Lady gardens - to trim/tend or not to trim/tend??!!

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Thinking about giving birth and wondering about the tending to the lady garden issue (not that I have seen mine in a while and might need help if I decide to do some work!)

Anyone got any thoughts or advice as to why its a positive/negative thing to do?

i keep mine trimmed. for me, and the MW can see things better (am very hairy [blush[)

LOL - a midwife posted on a thread like this a while ago to say they really wont notice. Although if you plaited it and put ribbons & glitter on it you would probably attract attention

If it makes you feel happier then have a prune

scorpio - never really done it... can I ask how short?

the things pregnancy makes us talk about!

Some people don't give a monkeys what their garden looks like when it comes to giving birth, but I feel like the beast of Bodmin if I don't do something with mine! Am planning to book a wax in the next few days cos I heaved my belly out of the way at the weekend for a peak and was amazed by the overgrown shrubbery!!

as a midwife I honestly wouldn't have a clue if you had done any "pruning" or not, after all we are all different and having looked after so many women over the years it is not anything that midwives take any notice of. TBH any good midwife would be doing her best to help you feel comfortable and "peering" at your "lady garden" isn't going to be something that will happen....honestly, trust me on this one {fsmile]

I've pruned, well DH has as at 39 weeks I can't see to be safe with scissors

Not bothered about what the MW thinks, it's more about ease of the garden clean up after the birth

Reminds me of story told to me by a friend regarding a friend of her mothers who decided a quick wash before visiting the gynae wouldn't be such a bad idea. Somewhere along the line she managed to get her soap/ cosmetics mixed up and did indeed arrive with a little glitter in situ. Apparently the comment from the doc was 'very nice, but really, you needn't have gone to the trouble...'

Have it waxed, there are way too many people spending time down there for it not to look great

I've kept on top of mine (used to have a big belly and working around it, lol) I'm planning on giving it a good shave before birth though, Just cos it'll make me feel more comfortable about not worrying if anyone thinks I look terrible! lol

I can't see mine anymore and don't want to injure myself!! Have always been tidy in the past and not happy with the current '70's bush' situation...

however don't think getting dp to do the pruning will make me feel better. and sod waxing, have enough pain lined up without that!

Oh for self-tidying bits!

really can't see myself getting waxed... might get DH to do a little trim, but come on someone, how short???

go the whole hog

pmsl merryberry!

I worried about this during pregnancy, and decided to just go for a tidy trim a week or so before my EDD, but quite honestly I can't stress it enough, no matter how shy you are or how very private your privates are, once you are in established painful labour: You Will Not Care.

You won't care who sees what, you probably wouldn't care if the hospital janitor rolled up his sleeves and pitched in too as long as they get your baby out healthy. I can remember shortly after the birth my rather uncaring midwife had left me with nothing covering my lower half in stirrups waiting to be stitched while she went off and did something, and several different hospital staff were coming in and out to get supplies from a cupboard in my labour room, each going then muttering something about getting me a sheet and then not getting me one.

But really I was just so knackered and still in utter shock, I just didnt give a flying feck really. Pick your dignity up at the door and all that. Dear me.

if you cant see it dont worry about it, as james says it will be the ladt thing onyour mind

yeah I don't really care re the birth, would be nice at the moment though, something to do with feeling 'normal' I think, but hey, its enough of a struggle just getting dressed at this stage never mind intimate personal grooming!

So it's a 70's style for me... at least I can pretty much do my bikini line so not quite a yeti yet...

Reminds me of a hospital stay, not pregnancy, when a young girl was rushed in with appendicitis. As she had just had her pubed dyed green and didn't want to lose it all she had her boyfriend write in permenant ink on her tummy ' DONT CUT THE GRASS'. The surgeon then wrote, 'sorry the lawn needed a trim'.

LOL@this thread.
I'd like to be able to see/reach my fanjo to trim/tend to it.

Before i got pg, i had Brazillians - which i found LESS uncomfortable than an upper lip/underarm wax. I stopped cos i have sensitive skin and was also worried that a bikini wax would damage the baby/ make me m/c (i know it won't but i'm a nervous first time mum .

I was trimming with nail scissors but now i can't see below the bump - so don't really care. Am not a fan of shaving cos of ingrown hairs.

Leave well alone. They look best natural especially when you're doing such lovely, true, honest to goodness womanly things as giving birth.

There's another thread about this. I equate fanny shaving with ridiculous orange all year round tans, crazy white teeth, silicone boobs, face lifts and all the other hideous American imports which mean people, mainly women, disfigure their natural selves in the mistaken belief that they look better.

Just be YOU. Send out a message to your kids it's fine to be you. It's what we do best.

Be comme les femmes Francais. Comfortable dans sa peux.

I kind of agree with you there mincepiedermama, I don't think fanjos should go all shaven etc, but I do like mine to be a bit tidier when I can see it, I prefer it not to come out of my knickers like a monster.

trimming v different to shaving. not at all porno. matter of personal choice though, eh?

I had been tending the lawn but now 38 weeks not sure i can be bothered... cant see it, cant reach very well and am paranoid i will do myself a mischief with dp's beard trimmer and my skin is super sensitive so not keen on veeting it.

pmsl at "I prefer it not to come out of my knickers like a monster" hahahahahahaaa, thats tickled me!

Trimming is deffo the way to go

Cavey you just lost a little cave credibility there.