September 2021 - Thread 4

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Ta da, thread number 4 so that we can keep up the chatting!

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@aurora2021, lovely that you have a scan on Sunday. I know what you mean about reassuring you for only a couple of days as I had one last Friday and have my 20 week scan in another 3 weeks (at 21 weeks) & am sure I'll worry again before then! However, it was lovely to get some reassurance before the next scan & baby has grown so much since the 12 week scan, plus finding out the gender was lovely. I thought I'd be focused on that but as soon as the sonographer said things looked perfect, I cried. So although I will worry again, I like that I can look back at the pictures, videos, listen to the heartbeat & read my notes of what was said & it helps me relax. What I am saying is I think it's a good idea (just based on my own experience) & I hope it does the same for you. Very exciting!

@leftitlate37 these ones they also have the shorts and the cami

www.gap.co.uk/gap/maternity-modal-sleep-pants/310928691.html?cgid=Mat-Clothing-NA-JustArrived

@leftitlate37, I got the Maternity Nursing Sleep Cami top as I already had pj bottoms I could wear with it. It is really soft and comfy!
Might get the nightie too.

great thank you both :) mmmm bit more shopping,ooops! need some trousers i think, ordered some love leggings jeans but they are still too big...prob should have sent them back as crotch is really low but assumed when have a bump theyd stay up better,....but it'll be yet a while before they properly fit!

@leftitlate37 were looking at shared parental leave this time, a year alone with a baby is long, especially if you normally have a busy and intellectually challenging lifestyle (maybe the pandemic didn’t help either). However nice having a baby is it isn’t intellectually challenging, at all, so I think for us it has double benefit of DP getting time with the DC and me not ending up miserable. I just don’t know how to split it or how it works with the mat pay? Have you looked into the pay side of it?

Morning ladies, yay another girl!!

My 20 week scan is Monday. Nervous. The doppler I have is reassuring, can always find baby so know he's there, just want him to be okay

hey @FTEngineerM - no, we might be being dumb but at the mo are struggling to understand our policies and how it works with pay! as we work in 2 diff places the maternity policies and pay are different but assuming the shared parental leave pay would be fairly fixed, we r just trying to figure it out in case there is someway that means we won't be financially worse off, (or could we be better off?) but ensuring DH can still get time off. add extra annual leave accrued in the mix and im baffled! We are just trying to find some worked examples and see if there is anything that fits our situation!
what kind of split are you looking at, do you know yet? we were thinking poss me off 6 months and him off 3,but no idea how ill actually feel about that come the time!? i don't do well just being at home all the time etc, but get that trying to get sorted getting a baby out n about might take hours or not happen for whatever reason! so maybe ill be like great, hes all yours, im off to work!

Morning everyone,

I'm with you on the worries, I'm in like a cycle of worrying like he'll before the scan, going over all possibilities and not sleeping, then I have the scan, everything is fine, I'm happy for like a week then the worries creep back again. I keep hoping when she's full on moving I'll be better but I did say after 12 weeks I'd feel better... and I'm not 🙈

With mat leave I'm also completely confused, my OH works in Austria, we only right on the border so its different rules. He gets one day. One day! He can request unpaid leave up to a month but we can't afford it. He's booked three weeks holiday beginning of September bit who knows when baby will arrive. I'm hoping they'll be reasonable and flexible with him, but I've said if they give him crap he should just go get signed off sick. I'm planning on six months full leave then going back two days a week to top up the money. Mil will have baby on Monday and OH will have her on Tuesdays, so he gets a day with her and we will have Sundays together. I've no idea how ill do it long term though, they start school at 6 here but when mat pay stops after 2 years I'll need to be back full time. But that's a way off yet.

Had a scan today to find out gender.. Doing a reveal on Sunday so won't know until then. Boy or girl does anyone think?

@Hopefulmummie, how exciting! How are you doing your reveal? We loved doing ours - lots of fun! When I first looked at your scan pic,
I thought girl and then I thought boy lol, so I don't know! Couldn't really see a nub but I'm not very good. Not long until Sunday! Xx

@Hopefulmummie I have no idea how you can wait to find out 😂

Hope you have fun with your reveal; I offer no wisdom other than it could be a boy or a girl!

@AdventuresAwait we got a balloon so the gender is wrote down in an envelope atm lol killing me not to open it. I convinced its a boy but I can never tell from scans

@Bubbles1st oh I know I'm very surprised at myself being able to wait. Hopefully it flies in

@Hopefulmummie, you're doing well not to open the envelope! But Sunday will come quickly. So exciting xx

Do they just tell you to look away when they check the gender during the scan then?

@AdventuresAwait yeah tell you to close your eyes. I was tempted to peek lol. Took her a couple of times to see itn

[quote Hopefulmummie]@AdventuresAwait yeah tell you to close your eyes. I was tempted to peek lol. Took her a couple of times to see itn[/quote]
That makes me think think girl as boys are often very obvious!

That's so exciting @Hopefulmummie !

I'm loving sharing in all your gender excitement as we are leaving ours a surprise :) although I'm thinking now we need to tell the sonographer at the 20 week scan that we don't want to know so they don't spend too much time "down there"!!! 😂

@showmorekindness congratulations on your baby girl x

@SP2Bx it's definitely a good idea to mention that you don't want to know the sex!

I had several growth scans during my last pregnancy (luckily all fine) and I had to look away at the beginning of every scan until the sonographer told me it was safe, as you never know where baby is going to be when the ultrasound wand is initially placed on your belly! You'll also be warned to look away while they check the relevant anatomy... I'll be having growth scans this time around as well, so will go through all that rigmarole again!

We had a surprise last time (little boy) and we're planning a surprise this time, too! I really like surprises...

Another we pic... I love 4d scans. Hiding its face

@Scotti84 one day is awful!
@Hopefulmummie lovely pics and you're very disciplined not opening!

@Hopefulmummie, @Bubbles1st... maybe but our girl was obvious straight away, even to me! So you never know! Xx (until Sunday 🤣)

I get so behind on the chat on here!
@FTEngineerM if I don't sleep in quite the right position on my side or my pregnancy pillow moves from behind me I'm like that too.
@AdventuresAwait hope your physio helps, thanks for the advice on the exercises too, I'll definitely give them a go. I totally avoided wheat bags because I don't know where the line is between warm and too hot (I've avoided baths too) but might give it a try.

@Hopefulmummie amazing scan pictures!

@deedeebythesea, thank you. Hope the time flies by until your 20 week scan. I thought about a doppler last time but someone said it could be hard to find the heartbeat or that there was something that sounded similar (maybe blood flow to the placenta or something, can't quite remember!) so I decided I'd probably end up more paranoid using it

@KHR1, I avoided wheat bags too but physio said it is fine if on the back. She said it was different to a bath as the water is all around the bump. I still do the wheat bag warm when I use one, rather than hot, as I prefer to be cautious xx

Thanks @AdventuresAwait, i didn't realise it was better because it's just on the back, makes sense though. Need to find where I've put it now...

That's what I was told @KHR1. Could always check with your midwife if you're concerned. But I've found that even just warm, it helps a bit. Hope it eases for you soon x