I’m really struggling today. This is my first pregnancy and my due date was 8th October. Based on personal preference (I have absolutely no judgements on what other people have done or prefer to do, everyone should do what’s right for them) I would rather avoid induction and let the labour start naturally so I can start labour in a better headspace however I am now on my 13th day overdue. While the nurses and midwives have been lovely, I feel like I’m being treated like a ticking time bomb. They are very ominous when discussing the risks of being overdue past my due date (which I thought was an estimated guess) but will tell me to get my waters artificially broken and hormonal drips as if they’re offering me a cup of tea without at all discussing the risks or stages of those methods. My partner had asked two different nurses at different times the most overdue people they have seen and they get very nervous and say oh usually about 6 days maximum which makes me wonder why the whole hospital isn’t in staring at me like I’m some kind of circus freak as I’m on day 13.
I have a plan in place to be induced by pessary on Sunday when I’m 16 days overdue and waters broken on Monday at 17 days overdue. In the meantime I have been getting lots of monitoring and baby is fine. I thought my waters had broken last night and went to hospital today and turns out my cervix is still posterior so I just feel so disheartened. Please do not share any horror stories or warnings with me as I already feel very vulnerable and like a bit of an outcast. I just want to not feel like such an isolated case.
I understand why nurses and midwives don’t want to applaud decisions with risks but it confuses me that induction methods are flung at you with no info or details from your due date on as if they are totally fine. I am happy to get an induction when the time comes, I am not against it and understand it’s necessary for the baby to get here safely I just wish the whole overdue thing wasn’t so taboo.
Sorry for rambling, feeling very hormonal.