Ideas for telling DH

[SurpriseDH]

hello ladies,

After a long time trying iv recently discovered that im pregnant :-)

its DH bday in a few weeks and id like to wait til then to tell him (if I can manage to keep it secret that long!!)

Does anyone have any ideas for nice/unusual ways to do this?

We do have other DC if this helps with any ideas.

thank you

Congrats OP 👶🏻

I like the pass the parcel idea.
I told mine at Xmas and stuffed a note in the cracker. But don’t wait that long you’ll never hear the end of it on here.

@Tlollj

I like the pass the parcel idea. I told mine at Xmas and stuffed a note in the cracker. But don’t wait that long you’ll never hear the end of it on here.

Yes, almost like it’s none of the man’s business, and it’s up to the woman to decide if, when and how he should be told! Strange

I'd be argumentative too if people were being bloody twats to me and sneering at me.

well its kinda hard not to be that way Derbee. the woman is the one who has to pee on the test or go to the doctors for the blood test therefore they then pass on the information

But they tend to pass on the information straight away, as it’s both people’s business. Treating it as a secret that you only share with your husband weeks later, is completely bizarre.

I've shared it with all the lovely mumsnetters too

poor DH

Can't believe the sinister turn this thread has taken!

yeah quite sad tbh. what was a happy , excited post for me turned really nasty.

If it was a couple of days to his birthday then I'd say, yes, go for it, what a lovely idea. But a couple of weeks is weird. My husband would be pretty insulted if I didn't tell him something so significant for weeks.

Could you not do it as an early birthday present?

Don't let anyone take that away from you!
You are excited and you want to give your husband great news in a special way.

That's not a negative thing.

He'll be thrilled. He'll appreciate the fact you wanted to do this sweet thing for him.

I didn't tell my dh for a week that is got a positive test, I would have kept it quiet for longer (indefinitely) except a digital test arrived and he opened the parcel and knows I don't order digital pregnancy tests for shits and giggles.

You could get a digital test and wrap it up so when he opens it is says 'pregnant'. They only last 24 hours or so though once they've been activated so don't do it too early, maybe the morning of.

@SurpriseDH

Also, the 'neither of which would go down well'

sorry didnt realise you knew my husband!

maybe wouldn't go down well with yours but everyone is different

Why are you asking a load of strangers then?

Lol

I asked a lot of strangers for nice ideas to break the news on his birthday.

not whether or not people thought it was a good idea.

@SurpriseDH it was at least 10 days after finding out before I told my DP, I had found out at 9 dpo so wanted to ensure it wasn’t a chemical pregnancy anyway. This was our first, but had a miscarriage and chemical pregnancy the previous two times, I was worried our experience had removed the excitement of the event so wanted to do something special.

My DP says he did not at all feel like I had hidden something from him, he was very excited and enjoyed the way he found out. He does not feel he missed out on anything in those first 2 weeks. In our conversation about how this thread went today, he commented that he does not feel he would ever judge me for taking some time to process it myself before telling him, whatever the reason.

Others on this thread obviously have some strong feelings that their DP wouldn’t be comfortable with this, but obviously I knew my DP wouldn’t see it as anything sinister nor feel he had missed out, so don’t let them impact your decision. I made the right decision.

@Kimblebee19 these are great ideas! You sound like a fab party planner 😍

thanks @catinthehat12

yip, 100% my DH will not be upset either. sadly this has made me question the whole thing tho .

its scary how many threads people post on where they completely ignore the question in the OP and instead focus on a different part and jump all over it.

there has been some great suggestions put forward tho. (and even the sarcastic ones gave me a giggle)

I wee'd in a pot, got back into bed and told DP he was finally allowed to go test

It was one of the ways I thought of to involve him more in our IVF as I think sometimes the partner can feel a bit left out or useless.

He bounded out of bed and came back to the bedroom proudly showing off "his" positive test. So yeh, he actually told me!!

I think if you know what your partner would like then that's all that matters

thats brilliant @wiffly

Congratulations OP!!!!

I love the idea of telling him he has a present but it will take 8 months to arrive, and a ribbon round the belly.

@SurpriseDH how did you get on OP? I’ve noted down some good suggestions from this thread so am interested in what you went for!