Thoughts on excuses for not drinking/changed eating habits?

[Sophia2230]

Hello everyone
I'm about 6wk pregnant, and we decided not to tell our families until we reach 12wks. However, my mum is coming to visit soon and she will be staying at our place for 2 days. She knows that we're trying, but we don't want her to find out as it would be too early and unfair to my dad/sister who are not coming with her...
We'll probably go out for dinner and we usually have a glass of wine when that's the case. I've seen all the typical excuses such as being on antibiotics but that would not really work as an excuse for not eating raw meat/fish, deli meats or unpasteurized cheese?
Would love to hear your thoughts and ideas of excuses that could both explain why I'm not drinking and why I'm careful with what I eat?
Thank you!!

If she knows you're trying then just use that as a perfectly legitimate excuse - when you miss your period you're already classed as 4ish weeks pg, sensible precaution really.

Everyone will know if you make a thing of it.

You don’t need to explain why you’re not eating those foods-just don’t order them. Why don’t you drive so there’s an easy excuse for not drinking?

You won’t really need to explain the foods will you? Just order something else and no one will question why.

Alcohol, since she knows you’re trying, I’d say that you don’t want to just in case you get pregnant this month.

No one will notice if you don't order deli meats or unpasteurised cheese! Re wine, you could let them pour you a glass, sip a tiny bit then switch with DH when no one is looking.

Sober October was my excuse 👍🏻

Go to the restaurant before, tell them you’ll order a set drink but they’ve to give you a non alcoholic drink every time

TBH, no excuse will work if she knows you are trying.

Tell her you’re not drinking, and being careful with your diet because you’re TTC and don’t want to take any chances

Sober October.

And deli meats are easy not to order (I still ate them in my pregnancy, as well as most cheese) just offer something else it go to a different kind of restaurant.

It sounds a little as though you want her to speculate to be honest!

Thanks everyone! I should have mentioned she's the type of person who notices every single little thing, including what I order/what I don't order. I guess I was panicking because I went to a 'cheese restaurant' with a friend a couple of weeks ago, and it was very difficult to order, especially as it was small plates for sharing!! But good idea to just say this is because we are trying and we don't want to take any risk :)

She's just going to know. If she knows you're trying and you say she's observant then she will just know. Whether she tells you she knows or not is different but it does sound a bit pointless trying to hide it.

I made out I had headaches to avoid drinking

food is easy as it's not a lot you can't eat, just avoid steak if you normally have it any way but well done!

Just don't say antibiotics it's so obvious!!

You could try saying you're on a health kick in the hopes it'll help with getting pregnant. I did that last weekend for a 2 day girls trip with my mum and aunties and also snuck off to the bar for a tonic water in a gin glass in the hopes it'd throw them off (they'd know something was up if I didn't have anything at all and I couldn't use the "I'm driving" excuse as we were in a hotel! No one asked me anything, even if they suspected!