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Stepdaughters mum has covid

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nicolelou86 · 26/09/2021 10:16

Hi all!

Looking on some advice Grin

My stepdaughters mum has tested positive for COVID, however as she's under 18 she doesn't have to isolate and is still going to school etc. I'm 10wks pregnant and we are due to have her next weekend. I'm nervous to be around her as children can still spread COVID. There doesn't seem to be much information online as everything just says there's no evidence around pregnancy. Other than early labour in third trimester.

I would hate to do anything to put my pregnancy at risk but I also don't want to be over anxious which then stops my partner seeing his daughter.

What would you do? Any advice would be appreciated ConfusedGrin

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north2south · 26/09/2021 15:01

@SouthSideSally

But that's the thing. It's not really entirely up to you. You're saying you need to go with your gut. But you can't make decisions about your partners relationship with his child. You can do what you can to keep yourself safe for example, staying elsewhere. But you can't insist that he doesn't care for his child in her own home. Because that's what her dad's home is - her home too. She's not a visitor.
Me staying away doesn't limit the risk so it's not an option and it is my home as well as my work place too. Yes it is our decision and not just mine but it is my body and risk to take nobody else's which he understands and he doesn't want to put the baby at risk either funnily.
InnPain · 26/09/2021 15:08

Maybe if they could just skip a weekend, of course the decision has to come from your OH. That way everyone’s safe x

SouthSideSally · 26/09/2021 15:25

@north2south and @nicolelou86

You've had a name change fail.

north2south · 26/09/2021 15:34

[quote SouthSideSally]**@north2south* and @nicolelou86*

You've had a name change fail.[/quote]
Not really... I just changed my name Hmm tbf I thought it would change on all my posts but it didn't. I wouldn't be referring to myself as I if I was wanting to look as if I was posting as someone else.

mobear · 26/09/2021 15:42

I was in a similar situation but it was an older DSD who got Covid-19 (but was not very ill at all, thankfully). I had to be firm with DP as I am higher risk and we have an infant DC. I told him if he went around he'd have to stay until she was out of isolation as I wasn't prepared to expose me or DC to the risk.

BluebellsGreenbells · 26/09/2021 15:43

living in a house with her mother who does have COVID with the likelihood of continuous contact and no measures in place

So the child can spend 7 hours at school with several possible covid infected children share a bathroom share a dinning room, play and work alongside them in a closed classroom with NO migration other than a window being open and it’s less risk than at home?

The DD may have been asymptomatic last weekend and been with you 48 hours and you wouldn’t have known - once her mother has recovered it’s possible you’ll never know if she’s carrying covid and spreading it.

You have a responsibility to look after yourself abs if that means you moving out because you fee it’s unsafe then that’s what happens

If the child has covid and has to stay in your hime for 10 days you’ll have to deal with that as well.

Same as I would if it was one of my children

timesachangin · 26/09/2021 19:51

I don't think one missed weekend will have any impact on his status as a parent. It's just a weekend and it's for the safety of his unborn child who's also his child and deserves to be considered

north2south · 26/09/2021 20:30

@timesachangin

I don't think one missed weekend will have any impact on his status as a parent. It's just a weekend and it's for the safety of his unborn child who's also his child and deserves to be considered
Thanks @timesachangin ! I had to stop commenting as it was causing me more anxiety about the situation rather than helping but wanted to say I appreciate your comment x
Biscuits1 · 27/09/2021 13:02

Regardless of being pregnant, I would not want her to visit. But especially as you are pregnant it would be wise to hold off the visits. Maybe you could have her for 2 weeks in a row or say take her somewhere nice when she does finally visit. Its just not worth the risk.

north2south · 27/09/2021 13:23

@Biscuits1

Regardless of being pregnant, I would not want her to visit. But especially as you are pregnant it would be wise to hold off the visits. Maybe you could have her for 2 weeks in a row or say take her somewhere nice when she does finally visit. Its just not worth the risk.
Thanks @Biscuits1 going to have a good chat with my OH tonight around our next steps Smile. I think the only way I'll be happy to have her here is if we do PCR test Thursday followed by LF Friday before we pick her up with then minimal contact for the weekend so no hugging etc. Or as you say have her next weekend instead x
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