Anyone due late dec (thread 4)

[jadey1991]

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Oh I see Josiah already had reflux so that will just cause more problems

Does anyone else's baby constantly feed and won't be put down at this time of day?!

@jadey1991 no I didnt have bad heartburn just a little towards the end of pregnancy. Not all babies get constipated off it but some do ive been told. My sisters baby didnt. Im not sure about infacol with it sorry.
@burtle4 my little one was like that thus morning as we were trying to get ready for school. Im thinking maybe to do with a growth spurt around 4 weeks? Unless my health visitor is just talking nonsense as usual 🤣

@curlymam aw look at her....beautiful! She definitely has a mane to match her name 😊 red head too? I've got ginger curly hair and 2 of my boys had ginger curly hair when they was little,but have short back andcsides now!
@jadey1991 Josiah looks very dapper in his trackie! wow a month old x
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Haha that's hilarious 😆 my hubby decided to help and stick a wash on a day or 2 after I was back from hospital.....and he put babies bright white,coming home outfit in with other colour washing including red socks.....yep its died pink! I wasn't best pleased,makes me wonder if they do this shit on purpose so we won't let them wash or change baby in the night! 🤔🤣

@Curlymam88 there is a wonder week around 5 weeks, Dexter's 5 weeks on Saturday so I think that must be what it is. He's become really clingy, won't sleep and wants to feed if I'm holding him but happy if it's not me holding him! Hoping it won't go on for too long, it's exhausting!

@lovebeingmum9 its quite dark hair in real life. I think it must have been the lighting in the photo or something. I think she's going to turn blonde though.
@burtle4 I bet its exhausting. Leola does that she does the mouth open action when she knows im near her but she doesn't actually want any milk. I think its more to do with a comfort thing to send her off to sleep. Does Dexter have a dummy? I try to give leola one when shes like that but otherwise she dont really like it, shes not bothered about one at the moment

@Curlymam88 yes we had to give him a dummy really early on because he only wants to suck to send himself to sleep and it's the only way to not have him attached to me constantly! When he's like he is today though he won't take the dummy, he just wants to comfort suck from me, not looking forward to tonight, although I'm thinking he has to sleep at some point!

@burtle4 yes Josiah is like this constantly. All day every day

@jadey1991 it's exhausting isn't it. Today Dexter was basically awake and on me from after school run at 4.15 until we took him up to bed at 9.30pm. He then refused to sleep until gone 11pm and has just woken again, absolutely inconsolable until I started feeding! It's really upsetting seeing him so unhappy all the time 😞

@ oh hun I feel for you. Josiah is the same.. he feel asleep at 7pm and decided to wake up at 1:30am and decided to go back to sleep at 5:30am. So I didn't sleep until my children went to school.

The no sleep is rubbish. How are people managing when their partners go back tonwork after paternity leave? Are all the night feeds left to you or have other people got any other way of tackling it? It drives me mad when I'm up through the early hours with baby and partner is there snoring away in bed. He gets up at half 5 so I feel like he should sleep ready for work, bit it still drives me nuts. This is his first week back in work.

My husband went back to work last Monday and he gets up at 5am so I do all the night feeds other than Saturday he did them but I still had to wake him up when Jack woke up 😂

BUT he then tested positive for covid on Monday so he's been isolating in our bedroom with me and Jack in the rest of the house currently testing negative.

It's been so hard still recovering, looking after Jack alone and then doing the cooking and cleaning. Can't wait till he's released!

@LouLou0505 that sounds even worse, not like ypu can hand baby over for an hour or so after he finishes work. Its hard going, but it won't last forever so I keep telling myself. They'll settle into a routine soon 🤞 my DD9 was a night owl up all night, now she sleeps 12 hours straight 🤣

@LouLou0505 and yes my partner struggles to hear the baby crying when he's sleeping. I dont think ive ever been in that deep.of a sleep that I couldn't hear a baby cry!! Crazy.

my hubby has been back to work 2 weeks now.....he does shift work so 1 week earlies and 1 week lates and also has another job he works around it. So I do all night feeds.....its what works best for us! But yes I still sit there giving him evil looks in the night while I'm sat feeding and he's snoring next to me 🤣

Wow @jadey1991 that's a long sleep from 7 - 1.30am but would have been better if it was later at night! Can't believe he was then awake for the rest of the night, how exhausting.
@LouLou0505 what a nightmare that your husband is having to isolate, I literally am waiting for the moment my husband gets back from work so I can hand Dexter over 😂
@Curlymam88 my husband has taken to sleeping downstairs on the sofa! He can't help anyway as I'm EBF and it's handy having the whole bed so that I've got space to have Dexter next to me if he's having a bad night. It also means he's got more energy for work and doing things around the house when he gets home. I'm just not sure when he's going to move back in 😂

It sucks if can't lie even just the little things like having a shower and cook dinner are hard now. My mums going to take him for a nice walk tomorrow so I can have an hour to do what I need.

I can't complain too much though because nights so far are good with him. Last night he went 10pm - 3am then a bum change and feed then 3.30am - 6.30 again bum change and feed then through till 9am so 🤞🏼 it stays but he's been more needy today

@lovebeingmum9 your husband does sound pretty busy so thats fair enough, but im glad I'm not the only one with giving him the evil looks, I wouldn't mind if baby went back to sleep after a feed but like @jadey1991 little one sometimes baby is awake for hours in the early hours.
@burtle4 move back in...Little Dexter has kicked his daddy out, but I can see why iys not so bad with the BF and the bed to yourselves.
@LouLou0505 its surprising what can get done in an hour, hope you manage to do what you need. Your night routine sounds pretty good, hopefully it will stay that way. But im thinking once baby gets her jabs in February things could change again if she even does settle in a routine by then.
Just going to try enjoy the baby cuddles and not be so harsh on my OH 🤣

@Curlymam88 hun I totally understand you. I'm up all hours of the morning with no sleeps struggling while my OH is snoring. Drives me crazy. I actually cry because I'm so tired and feel like I'm doing it all myself. Especially when you have other kids too. I just prep bottles for when I need them and I'm exhausted from breast feeding. How are you coping

@burtle4 yes exactly. I'm so exhausted plus doing the school run and cleaning when I get home. It's never ending. I honestly have it hard this time round with Josiah..

Has anyone registered there babies yet? We registered Josiah yesterday. So we got good birth certificate

@LouLou0505 wow sounds like you have it easy girl. Wish Josiah could be like that honestly.

I do feel lucky now which I'm sure will change 😂 and obviously with him being my first I don't have the other children to get to school etc 😂

Breastfeeding was never an option for us but I feel for everyone who is, without covid obviously I have my husband, mum, sister in law who will give him a bottle if needed which is great!

I've certainly learnt to take any help offered!

It's just taking a lot of getting used to going from 0 to 1 baby 😂 little things like I used to have breakfast at like 7.30 now I find myself having it at 11 once jacks all sorted and I used to be able to cook dinner whenever I wanted but now I have to fit it around feeds. Fair play to you ladies with multiple children 😅 Jack and my husband are enough right now!

@LouLou0505 It's definitely the biggest shock I think going from 0 to 1 baby because you have no idea what to expect. I think when you have more children it's just a harder juggling act but the shock and adjustment isn't the same. You sound lucky though in that your first is sleeping well.
@jadey1991 I think you're the same as me with a similar age gap between children? My second child is 7 so it's been a while since this newborn stage and it definitely takes a bit of getting used to being depended on again so much. Especially in that josiah and Dexter sound quite similar in their levels of neediness! I've only been able to do very minimal housework and I rely on my husband to cook our dinner or I'd never eat 😂 I have nights where it all gets too much, they're definitely the hardest. I find it hard that my husband is able to do all the things he used to be able to do (he has three weekends booked in to go away to concerts etc, days out to do things with friends) and I can't even imagine when I'll get to do something for myself again. Typically he's never normally away that much but it just so happens he's got loads booked in this year. I'm dreading the weekends alone with three kids and a dog already!!

I was thinking this morning while trying to get back to sleep where I was this time last year compared to now.

Looking back I was in such a shit place wanting a baby so bad. It's all I spoke about to my husband every single day. I was so desperate! He kept saying 'we'll start trying in the summer' and yet look where we are now 😍🤍

Anyone else think back to this time last year? Maybe when you ladies were getting a full nights sleep?😂😅

@jadey1991 I'm the same, I end up emotional when shes up all hours but thats lack.of sleep for you. My OH was up with her last night. She was awake 12am till 4am ish. Id have never been able to do school run after that night shift 🙈
@LouLou0505 im glad you have alot of support around you if needed, byt you have the right idea def take the help if offered. Ive only got a small family and my partners family live in Scotland (im in wales) so we don't have much help being offered. Just my mam or dad really but obviously they have work etc...
@burtle4 age gap between my 2 is 9 years! I remember we came home from hospital with Leola and we were like...right ok, what do we do now. What about this and what about that. Google was used alot when we came home. Lol.