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Attending a wedding with 300 people Boxing Day?

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HotChocolate16 · 17/12/2021 20:55

Evening everyone

My brother in law is getting married on Boxing Day. There will be 300 people attending. I will be 16 weeks pregnant. I’m really worried about it but it’s not something I can really not attend. What would everyone else do? I’ve had 2 jabs but not my booster

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welshweasel · 17/12/2021 20:56

I wouldn’t go. Not a hope in hell. Fake illness if you have to.

FriendofDorothy · 17/12/2021 20:57

I wouldn't go. Not in a million years. Too many people. That's a recipe for being a super-spreader event IMHO.

Malteser71 · 17/12/2021 20:58

No I wouldn’t go, but only because you’re pregnant

AlwaysLatte · 17/12/2021 20:58

In your situation I wouldn't go. Loving family will understand.

mayblossominapril · 17/12/2021 20:58

I wouldn’t go. 16 weeks pregnant, the sickness is back and you can eat more than a dried cracker.

nocoolnamesleft · 17/12/2021 21:01

No, I would not attend the potential superspreader event.

whoknew23 · 17/12/2021 21:02

not a chance I would go!

Frazzled2207 · 17/12/2021 21:03

I wouldn’t go.
But if you must there is time to get a booster this weekend surely

HeronLanyon · 17/12/2021 21:04

If I were your brother I would be telling you not to come and would drop a bit of cake round later etc.

Crazykatie · 17/12/2021 21:06

There WILL be Omicron circulating at the wedding and probably very little social distancing.
Your choice.

Goldenelf · 17/12/2021 21:07

Is your pregnancy obvious yet/known to all?

I would go perhaps to the ceremony, only if there is somewhere at tha back you can stand alone and away from others. Perhaps coming in last and leaving before everyone else does.

I think you are completely reasonable not to go and participate in the day mingling at the ceremony and afterwards indoors with others. Just to risky.
I would be open and tell the couple this, I wouldn’t blame it on anything else, as even with bad morning sickness is made a family members wedding as it’s a once in their life time occasion.

Your presence would be a nice gesture for the couple/your in laws if there is some way you can attend safely. I would only go if there is somewhere at the back you can stand well distanced. it’s probably lower risk than many other activities you will have to do such as hospital appointments, perhaps going into shops etc.

DismantledKing · 17/12/2021 21:09

300 people at a wedding? Jesus.

Ohpulltheotherone · 17/12/2021 21:11

I wouldn’t be going. I’d fake an illness, definitely start complaining of feeling sick and bit of a head ache a day or so beforehand.

IF you have to go then wear a mask and sit near the door / ventilation and then feign an illness after the ceremony and go home.
Are they really going to miss you with 300+ people there? I mean that in a nice way.

You’re the priority here, you don’t want to increase your risk in pregnancy as being unwell whilst pregnant is just the worst. It sucks.
In your shoes I’d be ditching it and laying low

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HotChocolate16 · 17/12/2021 21:16

I hear you all and agree. It’s a cultural wedding hence lots of people. I don’t think deep down my in laws would understand. I have a 2 year old daughter who would be going so if I did go I couldn’t really stay at the back as I’d be chasing her everywhere. It’s my husbands brother who is getting married so he’s heavily involved as there are a lot of parts to the wedding throughout the day.

My booster is booked for 30/12/21 so after the wedding.

I have heard second trimester is less risky to catch Covid ? Not sure how true that is

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HeronLanyon · 17/12/2021 21:19

I went to a 250 person Sikh wedding this summer (I’m not Sikh) and I’m struggling to think of social distancing during it (although I kind of tried and was masked during some of it).
Good luck op and look after yourself first !

Chloemol · 17/12/2021 21:20

No way would I be going, end of

Lemonnhoney · 17/12/2021 21:21

I had covid at 6 months pregnant (second trimester) and was absolutely fine. And only had 1 vaccine at the time.

However still it's not ideal to get in pregnancy.

bofski14 · 17/12/2021 21:26

Absolutely not. Unless actively trying to get Covid because that would be ideal conditions. 300 people is a ridiculously unsafe idea but consider how many of those 300 will have all been on public transport, been in work, have kids in schools etc. It's not just 300 then, it's 300 plus all the people that THEY have had contact with in the last ten days too because they won't be isolating prior to the event. They will all be seeing people over Christmas. That's a super spreader event if I've ever heard one. Stay home, enjoy your pregnancy. Send a gift and your apologies, safe in the knowledge that you won't be Covid positive.

WutheredOut · 17/12/2021 21:28

I wouldn’t even go if I wasn’t pregnant and was double jabbed and boostered…but there again I am sat at home after nearly two years of totally avoiding covid … having just tested positive!
Don’t go - it is absolutely not worth the risk

BurntO · 17/12/2021 21:30

Covid will be there. No one can tell you what to do. I wouldn’t go if I were you and I’m not pregnant

Janeandjohnny · 17/12/2021 21:32

Thats a pool of thousands of potentially infectious people. I think I would not go. Im cancelling going to a party of 25 next week!

toomuchlaundry · 17/12/2021 21:32

I wouldn't be going

IKnowAPlace · 17/12/2021 21:33

I wouldn't go - and I'm not pregnant

Morechocmorechoc · 17/12/2021 21:37

It doesnt mayter what the in laws think. Your baby and your health are your responsibility not theirs. Obviously don't go.

MakkaPakkas · 17/12/2021 21:38

You could go and queue up for a booster jab at a drop in centre this week? Queues near us are about 2 hours for drop ins.