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Stepdaughters mum has covid

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nicolelou86 · 26/09/2021 10:16

Hi all!

Looking on some advice Grin

My stepdaughters mum has tested positive for COVID, however as she's under 18 she doesn't have to isolate and is still going to school etc. I'm 10wks pregnant and we are due to have her next weekend. I'm nervous to be around her as children can still spread COVID. There doesn't seem to be much information online as everything just says there's no evidence around pregnancy. Other than early labour in third trimester.

I would hate to do anything to put my pregnancy at risk but I also don't want to be over anxious which then stops my partner seeing his daughter.

What would you do? Any advice would be appreciated ConfusedGrin

OP posts:
dementedpixie · 26/09/2021 10:19

Have you been vaccinated?
Has the stepdaughter been for a PCR test as I think that's advised for close contacts of a positive case?

Cheeeeislifenow · 26/09/2021 10:20

Is it the rule in the UK that children don't have to isolate if they have covid? Wow.

spotcheck · 26/09/2021 10:20

Check if your step daughter is positive?

ANameChangeAgain · 26/09/2021 10:21

If you are vaccinated then you'll be fine.

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nicolelou86 · 26/09/2021 10:23

@dementedpixie yes I've been double vaccinated now. Oh I'm not sure actually, she's not had any symptoms so I don't think the mother has had her tested. I don't speak to her mum directly really but I'll find out x

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dementedpixie · 26/09/2021 10:24

@Cheeeeislifenow

Is it the rule in the UK that children don't have to isolate if they have covid? Wow.
Under 18s and fully vaccinated people don't need to isolate if they are a close contact of someone with covid. If they have covid they do isolate for 10 days.

In England close contacts are advised to PCR test, in Scotland they have to PCR test before returning to work/school, etc

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nicolelou86 · 26/09/2021 10:25

@Cheeeeislifenow yes! Crazy I know!! It's the poor teachers I feel sorry for! Kids are the worst for spreading things! X

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Theimpossiblegirl · 26/09/2021 10:26

If she goes to school, if you go to work, if your partner goes to work, if you interact with anybody, they could all be one person away from a positive. That's how it works now. It's not ideal but if you're vaccinated you should be fine. You can always keep your distance and be cautious.

dementedpixie · 26/09/2021 10:28

From .gov site:

NHS Test and Trace will contact you to let you know that you have been identified as a contact and check whether you are legally required to self-isolate. If you are not legally required to self-isolate you will be provided with advice on testing and given guidance on preventing the spread of COVID-19. Even if you do not have symptoms, you will be advised to have aPCRtest as soon as possible. Children aged 4 and under will not be advised to take a test unless the positive case was someone in their own household.

From www.gov.uk/government/publications/guidance-for-contacts-of-people-with-possible-or-confirmed-coronavirus-covid-19-infection-who-do-not-live-with-the-person/guidance-for-contacts-of-people-with-possible-or-confirmed-coronavirus-covid-19-infection-who-do-not-live-with-the-person#what-to-do-if-you-are-a-contact-of-someone-who-has-tested-positive-for-covid-19

FelicityPike · 26/09/2021 10:29

@Cheeeeislifenow

Is it the rule in the UK that children don't have to isolate if they have covid? Wow.
Of course they isolate if they test positive for Covid! BUT they don’t if they’ve had contact with someone I.e. the girl’s mum.

OP you could move out for her visit?

Lweji · 26/09/2021 10:29

@ANameChangeAgain

If you are vaccinated then you'll be fine.
Not entirely true. It's likely you'll be fine, but it can depend on which vaccine you took and some people don't develop enough protection. At 10 weeks I'd be more careful than, say, at 37 weeks.

I'd suggest your OH still sees his DD, but preferably outside or with masks and that she doesn't come into your home. It's just one weekend, not several months.
The alternative is she goes to your home, and you all act as if she is isolating, and take active steps to prevent you and your OH from being infected.
Again, it's only one weekend. It's doable.

Billandbob · 26/09/2021 10:30

Can you go and stay elsewhere whilst she stays at yours? That’s what I would do.

Lweji · 26/09/2021 10:32

Of course they isolate if they test positive for Covid! BUT they don’t if they’ve had contact with someone I.e. the girl’s mum.

Which is stupid because covid has a significant pre-symptomatic and asymptomatic transmission rate.

Lweji · 26/09/2021 10:33

@Billandbob

Can you go and stay elsewhere whilst she stays at yours? That’s what I would do.
The thing is she could pass it on to dad, and dad then pass it on to OP. Both need to distance, not only the OP.
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nicolelou86 · 26/09/2021 10:34

@FelicityPike move out of my own home for her visit haha!... I don't think so. I moved to where I am for my partner and have no other family here. They are 600m away.

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SheWoreYellow · 26/09/2021 10:37

Could you ask her to take a PCR next Wednesday?

Whatshouldicallme · 26/09/2021 10:37

Given that you know she's been exposed I'd err on the side of caution. Emerging research suggests that even mild infection during pregnancy can lead to changes in the placenta that can impact on fetal growth and nutrition. Many women have had COVID and been fine, but personally given the increased risk to pregnant women I wouldn't be comfortable exposing myself to someone who has been a family contact with a known case for an entire weekend.

FelicityPike · 26/09/2021 10:38

[quote nicolelou86]@FelicityPike move out of my own home for her visit haha!... I don't think so. I moved to where I am for my partner and have no other family here. They are 600m away. [/quote]
Wow.
Ok….it was just a solution. Couple of nights in a b&b/ hotel to limit your potential exposure was, I thought, a reasonable suggestion. But, hey, laugh it up.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 26/09/2021 10:40

@ANameChangeAgain

If you are vaccinated then you'll be fine.
Well, not strictly true, I know a few people who have been very poorly even though they've been double vaccinated.

OP I think I'd want to limit exposure as much as I could especially when pregnant.

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nicolelou86 · 26/09/2021 10:41

@Lweji that's my thoughts exactly. We can still catch it regardless of the vaccine although we may not get as poorly. It's the lack of evidence around pregnancy and how covid impacts that worries me. They say there is no evidence it can cause miscarriage for example however they can rarely identify the cause of miscarriage anyway! I did speak to a friend who's friend worked on the covid ward who said a high percentage of people in where pregnant which has made me even more nervous lol! I would never forgive myself if something did happen when it could have been easily avoided and I went against what my gut is telling me x

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Thirtyrock39 · 26/09/2021 10:42

By next weekend I would think she'd be showing symptoms if she is going to catch it she will be nearing the end of the infectious risky period - i think it's a good idea that she gets a pcr test as per guidance and maybe a lateral flow test before she comes to visit.

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nicolelou86 · 26/09/2021 10:45

@FelicityPike
No I appreciate your suggestion I was being lighthearted. It doesn't really make sense though when my partner is then exposed to her and then I'm exposed to him after. To be honest he wouldn't let me do that anyway. I'm not the one that needs to isolate so it wouldn't work anyway.

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insatiableme · 26/09/2021 10:47

In Wales a close contact does not have to isolate if under 18 or double jabbed. However, TTP do advise to stay away from people who are vulnerable.

insatiableme · 26/09/2021 10:48

And they are advised to get a PCR as lateral flows are not reliable.

SouthwestSis · 26/09/2021 10:58

@Thirtyrock39

By next weekend I would think she'd be showing symptoms if she is going to catch it she will be nearing the end of the infectious risky period - i think it's a good idea that she gets a pcr test as per guidance and maybe a lateral flow test before she comes to visit.
Not true at all sadly, a third of people who catch covid get no symptoms at all (but are still infectious to others). Stepdaughter should get a PCR test done today (and then I'd advise do twice weekly lateral flow tests-secondary age children should be doing this anyway)
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