from then, that's what we did with our second and we conceived first month!
Dexter's 7 weeks now and have just had to put him into 3-6 baby grows! Had him weighed on Thursday and he's 13lbs 8oz already! He's starting to sleep a bit longer at night sometimes, but 3.5 hours is the most he's done and it's generally still every 2 hours 😴 he's always awake in the evening between about 5 and 11pm so not sure how I can introduce a bedtime when he refuses to sleep any earlier than 11pm?!

It’s so lovely to see how the babies are changing. S is 5 weeks old on weds and he’s already changed so much. He is sleeping a bit better at night time 3.5-4 hours but still struggling with reflux and pain in his tummy with feeds.
I am feeling much more positive now after feeling very emotional in the first 2-3 weeks. I am enjoying being a mummy and he brings me so much joy.
As for DTD, we haven’t had sex since I was about 4 months pregnant. I had HG for the first 3 months and then after then OH found it too weird so it’ll be strange once we do get round to it. Also, with them being in the same room, do you just do it when they are sleeping? I’ve never really thought about it before.

@Decadesbcun aww Seth looks so adorable... he has changed a lot hasn't he.. yes like you I have t had sex since I was 6 months. Going to be very weird. I share a bedroom with my 7 year old, Josiah and my partner so very going to be very weird. Funnily enough Josiah wasn't conceived in my bedroom so I don't know what to say to you about that hun.

@jadey1991 aww I know I would be more worried too if mines had been worse. I feel lucky to have only had a small episiotomy that has healed (or so I think 😅) it's at the entrance just inside and just feels like a little lump now but can't see anything obvious. I spotted stitch thread in my knickers a couple of times weeks ago so it definitely seems to have healed/dissolved. I think my GP appointment will be sometime next week so will find out then if I'm clear to have sex and then will decide when it's worth giving it a go 😆 my husband might it not be so keen.

@Curlymam88 hope you're feeling better soon! Did you have the vaccine? Just curious as it does seem so many people who are vaccinated are catching it.

I'm likely going to be judged for this but I never had any covid vaccines during pregnancy as I was WFH and not at much risk as I stayed away from mixing and going to restaurants, pubs, events, etc so my risk was low. I'm now considering getting it since I've had Matthew but I've got similar worries with breastfeeding 😬 my husband and in laws are pushing me to go for it ASAP but with my milk supply already being low that I'm trying my best to increase with frequent pumping and feeding all day, I'm reluctant to disrupt it all with anything. @jadey1991 I think you skipped it in pregnancy too, right? My brother has always been anti vax and he tells me not to do it. It's a nightmare trying to decide.

@Theawkwardblonde I'm thinking April next year to start again. I don't want 2 under 2 😂 but knowing my luck it will take absolutely ages to happen again and I'll have a bigger gap.

@2020mission I'm not going to judge you at all. I'm actually anti vax myself. So is my partner. Reason for this is because there isn't a lot of science behind it and I'm not risking my health/be a Guinea pig. Before going on maternity leave I was working( I am a nurse) in hospital surrounded by covid patients. I luckily I've not had caught covid but from what I have heard once you have had covid your body is immune to it(this is what I have heard I'm not saying it's true).. however I also got out of it when my dad was jabbed twice and became really really ill from it. First time round I though we was going to lose him.

This is just my opinion. Everyone has different opinions on the vaccine.

@2020mission no im not vaccinated and im diabetic and I've not been really ill with covid. Im.not anti vax as such iys just something isn't quite sitting right with me with the new covid ones. Maybe because its new.
@jadey1991 can I ask, if you're anti vax will your baby be having their baby jabs? Leola has hers next week. Im dreading them.

@Curlymam88 to be fair I shouldn't of said I'm anti vax, I should of said I'm anti vax to covid. Josiah is defo getting his immunisations. I did them with my girls so yeah he is defo getting them. However I'm like you I'm dreading it because he screams and cries.

@jadey1991 ah ok I see yes its horrible seeing them crying like that. Ive been told to bring calpol to the appointment with me. I never did that 9 years ago with my daughter. Not sure why they told me to bring it with me. Usually its give at home? 🤷🏽‍♀️

@burtle4 that's good to hear that they're close. I think it would be hard but I love the idea of siblings growing up close together.

@2020mission I was thinking next year but I'm already paranoid about my low AMH. Husband is saying end of this year in case it takes ages. Tbf im reluctant to go back on the pill as it piled weight on me and messed with my moods etc. haven't been on the pill since 2019 - aware they're are other forms of contraception but Im thinking is there any point if we are looking to try again this year. I do want to go back to work for a bit too as I wasn't able to do my normal job whilst I was pregnant.

Those talking about DTD- im very nervous about it. I'm still so self conscious over my c section scar/shelf, despite my husband not even being bothered by it. We tried it to bring on labour (failed/was awkward). I think im just going to wait until 6 week appointment before anything. Really keen to get back into my exercise routine of weight training and HIIT but been told it could be months before I get signed off for that!

@Curlymam88 oh yeah I've never heard of that myself. I wasn't told that 7 years ago. Strange. If they say that to me I'll query it. Sounds strange to me. My girls didn't have any side effects after getting the immunisation's other then a sore leg

Hi ladies hope is well.
I had an HV appointment today. Josiah now weighs a chunky 13lb14oz. It was my last home visit from them.
I also start my first lot of physio next week Wednesday due to my birth.
Me and baby are doing well. He is sleeping much better now bro my waking up for a feed or two during the night and nappy change.
His reflux hasn't bothered him much which is a good sign.

How is everyone doing

Hey glad all is well with you @jadey1991 and hopefully the physio helps 👍

My HV came this week too but unfortunately wasn't great as Matthew has gained weight but not enough to follow their chart 😔 I'm trying so hard to feed him at the breast and express as much as I can but it seems to not be doing the job. Still top up with formula too. He seems happy and alert, feels heavier to me and seems satisfied after feeds so I wasn't expecting it. Also our HV is changing so someone new is meant to call me to arrange the next appointment and so they also haven't booked Matthew and my 6 week check yet due to the transfer 🙄 it's 6 weeks on Monday. Good thing I'm not in a rush to get the go ahead for any action 😂

We're otherwise all good though. Only struggle is I still can't get him to sleep in the crib at night so still co-sleeping. He sleeps so well in the bed with me I have to wake him myself to feed. He sleeps from 1am to 6am I think he'd sleep longer if I didn't wake at 6am and encourage a feed myself 😆 he then just falls back asleep until about 9am. I'm trying to wake him at 3 or 4am too for an extra feed.

@jadey1991 how much do you feed Josiah? Sorry I have forgot already if it's formula, breast or combination you do. I top Matthew up twice a day with at least 90ml formula and whatever I can get expressing throughout the day which is probably about 90ml in total (multiple pumps) and then the rest of the day he's on the breast. He really must not be taking much from the breast but a lactation consultant watched and could see him latching, saw the let down and saw him drinking. I'm in a WhatsApp group with other new mums and some of them have been saying they're expressing 200ml in 20 mins, I wish it was that easy for me!

@2020mission hey hun, I'm only breastfeeding him now. I was doing both in the beginning. But to be fair he was a big baby. His birth weight was 9lb6oz..
Not all babies are going to be the same and I mean if your happy with how Matthew is feeding then don't worry to much. I think HV worry parents slightly. As long as he is gaining some weight then you/he will be fine.

Glad he is sleeping better when you co-sleep. I'm still co sleeping with Josiah. I find it better to co sleep as he settles for longer period of times. Josiah sleeps briefly during the day but come 8pm he will sleep all the way through to 7am(waking up for a couple feeds in between).
Then he will have a nap about 08:30 till 9:30.

He tends to sleep more if I lay with him but I have things to do so I can't really do that.

I was thinking of making a WhatsApp group with you ladies but then I was like not everyone will want to exchange numbers. 🥺

@2020mission as for expressing I couldn't express much myself so don't worry. I was stressing myself out about it so I ended up stopping.
Your doing the best you can @2020mission so don't feel like your not

@jadey1991 I'd be more inclined to join a Facebook group than WhatsApp. Due to my job I don't want to give out my number. Not that I don't trust you ladies mind.

@jadey1991 thanks! I try telling myself the reason I express little is because he's drinking most of it as I do feed him all day and put him on the breast before his 2 formula feeds a day as well. I mostly just express when my husband feeds him his formula to try and keep the supply going. He definitely has enough soiled and wet nappies so can't be starving!

I got Matthew to sleep in his crib for 30 mins last night at the start of the night 😅 that's something right? We're tempted to introduce the dummy. HV kept recommending we don't while I'm trying to establish breastfeeding and improve my supply burnt husband has no way to soothe him while I'm not free to put him on the breast so I think it might help in those times. Have you all introduced one? If so when? I just don't want to miss hunger signs and end up plugging him all day 😂

@Theawkwardblonde yeah I totally understand hun. I don't deal with social media. I only have WhatsApp lol.

@2020mission yeah don't worry hun your doing fine ❤️. I think that's a good sign lol.
I tried to introduce a dummy to Josiah but he kept spitting it out. When Josiah was in hospital the doctors and nurses kept telling me to use a dumny on him. However it failed... I have t tried him since. But he keeps sucking his hand so I might try him again

@2020mission we used a dummy with Dexter from the second day because all he wanted to do was suck to sleep. It really helped in the early days and didn't effect breastfeeding at all. Unfortunately he's gone off it now and just spits it out if we try to give it to him!