Pregnant with a toddler support thread

[BertieBotts]

Anyone interested in a support thread?

I'm due in August with DC3 but have a huge gap between DS1 & 2 so I've never been through this bit with a toddler around before :)

DS2 will be 3 when the new baby arrives.

Would be fun to share tips and things.

Also is anyone else still breastfeeding their toddler through pregnancy?

@CaptainSpirit I know! My DD wasn't even walking when they all closed last year and now shes a walking talking crazy 2 year old that would love them! Fingers crossed for April!! Xx

Got a 12 year old and 2 year old and baby boy due august , still breastfeeding toddler at night but it's been absolutely excruciatingly painful for months now and not getting any better , I dread it now if I'm honest and don't want to end like this so think I may have to stop :( how is it going for you @BertieBotts ?

I’m 16 weeks pregnant and still feeding a 2 year old. January was the worst few weeks of my life, morning sickness + Covid 😷 but things have improved!
My nipples have gotten very sensitive too but only when he latches on initially. I think we’ll have to wean before #2 arrives but I’m reluctant, he just loves it so much

Hi everyone. I have a 2 and a half year old dd and I'm 35 weeks pregnant - I'm expecting to be induced early due to lots of complications (anemia/GD/obstetric cholestasis/huge baby) so baby could arrive in the next 2-3 weeks 🙈

My DD is such a fun cuddly child but I'm worried that I will have to have a C-section as she likes to climb all over me, I don't want her to think I'm pushing her away if I can't pick her up. I keeping her routine of nursery 3 days a week and one over night stay at my mum's (this was our routine when I was working) so as not to cause her any more stress.

She has just been evicted from her cot - which I thought would be a nightmare but she has been so good and loves her new bed. The next thing is potty training - she will use the toilet for a poo but no quite got the hang of anything else yet but if baby is likely to arrive asap then I may wait until after he is here.

So much to consider this time round 😁

Oooh can I join? 16 weeks pregnant with an almost 2 year old. Still breastfeeding and cosleeping and no idea how we’ll stop either of those things at the moment - lockdown has made her super attached to me. DD is super busy but at least is good at entertaining herself sometimes while I lie on the sofa in exhaustion.

Glad i found this thread! My dd is 2 in May and just found out im pregnant with #2. So excited but shattered already. Roll on warmer weather to sit down outside and just supervise haha. Dd still has a feed to sleep and in the night so atleast im used to the exhaustion. She sleeps in with me too so hoping to shuffle her out but will see what happens!

We managed to stop cosleeping and the night feeds thankfully and now DS2 is happier in his own bed than ours - if he does come into ours for whatever reason he just doesn't sleep now which is annoying, but good in terms of him not squishing the newborn as I expect I'll co-sleep with them as well.

Not even going to attempt potty training I don't think. We occasionally suggest it but he hates being without a nappy so I don't think it's the right time.

YY the breastfeeding pain is on initial latching. He is teething at the moment which really doesn't help so we are doing loads of calpol in the hope that makes it more comfortable for him and helps him latch better. If he latches deeply then the sensitive part isn't touching anything so that's fine (it's a bit like newborn feeding pain actually!) But he is v attached to it and does not want to give it up, which is fine. I have heard it helps them feel less jealous of the baby so fingers crossed?

15 month old and 26 weeks pregnant. Feel like I'm walking through treacle (stopping bf through my choice at 9 months saw me get pregnant two weeks later...!)

Oh and Surreymum meant to ask are you me? :o My eldest is 12 as well! And my birth year is not far off 89

I was really hoping that once I got past the first trimester then life would be easier again...but reading some of these posts it looks like I'm going to permanently exhausted for the next 7 months plus the next 18 years😂😂

It's not too bad. I do have more energy in the second trimester, but less than when not pregnant. It does get worse in the third though, or not tiredness as such, but it just being an absolute effort do so anything.

I definitely feel less tired than the first and even less breathless, but mentally and emotionally I feel worse. So I think my tolerance for tiredness has gone way down. I can't cope doing housework/organisation etc with toddler too where I could in 2nd trimester.
Stop work in 2 weeks and now not sure if I'm even looking forward to it!!!

Hang on with breastfeeding for the mum's in early stages because the pain and aversion did go and when they came back it was more for days rather than weeks and as the milk ran out the length of time feeding massively reduced. The dry feeding was odd but now it's colostrum it feels a bit normal again.

Me and my DP took her off all her set feeds Inc bedtime in the last month or so. She hardly asks now, and I don't fe under any pressure because it's not a routine. We usually feed in the morning because it's just me and her and it's nice bonding/lying down time. We both like it, so I feel like it's not good to stop. But have no idea what will happen when baby comes!!
Presumed she would stop bf but doubt that'll happen when we only have 6 weeks to go!

Oh gosh the co-sleeping, I'll have to terf mine out soon. 😬 She's slept with me since day one, as did her big sister until she went into her own bed in her room at 18 months (although she'll occasionally still creep in as well!)

Yes please! DD will be coming up 2.5 when DC2 arrives in October. Still feeding her at bedtime and, if I'm brutal, hating it now but I haven't got in me at the moment to do anything about it 😂 maybe if/when I get my second trimester oomph I'll go for it!

Can I join you ladies? I have 22 month old twins and am currently just under 25 weeks pregnant with a singleton. I'm not feeling too tired at the moment but struggling with horrible reflux and nausea, together with back ache which I think is a result of the train pregnancy runining my abdominal muscles 😭
My biggest worry is trying to potty train the twins whilst looking after a newborn 😳

Oops, that should have said twin pregnancy not train pregnancy 🤣

I’m 10 weeks pregnant and have a 19 month old. She’s very active and I am so tried all the time and nauseous

great thread! i’m 31 weeks with number 2, due end of may. DS will be 3 mid may. struggling now to sit on the floor and do puzzles/play cars/dinosaurs so feeling a bit crap but still a thousand times better than the constant nausea of my first trimester! pregnancy feels a bit harder this time around, not sure if it’s because i’m three years older, because i already have DS to look after or because i’m furloughed so not as active as before. probably a delightful
combination of all of those!

Oh gosh I forgot about potty training. Everyone tells me summer is the time to do it, but then also not to do it before a new arrival as the upheaval can make them regress. I can’t see that being a fun battle. At the same time, am I the only one who finds toddler nappies make them gag more than usual now?

@Mariposa123 I had a thoroughly miserable first trimester, made even more hellish by a dose of covid at 10 weeks. I lost my sense of smell and taste entirely and they have never fully returned (although partially back now 3 months later). The only good thing about it all is that it took care of the gagging over dirty nappies very effectively! 😂

Can I join? I’ve just got pregnant again and still breastfeeding my 21 month DD. I’m only 4+4 and already so exhausted I feel like I’ve been hit by a truck 😱. I swear at this point last time I was bouncing off the walls with energy..

Ooo good thread! In the nicest way, your posts are making me feel better 😅 I'm 14 weeks pregnant and DD is 16 months at the moment.

I fell into the trap of breastfeeding to sleep and now don't know how to get out of it - think I've tried everything!

I'm another one who has been really poorly through the first trimester- have had to rely a lot on baby TV and Peppa Pig.

Lots of people have said to me the first year or 2 is hard, but then it's easier overall having a close age gap - I hope they are right!

Yeah I was wearing a mask for a while to do all the nappies :o DH is working from home so DS2 got freaked out and insisted only Daddy change him for a while. I didn't argue with that!

Oh yes, I have to put Vicks on my nose for poo nappies (she is at nursery but seems to have decided that pooing on the way home is a great idea this last week or so rather than doing it there ).

I don't even want to think about potty training!!

We waited until after DD2 was born before we potty trained DD1, I was far too big and exhausted to think about cleaning up extra accidents! She learnt how to use the potty during first lockdown when she was 2.9 months, luckily took to it like a little duck to water. DD2 will only be 21 months by the time little number 3 comes so we'll probably have a big overlap of nappies for a while. 😬

We all tested positive for covid last week, fortunately our symptoms haven't been too bad but DH lost his sense of smell - combine that with my morning sickness and he's been on nappy changing duties.