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Pregnant after previous abortion...help

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Shootingstar878 · 23/03/2021 12:10

I'm currently 5 weeks with a planned pregnancy. I fell pregnant last year accidentally and i knew at the time that having the baby wasn't the right thing to do for various reasons.

I went to see my GP who VERY reluctantly gave me a number for BPAS and as she reached it to me she said "you're lucky I'm even giving you this - many wouldn't". So anyway i went ahead the following week to have a medical abortion. I asked the doctor if my GP would know I'd gone ahead with it (i didn't want her to after my bad experience with her) and she said no, and that it was fine for me to tell the GP in future that I had an early miscarriage.

So now I'm currently expecting this is all hanging over my head like a black cloud. I had a chat with a different GP in my surgery this morning and i told her I'd had a miscarriage (obviously my unwanted pregnancy was in my notes). I feel horrendous about it all, it was an extremely difficult thing to go through and I just can't face admitting up to it. My issue is that I will obviously be asked about this by a midwife and my problem with lying is that I'm rhesus negative and I'm wondering if telling the midwife that it was a miscarriage (i can't face the truth) is going to affect anything It is my understanding that the anti d is given to all pregnant women now regardless of previous pregnancies? Help :(

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ladygindiva · 23/03/2021 16:26

Another here saying your gp was a twat and has made you worry others will be so. I also had an abortion before my 3 kids and neither of my 2 midwives so much as raised an eyebrow when we discussed it at my appointment. To be honest I'd make a complaint about the gp if you felt strong enough. Congratulations on your pregnancy xxxx

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