Anyone due late dec (thread 4)

[jadey1991]

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He does settle quite well after a bath but he’s very dry so I’m trying not to bath him every day. But we could maybe try a nice lotion massage on non bath days as an alternative.

The only other thing I’ve noticed is the last couple of days it’s taking him 40-50 mins to take a bottle so I’m thinking maybe I need to try a faster teat for him but the next size says 3 months plus so Not sure if I can

@Decadesbcun what about a variflow teat? Baby decodes how fast milk comes out by how hard he sucks. Ive bought variflow ones and number 2s because of the thicker milk Leola was on.

Oh dear well I hope he settles for you soon @Decadesbcun.

I think I'm gonna have to get a formula for hunger babies. Josiah is constantly hungry

Hi all hope everyone's well today!
(I just wanted to warn you all about bronchiolitis and rsv at this time of the year.....my now 2 year old had both when he was just 4 weeks old....it started with me calling 111 for some advice or reassurance as he became more lethargic than usual and kept falling asleep between feeds and not drinking very much each feed,also the other thing I noticed was when he breathed his chest would dip in and out quite alot....ambulance was sent out to us and we spent 5 days in hospital on oxygen! Very worrying time but thankfully a more than happy and boisterous 2 year old now.....
Im just mentioning as it's always good to be aware of these things,something I wasn't until it was upon us!)
Onto today....Oscar is very clingy and doesn't give me much time to do much anymore.....as soon as he sleeps I run around doing the washing,cleaning etc etc but it's short lived until he's back to being wide awake and unsettled.....he still seems very hungry he did the full 120ml bottle this morning! I'm still high on adrenaline/energy thankfully but I do feel like my candles burning at both ends 😅

@lovebeingmum9
My Jesse is very clingy too
Feeding every two hours night and day
Only happy if I'm holding him
Hates his crib so no sleep at night
I'm breastfeeding but giving him a bottle last thing at night but it makes no difference 😩

Got discharged from midwife today
Feel very sad 😢 will miss them all so much
They really looked after me during the hardest nine months of my life

@lovebeingmum9 thanks for the info as I've never heard of that before! Leola is more awake between feeds now aswell but she's being more interactive and alert to things so I find it quite fun.
@tashx sounds like you had really good midwives, mine were rubbish all the way through and even came out a week late to take my c section bandage off when I came home from hospital. I was glad to be discharged.

@Curlymam88
They were really the best
Wanted to go back up the hospital to say Thankyou to all the doctors and midwife's that were in theatre with us
But
Not allowed because of covid 😢

It's always a big moment when you get discharged from the midwives, it feels a bit like you're completely letting go of the whole pregnancy process and it can be quite a thing to get your head around.
Dexter's being quite clingy today, I feel like he's definitely going through his first wonder week, probably mixed in with a growth spurt so I'm looking forward to having my nice content baby back once it's all over! He's never slept more than two hours in a row though so he's never given me the luxury of sleep in order for me to miss it 😂

@lovebeingmum9 thanks for the heads up hun. Sorry to hear your son had a rough time. I'm the same my youngest daughter was in and out of hospital when she was young.(not as young as your son tho). Turns out she has asthma. They kept diagnosing her was bronchitis but I was adamant that it wasn't as I've seen the same illness in my eldest daughter. My youngest spent 10days in hospital because she was that bad...
I absolutely hear you on the clingy side of it. Josiah doesn't let me do anything and I get frustrated because you house looks like a bombs has hit it. My eldest daughter helps about a lot when my hubby is at work but still tiring.

I've noticed Josiah isn't taking his bottles anymore. So it's all breast. Feel so exhausted. It does frustrate me tho because I want hubby to do feeds too.

I've just tried to put Dexter down to do my kids dinner and he refused, I even tried putting him in the sling but he wasn't having any of it! So I've had to give up and feed him for the umpteenth time today and my DS is doing their dinner - I feel so guilty that they're missing out on my attention because it's all going on the new baby but they're being so good about it bless them

@burtle4 hun I totally stand by what your saying. It's the same with me. Josiah won't let me lay hun down. If I do he wakes up and starts crying. It's so hard..

Ladies some advice please!

The last two nights I've co-slept with Jack for the whole night. I've only done this because I'm just so exhausted with doing everything while my husband still isolates.

Jack is a good sleeper once he's down but the last few days he's having his last bottle at 10/11 and then being wide awake.

My husband thinks I'm setting us up to potentially have issues but I've literally only done it because I NEED some rest.

He's only a month today and I think we've got plenty of time to establish a routine. Does anyone have any advice on whether the odd co sleep is starting a bad habit?

I must add by Co sleeping he's going 11pm-3/4am then 4/5am - 8/9am! So it's giving me a good sleep!

@LouLou0505 hey hun, I can only imagine how you feel. At the moment that is what I'm doing. I'm co sleeping with Josiah and have done for the past 3 weeks. It's the only thing I can do in order to get some sleep.
Personally I don't think your setting yourselves up for any problems as you can still establish a routine with him.
I use to go sleep with my daughters too and by the time they were a few months old I got them sleeping in there cribs. However on the odd occasion during night feeds I just leave them in bed with me.

You will be ok hun as long as you set yourself a routine soon. At the moment Josiah is very clingy.

@jadey1991 - thanks for the reassurance babe! I see where my husband is coming from but I just feel like I have to do what I can to get some sleep!

I wing it everyday with parenting I haven't got a clue 😂 but we are a month in and he's still here so I must be doing ok 😂 think I need to put him in his crib more when he sleeps in the day.

I also took your advice on the vari flow teats! Jack was taking 40mins on the slow teats and think he was getting annoyed. I'm currently feeding bottle 3 with the new ones so hopefully they are better he's finishing his bottle soooo much quicker but, I might have to move up an ounce on some feeds he's such a hungry boy!!

@LouLou0505 that's fine hun, always here to help and give advice. As long as you feel comfortable in what your doing then you will be fine. I'm so sure your doing a great job with jack.
Maybe trying to put him in his crib during the day may help and co sleep at night. Whatever works better for you.
I totally get where your hubby is coming from but a mother's instinct is always right.
Glad jack is doing better on his bottles. How many ml's are you giving jack?

@LouLou0505 I don't think at this early stage you will be setting yourself up for bad habits, like you said, at this point you just have to do whatever you can to get some sleep! I don't know if you've heard of the wonder weeks, it's a theory that puts babies development into different leaps in which they learn a new skill in each one. Many people don't believe in it but I've always been able to relate my baby's different behaviour (extra clingy/fussy or being wide awake when normally content/asleep) to it exactly. Around week 5 they go through their first developmental leap (Dexter is 5+3 and is definitely going through his at the moment) and it changes their behaviour. Like I said, loads of people think it's a load of b*#$% but I've always known them to be spot on and makes me realise that it's just a phase they're going through in order to learn a new skill which definitely helps in the moment. Today I've already noticed how much more aware Dexter is of things!

@jadey1991 - so Jack averages 4oz each feed but sometimes he smashes through 5oz! Honestly for a month old you'd think he's much older because he's so big (not fat at all just very long!)

@burtle4 - I hadn't heard of that! I'll have a look. It's interesting because Jack is more aware now too. The best thing has been when I'm getting him ready for a bath he moans a lot, so my husband will come in with his mask on and just talk to him and he's fixated on him! He stops moaning straight away and just watches my husband!

I'm trying so hard to not be hard on myself but people love to put pressure on you and some mums I know act as if things are a competition and it stresses me out 😔

I just want Jack to be happy and content

@LouLou0505 how are you finding the vari flow teats? We’re also trying them and he’s very messy at the min leaking lots out the side of his mouth and then is sometimes sick afterwards as he just guzzles. I’m sure he’ll get the hang of it soon. He’s definitely sleeping better between feeds though. Seth is 3 weeks old tomorrow and having 3-4oz per feed.

What position do you all co-sleep in? I’m scared to do it really but my OH will be back to work soon (he works away Monday-Friday) so I need to try to maximise my sleep at times as it’s all going to be on me during the week.

@Decadesbcun - he's a little messy, he gets so excited when the bottle comes towards him he guzzles instantly and then coughs but he's not too bad! I always have a muzzy when feeding anyway!

I have him on my flattest pillow with my arm around him and a pillow against my arm to stop it moving and then I lay on my left side facing him, he always turns his face to me to sleep. Last night I woke up and we were touching noses 🥰

Don't be scared! You'll be surprised how you stay in the same position, I do love having him so close to me and feeling his little breath!

@Decadesbcun I've accidentally ended up co-sleeping with Matthew 😬 I bring him in for breast feeds (side lying) and we both end up falling asleep. If I try to move him back into his bedside crib he will just fuss and cry so I've ended up keeping him beside me so we can sleep better. I was never keen on the idea of it but it's all that's working to get us a good nights sleep right now.

@burtle4 I totally agree with you. I've noticed a change in Josiah too. Me and my oh can't believe he has actually slept from 09:45 and is still sleeping so I've been able to clean my place and have been able to have a catch up with my hubby.

@LouLou0505 hun your doing great don't worry about other mums and what they say/think. Jack is very proud of you

@Decadesbcun I sleep on my side and stay in that position while Josiah is flat on his back. When I breastfeed Josiah I have him on his side and then place him back on his back.
Josiah was very messy when I was giving him the vari flow tests. He will be 5 weeks tomorrow 🤦🏽‍♀️how time flies