4+1 and worried!

[Ninetyfive21]

So I’m 4+1, I know it’s very early, but I’m so worried there’s not actually a baby in there! I misscarried at 5 weeks in 2019, the three tests I’ve taken have much darker BFPs than my previous pregnancy. I’ve got my first midwife appointment booked and I’ll be bang on 8 weeks.. how can I put my mind at ease?! I know it’s too early to feel any different, I can’t work out if I’m nauseous, have heartburn, both, or it’s all in my head!

I can totally relate to the anxiety after a loss but for your own sanity and health you need to try to relax.
You are very early and at this stage there isn't a baby yet! Try to take your mind off it a little or you will drive yourself crazy. Try to distract yourself, take each day as they come. Focus on the present - you are pregnant. Trust your body.
It's a bit early for symptoms like morning sickness or heartburn so don't worry if you don't experience these until 7 weeks... or ever.

You have 4 more weeks until your booking appointment. I know it feels like a long time but beware there's nothing reassuring she wil do. As in, the booking appt isn't a scan or an hcg blood test or anything. However if you are anxious i would mention it to her.

@SunnySideUp2020 Thankyou for your reply! I’ve had an email through with my 12 week scan appointment this afternoon which has calmed me a tiny bit, but I don’t think it’ll feel real until I’ve actually had the scan! I’ll definitely mention at my booking in appointment that I’ve been anxious (most likely still will be!) I just don’t want to be taking a test every few days to reassure me I’m still pregnant, but I know I’ll be doing that!!

Would you have a private scan? I had one at 8 weeks, but it turned out I was only about 6 weeks, and they couldn't see much. I went back (for free) at 8 weeks and could see a teeny baby in there.

So, what I'm saying is I guess, don't go before 8 weeks!

I also had a private scan at 8 weeks (turned out i was 7w2 i think) but could see the blob and we listened to the heartbeat. It was a big relief but until the 12w scan i really had to work on myself to not let anxiety take over my whole life!

Congratulations op!

You must relax. The egg has literally just implanted. If you worry too much you’ll drive yourself crazy. A big hug to you and lots of positive vibes for a successful pregnancy

I’m in two minds about a private scan.. As much as I want one, the closest place I can find is about 45 mins away, and obviously with everything going on at the moment I’m not sure I want to travel that far 🤔

@Ninetyfive21 I'm exactly same, I got really faint BFP's and then a positive CB and still I cant stop worrying that something is going to go wrong! I had MC last January so its taken us this long to get another BFP and I'm just scared!

@gizmo167 congratulations! How far along are you? 2 and a half years since we started ttc so literally everything is racing through my mind, when realistically I know I need to chill! Got my prenatal vitamins arriving today (hopefully 🤞🏼) so that’s something else to focus on!

Unfortunately there isn't anything you can do to put your mind at ease.
I am on my 4th pregnancy, 3rd baby, and 32 weeks, and I still worry and have major anxiety over something being/going wrong to the point I refuse to buy anything.
Congratulations and good luck.

So I stupidly got some cheap tests this afternoon, just used one and it’s got the faintest line! Was expecting a decent line as my 3 other tests attached in my original post were all evening tests

@Ninetyfive21 I'm 4 weeks today and the same as you worried, been ttc for 2.5 yrs. This is our first bfp.

I hope your pregnancy is a healthy/happy one. Make sure you look after yourself

Congratulations OP. I was really anxious after some early spotting at 5w. I'm 18w2 now and still get anxious. I felt flutters at 16w but was 2 weeks before I felt them again. I was literally sitting still for hours at a time to see if I could feel them move. I don't think the anxiety really goes away. I find it really helpful to to remember there is absolutely nothing I can do to change the outcome of this pregnancy, it's "in God's hands" as it were. I'm now (anxiously) awaiting 20w scan to see everything is as expected.

Hey! I must be literally the same as you! 4+1 today! Found out yesterday!

@Ninetyfive21

So I stupidly got some cheap tests this afternoon, just used one and it’s got the faintest line! Was expecting a decent line as my 3 other tests attached in my original post were all evening tests

But this is a different brand, so they'll all show up slightly differently. There's still a definite line. Try not to send yourself crazy with all the tests.

Thankyou everyone for your replies!
I took another cheap test at 3am this morning and it was as strong as my frer & clear blues, if not slightly stronger! No more testing for me (maybe once a week 😂)! Now to try and stop my impatience waiting for appointment & scan 😂