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Can new born sleep in own room straight away?

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dolly1 · 13/12/2007 17:27

Says it all really. We were planning to pop him in the nursery from day one. It's not far from our room and I'd rather get up in the night and go through to make sure he gets used to his own room asap.
Is this a good idea or not? Any advice/experiences would be great - thanks

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berolina · 13/12/2007 17:28

no, don't do it. Sleeping in their own room before 6 months increases (I think doubles) the risk of SIDS. In Germany sharing room with baby is recommended until 1 year.

whomovedmychocolate · 13/12/2007 17:29

It's not recommended but after a month I move DD next door into her cotbed and it was fine.

camillathechicken · 13/12/2007 17:31

www.fsid.org.uk/babycare.html
FSIDS has some advice here, including the baby sleeping in your room for the first 6 months

Both of mind did go in their own rooms from birth, but I think you need to bear in mind what the advice is and make up your own mind.
certainly if you are breastfeeding, co -sleeping or having baby in a bedside cot could be easier for you both.

CaptainVimes · 13/12/2007 17:31

Not recommended because of SIDS for first 6 months. Wait and see: you may feel differently about it after you've had the baby

CaptainVimes · 13/12/2007 17:32

(and bfing would be a COMPLETE) pain. UNless you're happy dozing in a chair.

Haylstones · 13/12/2007 17:32

It's not receommended until at least 6 months and tbh there was no wasy I would have been able to do it before then. Being able to hear them breathing in the night is very reassuring and I'm sure there is some evidence that the baby's breathing is stimulated by the parents- could be total codswallop but I'm sure I heard it somewhere and if so someone else will know better. He'll still get used to being in his own room anyway (dd was in our room until 9 months as I wasn't comfortable with her being in a room away from us snd didn't sleep any differently when we moved her (i.e still rotten!)

SilentBite · 13/12/2007 17:34

dd was in her room from the word go pretty much

TwinklyfLightAttendant · 13/12/2007 17:34

I can see why you would want to get them used to their own room, but I kinda feel sorry for a little bundle who has been inside his mum for 9 months, suddenly so far away from her smell, her warmth etc.
I think you might find he/she will settle less easily than if they were next to you in the bed/in a bedside cot next to you.

Better settling = better sleep for you!

CrushWithEyeliner · 13/12/2007 17:35

Not recommended for SIDS, I kept for 1 year personally I just want to have DD close at hand for chocking/suffocation/ illnesses but she was quite a poorly baby so I needed to keep a close eye. I think when you have your baby you will instinctively want him/her close, they are SO tiny and vulnerable and reme,ber they are used to being super close to you 24 hours....

TwinklyfLightAttendant · 13/12/2007 17:35

And Hayls is right, breathing is stimulated and regularised by being near a parent. Weird or what?!

CrushWithEyeliner · 13/12/2007 17:36

gosh what appalling spelling and grammar sorry

LIZS · 13/12/2007 17:37

Noone's going to stop you but think you may find you change your mind anyway. They don't necessarily need to adapt to a move once they start sleeping longer.

lilymolly · 13/12/2007 17:38

my dd was in her own bed at a week old!
I had a chair in her room in which I bf her.

I know its not recommended, but I could not sleep as I was always listening for her.

Did not use a monitor either

but I SWEAR I heard her everymove!

madamez · 13/12/2007 17:38

Do you have a partner in delicate health who needs his/her sleep and disturbs easily or something? Because really it's so much easier and more reassuring to have the baby in the same room until about 6 months (as well as being regarded as the safest and healthiest option). OK whether or not you should have the baby in the same bed with you is something peole have differing opinions on, there is a huge majority in favour of same-room sleeping.

POOKAingwenceslaslookedout · 13/12/2007 17:38

Both mine stayed in our room for the first 6 months, because of the research that had been done into SIDS.

It certainly made night feeds more bearable. Had a bedside crib/cot that meant that he/she was at the same level as us, but not actually "in" our bed, which helped massively in maximising the amount of sleep we got.

With dd it took me a fair while to be able to sleep through her grunting. She was a noisy sleeper then, and still is now. With ds we all slept like a dream and was easy to do the night feeds.

I don't think I would have felt comfortable doing the their own room bit given the research.

Magrat · 13/12/2007 17:39

if you think about it the baby grows inside you hearing your internal gurglings, heartbeat, voice

and then it's born which is acknowledged can be traumatic for the baby

and you are then considering putting it in a separate room where it can't smell, feel, hear your presence, where it can't hear your breathing?

I couldn't do it personally

POOKAingwenceslaslookedout · 13/12/2007 17:46

Oh and I had no problems getting either of mine into their own rooms when the time was right. The bedtime routine was consistent by then, i.e. bath, feed and then sleep, so was just a case of doing it in their room (and a hot tip is if you have room in the baby's room for a single bed as well as the cot is brill so can snuggle and read on the bed and then put them in the cot to settle - also good if they're poorly later on).

tyaca · 13/12/2007 18:04

hiya, this is a strange one isnt it? i am 29 wks with first and my DH would never compromise on this.

i'm slightly freaked at the thought of sharing - like i'll never switch off/ relax. DH such a light sleeper and our room so tiny that we will have to move wardrobe out to accomadate cot. BUT do but know that'll change once she's here and will prob want her there

as mentioned my DH -- v easy going about all other things - is insistent cause of SIDS research.

i guess what makes me so curious is WHY it makes such a big difference....

skerriesmum · 13/12/2007 18:07

Until they're at least three months they wake a lot for feeding. I used a Snuggle-Nest, a little padded box that goes into your bed, so they're next to you but still have their own space iykwim. Then I put the same box into the big cot in our room, and finally the crib went into a separate room, all before 10 months. Now he sleeps great all night long!

handlemecarefully · 13/12/2007 18:09

They can, but they shouldn't

coldtits · 13/12/2007 18:16

I decided that baby was going to have my bedroom, and I would sleep on the sofa. I didn't want to share my bedroom.

After he was born, leaving the room without him in my arms didn't happen for several weeks. Your feelings may change - mine certainly did - and don't forget, then if baby can't hear, see or smell you, you are gone forever as far as they know. They have no way of knowing you will come back!

DarthVader · 13/12/2007 18:16

I moved my daughter into her own room when she outgrew her moses basket.

This was way before 6 months - maybe 2 months? but I thought this timing was very normal at the time and had never heard of the 6 month advice. Her room is right next to mine though.

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dolly1 · 13/12/2007 18:18

Thanks for all the advice. I wasn't aware of the risks so I'll have a look.
Skerriesmum where did you get your snuggle nest? Sounds good?
I think it might be a 'wait and see' situation. Going to set it all up so we have both options and then see how we feel and what he's like.

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Unfitmother · 13/12/2007 18:29

You can, but it's not recomended before 6mths old as it increases the risk of cot death. That was enougth to put me off.

imdreamingofawhiteKITTYmas · 13/12/2007 18:34

I had a bedside cot for DD2 and cannot recommend it enough, she would start the night in there but would snuggle up to me for BFs or some of the time most of me was in the cot and she was in the middle of the bed. Bedside cot is not a regular cot in her own room.

Before I had DD1 I thought she would be in her crib and we would move her at 6 months, she was in our bed for 15 months then moved into her own cot and room no problem whatsoever, DD2 was evicted at 13 months.

I just couldn't have settled with them not being next to me, I would wake 20 odd times a night and even kept the light on just so I could see them.

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