Can you all explain first trimester fatigue to my OH please

[loveanap]

This is our third baby so I'm not sure what he's not understanding.

I've just fell asleep in the kids room for an hour, we was playing doctors and before you know it I was gone.

OH has come upstairs and ripped the blankets of me and told me to get up as the kids have trashed the room whilst I was snoozing.

Now I feel like a zombie and have moved to the sofa!

I would love to show him this thread so he knows what it feels like, as I could sleep all day anywhere any time but he seems to think I'm just being lazy & unproductive.

Before I was was pregnant I always used to get in from work, have a cup of tea then take the dog out.
First 12 weeks I’d get in, sit down for my cup of tea then wake up 3 hours later! If I don’t sit down I’d be able to take the dog but in a complete zombie like state.
Weirdly as soon as I hit 12 weeks it was like. Button had switched and I went back to the usual routine until I had the baby!
I also used to nap in my lunch hour!
Your DH needs to stop being a twat

I feel so sorry for you, your husband's a shit. If he doesn't know by now and you're on your third I'd consider him a lost cause tbh and move in with my mum.

@WatchWait

First trimester nausea and fatigue knocked my socks off! It's way more difficult to cope with than late pregnancy, when you get all the offers of help and understanding, in my experience. Even my bloody midwife said 'you wait till you're properly pregnant' Just because a woman doesn't look pregnant does not mean she isn't extremely knackered!

Oh yes because for those first few months you're only "pretend" pregnant

I'm very sorry to hear this loveanap. Some OH's really need something more than explanation - could you possibly go and stay with a friend for a few days or in a hotel to a) get some rest b) get him taking the fatigue seriously? Before I became pregnant my OH and I went through a rough patch. I found him unbearable so when a friend needed someone to catsit round the corner and preferred them to stay over, I jumped at the chance and left him with his two teens. Within days he was over his grump. Something clicked...and just when I was getting ready my exit strategy ready. Maybe the seriousness kicks in when you really mean it. Hopefully you don't have to go that far but a short break away could help and would be well deserved.

You can also have him come to a midwife appointment and let the midwife know that your OH is being unsupportive, that way she may be able to emphasise how normal your fatigue is and that you need support.