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Can you all explain first trimester fatigue to my OH please

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loveanap · 27/09/2021 19:03

This is our third baby so I'm not sure what he's not understanding.

I've just fell asleep in the kids room for an hour, we was playing doctors and before you know it I was gone.

OH has come upstairs and ripped the blankets of me and told me to get up as the kids have trashed the room whilst I was snoozing.

Now I feel like a zombie and have moved to the sofa!

I would love to show him this thread so he knows what it feels like, as I could sleep all day anywhere any time but he seems to think I'm just being lazy & unproductive.

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ChickenTimeBomb · 27/09/2021 19:56

I can't find words to describe how tired I was. It was painful being awake and the ache went to my very core. It was so much worse than night time waking after the baby was born. That was just extreme tiredness, the tiredness during pregnancy was like a sickness.

HappyAsASandboy · 27/09/2021 19:56

I once had to sleep in the back of the car at the station on my way home from work. I managed to stay awake on the train and not miss my stop, but no way could I have driven the 15 mins home without an hours snooze in the car park first. Totally wiped out.

Several times i let myself in through the front door and then just sat on the stairs and went to sleep. Huns and would come in an hour after me and find me sleeping on the stairs.

There is no fighting it. And no way to prevent it; you just have to get through those first 15 or so weeks. In my opinion those weeks are more tiring than the newborn weeks

SeaToSki · 27/09/2021 19:57

You are not only growing a baby, you are also growing an entire life support system for that baby, you are connecting blood supplies building filtration systems and your own organs are already groaning under the increased stress of all that burden. While you are asleep your body is doing more than his would be if he was reading Shakespeare while running a marathon carrying a 20lb bag of sugar, oh and with a killer hangover as well.

Next time he goes to sleep, rip his covers off and ask him why he is doing nothing…because he actually is .. unlike you.

Hapoydayz · 27/09/2021 19:58

I used to take lengthy naps in the loo or in my car in the car park at work. It was like narcolepsy, I just couldn't keep my eyes open. Hope you are ok as you husband sounds like a dick that can't cope with a little tidying up that could be left while you are growing a human. Do you really want to be with a man that rips off the covers from you like a little tantrum. He doesn't sound like a catch.

Shirleyphallus · 27/09/2021 20:01

I’d have taken the early baby days 100x over then first trimester exhaustion. It’s unlike anything else.

Then it’s doubley shit cos you can’t tell anyone

frazzledasarock · 27/09/2021 20:02

Oh god first trimester exhaustion. I was dead on my in the first trimester. The baby is a tiny leech getting all its nutrients from you and it’s is physically draining.

I remember being at work and being in tears I was so exhausted. I couldn’t keep my eyes open and could not concentrate at all. Was awful.

Then it was promptly replaced by HG… oh the joys.

gamerchick · 27/09/2021 20:04

Ah first trimester tiredness is something else. You never forget it. Tbf how would any man know what it's like to grow a while new human.

I will say, if any man ripped the blankets off me like that while pregnant or otherwise, risk a hoof to the nads cheeky twat.

Magenta82 · 27/09/2021 20:05

It was worse than having flu for three months! I have never been so tired in my life!

SuperSange · 27/09/2021 20:06

In the first trimerste, I used to drive home from work and sleep on the driveway for an hour until my husband came home. I just didn't have the energy to get out of the car. Pre-pregnancy I was very fit, ran, did weights, so was not unfit.

gamerchick · 27/09/2021 20:06

Next time he goes to sleep, rip his covers off and ask him why he is doing nothing…because he actually is .. unlike you

I like that idea. He wouldn't be getting in the twatting bed tonight though.

pinkyredrose · 27/09/2021 20:07

Has he always been a cunt or is this a recent development?

MintyGreenDream · 27/09/2021 20:07

I was like a cat throughout my pregnancy.Nap after nap after nap I couldn't get enough.He is being a nasty twat op.

Morechocolatethanbarbara · 27/09/2021 20:08

Dear twatface (AKA OP's DP),

Parenting doesn't begin when the baby "pops out" you know.

The woman you share your life with has already begun her parenting journey of your third child (though how she could bring herself to have sex with such a selfish arsehole 3 times is beyond me).

Whilst DC1 & DC2 may be "trashing the house" (under your care - perhaps twatface needs parenting lessons?) DC3 is being BRILLIANTLY parented by OP, who is ensuring that the energy needed to grow a new human is going to her womb, not the limbs which do the tidying.

So stop being such a mother fucking waste of space, step up and be a man and do a bit of parenting yourself you pathetic weasle.

OP is doing something you could NEVER do, you should be worshipping at her feet and bringing her blankets when she falls asleep, not ripping them off her you evil bastard.

mathanxiety · 27/09/2021 20:10

Gets in a right huff about having to do anything all by himself in his own home, eh?

Diddums needs to start adulting and stop feeling sorry for himself.

Pallisers · 27/09/2021 20:13

god he sounds horrible.

I used to go into the loo at work, sit on the loo and doze off for 10 minutes just to get through another hour. I also developed the theory that it used to be good manners for men to give up their seats to women on the bus just in case that woman might be pregnant and not showing yet.

None of this solves your problem though which is your husband is unpleasant and unkind.

PinzQueen · 27/09/2021 20:14

All I've done today is sleep and fight to stay awake between meals.

Your husband sounds like the boyfriend I dumped this after.

tiredanddangerous · 27/09/2021 20:15

You're married to a child. Does he ever show you any consideration?

Amberheartkitty · 27/09/2021 20:20

The exhaustion was ridiculous. Growing new life felt like death. I was tired and nauseous constantly.
I slept as much as possible. Your bloke is being a prick. Make him stay awake for two consecutive nights and ensure he has a major hangover. Then ask him how he feels. That’s what pregnancy felt like for me.

Whysolong7 · 27/09/2021 20:22

Is he this horrible in other ways? I would 100% expect more support than this from a partner while I was carrying his third child. Genuinely I would look to move in with family while I slept as much as possible and leave him with the kids to deal with on his own, if you can’t get the support you need at home with such a horrible and uncaring partner I would go for a bit get the rest you need somewhere where people are prepared to take care of you. Is he a good partner in other ways?

mathanxiety · 27/09/2021 20:23

You could try directing your husband's attention to studies showing that being pregnant is like running a 40 week marathon.

However, if he's the kind of idiot who won't take your word for how you feel and what you need, and will only believe some article written by a man about what you're going through, you may not have the loving partnership you thought you were signing up for.

AliasGrape · 27/09/2021 20:23

I fell asleep sat at the dinner table with my in laws.
I had to have a nap in the staff room after work a few times because I was too exhausted to drive home without.
I was 8 weeks pregnant at my wedding and I think the adrenaline got me through but I slept from arriving home the next day straight through to the following morning so something like 19 hours.

ttdecember · 27/09/2021 20:29

What an idiot!
I was falling asleep everywhere at any time & my DH would let me crack on, would put a blanket on me and I would wake up to ready made dinner etc .. 🙄
Your DH needs to grow up .. so what if the kids trashed the room .. he can tidy it! He could've taken the kids out of the room & let you sleep some more
Sorry you have to put up with him xx

ShoesEverywhere · 27/09/2021 20:30

It's our third baby and I'm 12 weeks pregnant. I've been in bed most of the day. Once my husband finished work, he fed the kids, got them them ready for bed, put them to sleep,made me two meals in bed (morning sickness ). Now he's sorting out the kitchen while I watch Netflix in bed. It's been weeks like this.

I think your OH needs to step up quite a bit and give you a break!

Bluetrews25 · 27/09/2021 20:32

Your body is working 24/7 to build, nourish, protect, and oxygenate a whole new human. It never stops until the moment of birth. That uses up a lot of energy, even while you are sleeping, meaning that you need even more sleep to rest and recover.
A bit like recovering after surgery is tiring, because you are burning extra energy to heal. But a pregnant woman is doing this for 38 weeks, all the while having to go to work and run the house and look after other children. Unless she has a partner who is in any way helpful and has the intelligence to understand that she is doing invisible work, constantly, no time off. For 38 weeks. And steps up to take care of whatever she cannot.

Milkbottlelegs · 27/09/2021 20:32

I’ve never known tiredness like it. It was actually my first sign of pregnancy with DC1. Extreme tiredness that I just couldn’t explain. I only took a pregnancy test to rule it out so when I went to the GP about the tiredness I could answer the question.

Had to go for a nap after work just about every day for 3 months.

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