Ideas for telling DH

[SurpriseDH]

hello ladies,

After a long time trying iv recently discovered that im pregnant :-)

its DH bday in a few weeks and id like to wait til then to tell him (if I can manage to keep it secret that long!!)

Does anyone have any ideas for nice/unusual ways to do this?

We do have other DC if this helps with any ideas.

thank you

I find it strange to hide it until later - it’s like you’re trying to control it a little bit.

I would make it separate from his birthday. Just tell him and then celebrate.

First of all congratulations!

I think elaborate things can sometimes go a bit awry.

I would just look him in the eye, smile, and tell him. He’ll always remember it as the best birthday present ever.

Personally I would just tell him today though. You have the power of making him happy for a couple of weeks.

Also, I hate to be miserable but I would want his support. It would be a hell of a blind side if anything bad happened in early pregnancy and he had to find out that you were pregnant only when something bad happened.

@SurpriseDH I think surprising him is a lovely idea! Let's face it the longer you know the slower time seems to go to that first scan! Xx

[quote Babyghirl]@SurpriseDH
Oh or maybe buy him a doll and wrap it up get a t-shirt made for him for doll to wear saying happy birthday daddy can't wait to celebrate with you next year 💚[/quote]
love that :-)

[quote Snoopy28x]@SurpriseDH I think surprising him is a lovely idea! Let's face it the longer you know the slower time seems to go to that first scan! Xx[/quote]
Thank you.

Yeah i remember last time wishing i hadnt tested so early as it dragged so much to the first scan.

@Iggly

I find it strange to hide it until later - it’s like you’re trying to control it a little bit.

I would make it separate from his birthday. Just tell him and then celebrate.

Control what?

it amazes me how differently people can view things.

Glad people are different tho, would be very boring if we were all the same

@IsabelGowdie

First of all congratulations!

I think elaborate things can sometimes go a bit awry.

I would just look him in the eye, smile, and tell him. He’ll always remember it as the best birthday present ever.

Personally I would just tell him today though. You have the power of making him happy for a couple of weeks.

Also, I hate to be miserable but I would want his support. It would be a hell of a blind side if anything bad happened in early pregnancy and he had to find out that you were pregnant only when something bad happened.

Thanks for the idea.

I wasnt going to do anything elaborate.

I might just book an early scan (something we've never done before) and put it in his card.

was just looking for some ideas before i made the final decision.

we've been together over 20yrs so i know him very well. He'll love that its something different than the two of us just staring at a pee stick

Just to clarify before i get jumped on for going for an early scan without him.

i mean book a scan for after his birthday and put the booking info in his card

I don't understand all this game-playing. I could understand if it was a PFB, but you've had babies before, so you're acting quite silly and immature. Just TELL HIM. Stop the childish carry on. It's not your first, so you should be over this.

@TheGirlCat

I don't understand all this game-playing. I could understand if it was a PFB, but you've had babies before, so you're acting quite silly and immature. Just TELL HIM. Stop the childish carry on. It's not your first, so you should be over this.

Game playing. lol!!

Well you are controlling it and trying to control his reaction by making all this elaborate preparation etc - to “make sure” he gives you that happy reaction.

I would ask yourself why that is?

My father in law does stuff like this - and then gets upset when people don’t “enjoy” things the way he thinks they should.

Yes OP, you've already had one baby so stop acting like bringing another human being into the world is anything special. This is now surely a hum drum affair for you and your dp and should just be shrugged at 🙄

I cannot believe some of these dour responses! If you can't even get excited about celebrating something like this then I feel sorry for those around you.

OP I think it's a lovely idea. There's no way I'd be able to keep it a secret for 2 weeks though so good luck with that!

How about wrapping up some nappies as a gift?

@Iggly

Well you are controlling it and trying to control his reaction by making all this elaborate preparation etc - to “make sure” he gives you that happy reaction.

I would ask yourself why that is?

My father in law does stuff like this - and then gets upset when people don’t “enjoy” things the way he thinks they should.

But i already know he will be happy. We've been trying for another baby, we have actually discussed this and how our lives will be with another.

controlling his reaction. love it!

For me, I’d be wary of doing some of these suggestions, they feel like tempting fate. If you make it into a big thing with ‘happy birthday Daddy’ stuff and the pregnancy sadly doesn’t continue (it’s early days as you said), it may be all the more painful.

Maybe just a scan photo in his birthday card from you, but I personally wouldn’t make more of it than that.

@belimoo

Yes OP, you've already had one baby so stop acting like bringing another human being into the world is anything special. This is now surely a hum drum affair for you and your dp and should just be shrugged at 🙄

I cannot believe some of these dour responses! If you can't even get excited about celebrating something like this then I feel sorry for those around you.

OP I think it's a lovely idea. There's no way I'd be able to keep it a secret for 2 weeks though so good luck with that!

How about wrapping up some nappies as a gift?

Thank you. yip, pretty stunned at the negativity as well.

TBH it's not quite as long as two weeks, i just rounded it up.

iv also only found out yesterday anyway so only around 4 weeks. its quite conceivable that i wouldn't even have known for a couple of weeks yet anyway (if i hadnt been so bloody impatient and tested early :-D )

Again @Iggly where are you getting 'elaborate' plans from?

Congratulations!
I think the scan appointment letter rolled up and tied with a ribbon and placed inside a box might be nice.

God knows how you're going to make yourself keep your mouth shut until then but good luck 😁

@FloconDeNeige

For me, I’d be wary of doing some of these suggestions, they feel like tempting fate. If you make it into a big thing with ‘happy birthday Daddy’ stuff and the pregnancy sadly doesn’t continue (it’s early days as you said), it may be all the more painful.

Maybe just a scan photo in his birthday card from you, but I personally wouldn’t make more of it than that.

Yeah i wasnt going to do something outlandish. Was just looking for some suggestions and then id decide.

wish i hadnt asked now!!

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves

Congratulations! I think the scan appointment letter rolled up and tied with a ribbon and placed inside a box might be nice.

God knows how you're going to make yourself keep your mouth shut until then but good luck 😁

Thank you. this is exactly the sort of thing i was thinking of.

Hire a bloody skywriter if you want to, op! This is good news. 😁 You and your husband have been trying and hoping for this. IVF is not easy. You know him and how he will react. Just because someone else would only stick the kettle on, say the cat's got a vet checkup on Tuesday, do you want some toast, I'm pregnant, do you want jam or marmalade, Margaret across the road hasn't put her bins out, I might bob over and see if she's ok... doesn't mean it's not perfectly nice and normal to want to do something a little special. Don't let anything take the shine off this for you

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves

Hire a bloody skywriter if you want to, op! This is good news. 😁 You and your husband have been trying and hoping for this. IVF is not easy. You know him and how he will react. Just because someone else would only stick the kettle on, say the cat's got a vet checkup on Tuesday, do you want some toast, I'm pregnant, do you want jam or marmalade, Margaret across the road hasn't put her bins out, I might bob over and see if she's ok... doesn't mean it's not perfectly nice and normal to want to do something a little special. Don't let anything take the shine off this for you

Aw thank you.

although we didnt have IVF we have been trying for this 3rd (and last DC) for a while

I bought for my OHs birthday (he knows as we are 33 weeks lol) a matching daddy and baby vest from Amazon.

I like the idea of a vest that says 'dad' or something matching like I got.

Oh he k, where the hell did I get IVF from? I'm sorry. I appear to be just making shit up here. Anyway, the rest is the same. Sorry.

I announced to my parents by hiding an iced bun in the oven, and sending them on a treasure hunt in the kitchen. DH filmed it so we have the lovely reaction from them as the penny dropped!

Oh. I see it. You said iv typo for I've and I must have have taken it in without realising like the berk I am and my brain went ivf 🙄 I clearly need more coffee.

Anyway. Congratulations again and I'm off to misread and make a tit of myself some more 😁