Poll: which is harder, pregnancy or having a newborn? Vote here!

[Kathyis6incheshigh]

IME, pregnancy is waaaaay harder than having a newborn.
Pregnancy means:
-you're sick all the time
-by late pregnancy you can't breathe properly or bend down and you need to go to the toilet every half hour
-you have to get up at night every hour or so to go to the toilet
At least when you have the baby:
-you only need to carry a baby around, not baby + placenta + fluid
-you have the option of putting it in a buggy or giving it to someone else for a while
-you can co-sleep so you don't actually have to get out of bed at all
-you have a sweet little baby which gets constantly admired

Surely it's not just me who thinks this? Or do I just have really really shite pregnancies?

With DS, pregnancy was a doddle, newborn life was hell (although lovely at the same time).

This time, am pg with twins, pregnancy is really taking it's toll, but also because I have energetic DS to worry about too. However, I fear that life with newborn twins could be even harder than being pregnant with twins, although am looking forward to being able to breathe properly again.

Norkmaiden - no! Would like another but don't know how I'd manage, tbh. Plus I'm having a hard enough time salvaging my career after the last time.

ah okay, I wondered if it was a topical sort of question! Sorry to hear it's tough going back to work - and good luck!

Thank you

kathy - then in that case the newborn is more difficult IME x2,

DD1 was a relatively easy newbie but then there's the total 'oh my god, it's a baby, it's making a noise, what do I do?' panic stuff to get through.

DD2 was just a pain in the ar** bless her little cottons ...she still is (I blame her for previous loony post -little sod refuses to sleep at all ever ARGHHHHH )

I will count you twice next time I tot up, Coby

I'm nearly 39w pg and I can 'just nip to the shops'.....In a week or two I won't be able to do this again for about 2 yrs... therefore newborn newborn newborn!!!!!

Pregnancy!!!! Far too much to worry about IMO.

Newborn is hard but at least you can share the burden with DH/family/friends

Can't you nip to the shops with baby?

Pregnancy. Not a shadow of a doubt. Nasty, nasty thing being pregnant! Newborn babies....Ahhhhhhhhh

I would have another five if I didn't have to be preggers first!

NEWBORN - at least in pregnancy you get more sleep!

I think newborn is harder, but only because you've just given birth, I'm sure if someone just handed me a newborn today I'd cope so much better!
Pregnancy has it's downsides but I think much more pleasant than that groggy postbirth feeling and no sleep newborn phase.

Newborns.

In pregnancy your body changes. When you have a newborn, your whole life changes completely, forever and no matter how prepared you think you are, with the first one it is very very hard.

Newborns. Or can you have pre-natal depression too?

newborn
lots easier to look after inside than out, imo.
but I loved being pregnant

Gibberish - yes, indeed you can, & it's much underdiagnosed

Never knew that Kathy. Mums get such a raw deal sometimes. Would still say having a newborn is the hardest though. Trying to deal with depression whilst coping with a tiny little person is not easy.

I'm certain with my first, I had pre-natal depression that just got worse once I'd had her. I really do think more needs to be done to help women with pre-natal depression.

Hell yes, Gibberish.

speaking as someone still suffering from morning sickness at nearly 5 months, and whose had terminal flu for the last month or two, I would still say having a newborn much harder. Certainly the first one anyway, hoping the second might be a bit easier! Having had an emergency section and then the sleep deprivation and the total cluelessness about how to make baby happy [me anyway] first three months were pretty bad. Suppose i'm much more prepared this time around...[gulp]

Having a newborn without a doubt.

pregnancy.when i told my consultant that i was on prozac for ante-natal depression,she said 'you cant be depressed when you're pregnant'

i actually had a panic attack on seeing a heavily pregnant woman a few days after being told i can't get steralised.

my youngest is almost 9 months old now and it seems like 5 mintues since i had her,yet it seemed like i was pregnant with her for about 3 years.

pregnancy, hands down. Totally vile. Sent me nearly mad the second time round. Felt positively perky with a newborn in comparison.

Pregnancy was harder for me. I had tedious tiring pregnancies and easygoing newborns.

DeathbySnooSnoo, I'm certain I had ante natal depression, i wasn't at all sure I would get through it without being lead off to some kind of institution, heavily medicated (and I'm not being flippant)...