Pregnant After MMC - Thread 5

[Sakura54]

Thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of scan dates and due dates. We’ll be welcoming the first of our rainbow babies soon!

Scan Dates
@MrsK21 Tuesday 12th Jan (20 week)
@Starfish762 Wednesday 13th Jan (20 week)
@Threnody Thursday 21st January (20 week)

Due Dates
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 BOY
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21 GIRL
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21 SURPRISE
@Smilingdonkey - 07/03/21 GIRL
@ew1990 - 12/03/21 GIRL
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21 GIRL
@smileyT - 15/03/21 BOY
@Dipsy77 - 15/03/21 TWIN GIRLS
@RosieJess91 - 31/03/21 BOY
@Poppy10121 - 04/04/21 BOY
@Workingmama1 - 09/04/21 BOY
@Lu93 - 11/04/21 GIRL
@Pugprincess - 17/04/21 SURPRISE
@lollol86 - 25/04/21 GIRL
@JoJo58995 - 02/05/21 GIRL
@Starfish762 - 31/05/21
@MrsK21 - 06/06/21
@Threnody - 08/06/21 BOY

@Pugprincess good morning hun. How are you?

Measurements of the sac was 4mm. Which puts me at about 4-5weeks. She explained the sac size double every week. So at my next scan in 10days time it should be over 8mm.

I have my mw appt on 23rd and then the scan at the epu on 24th. Im really hoping at that stage the bleeding has stopped and my bean has made the appropriate progress.

I was told a definitive answer as to why I was bleeding. But she explained that its very common and could be due to the change in hormones which increases the bloodflow to the uterus.

Feeling a little more hopeful today. Gosh it’s been such a rollercoaster!

Ah @NI101 I'm glad you are feeling a little more positive after your private scan. The private scans I had were brilliant and took so much more time to explain things than with the NHS- they are obviously rushed off their feet and just don't have the luxury of spending time talking through it all with us!

@NI101 How's things going. I'm OK I'm just struggling with energy levels massively x

Hi all, I'm new here Bfp yesterday at what I think was 8dpo based on opk's and Premom app but got a very clear line so am questioning that now, app now says I'm 3+6 days.

I had a mmc in December, was supposed to be 10 weeks but it stopped growing soon after a normal scan at 6+5. Epu told me if I got pregnant again I can have an early scan there, I'm just wondering if I could pick your brains about when would be good to do that (if this sticks, still so early obviously).

I think around 8 weeks would be good, but now I feel like what's the point of an early scan as it could be fine at 8 weeks and still be dead by 12 week scan which would be even more brutal than last time. At least if I had no scan until 12 weeks I'll have no expectations at all going into it. Opinions and advice welcome!

Hi @Pugprincess. I feel the same with energy levels at the moment. I feel like I could sleep for days on end. A real struggle to get up for work in the mornings! This week has gone by fairly quickly. Only 6 more days til my scan. Trying to be positive, but the bleeding is really putting me off. Praying everything is ok 😌

Hi @Garman congratulations on your BFP. I think we were both in the TTC after MMC thread.

There is no right or wrong way, just what you think is best. I know I’m a really panicky person and want to know every little detail straight away. So If I had the choice if when to book an early scan I’d wait til about 6.5weeks. At that point you are likely to see a heartbeat.

I unfortunately had some early bleeding at what I thought was 5weeks but the EPU couldn’t see anything at all. It wasn’t until I was 6 weeks that they saw a small sac and dated me at 4weeks. Based on this experience, I would suggest 6.5weeks at the very earliest for a scan. On the other hand, if you are patient and happy to wait, you will see a lot more in the scan the longer you wait.

Hope that helps

Thanks @NI101. I don't think I want one at 6-7 weeks, I've done that on all 3 previous pregnancies and I think because my first two progressed fine after it I naively thought it was "safe" once there was a heartbeat at that appt, so then I was really shocked last time when the heart basically stopped days after it and I didn't know until mmc started a month later. If I have one that early this time it won't give me any comfort, I'd need another 2 weeks later! And would have to pay €100 for any outside of epu.

I'm also a very panicky person but I think I could wait until 8 weeks after the false security of the very early scan last time.

@Garman hi, congratulations ❤️ I went for one at epu at 6 plus 5 days as I wanted to know it was defo there, in right place, heart beat etc. They told me I was 5 plus 6 but there was a heartbeat, turns out I think I was 6+5 as weeks later I shot forward in days. Its not accurate at first as too small, they did warn me of that. I went for a private one at 7 weeks, then 9, then 11, then NHS 13 weeks, then private at 16 then NHS at 20 and 22 weeks, and 4d scan at 30 weeks. Like you say scanning doesn't change the outcome but I wanted to know. 8 weeks sounds like a good goal for you and I would go then from what you are saying, I'm sure I read chances are better from 8 weeks too. My lost baby was 6+4 days at a private scan and I thought I was 7+3, I'd had a lot of brown watery stuff for a week or more so I had a bad feeling, that scan gave me false hope in a way as sonographer said she couldn't see any reason for brown. But the next day I had a pain and some red and it went downhill for the next couple of days until I eventually fully miscarried. I dont regret that scan though as I wouldn't have the video and photos as a memory now if we hadn't have. Our first baby came in lockdown after 5 years of ttc so it was and still is very special to us as it gave us hope that this could happen naturally for us after all. My current baby came the month after with no period inbetween, the ovulation pain was so strong and lasted all day, it's like they really wanted to be here and let me know that 🥰 sorry to ramble on.

@NI101 glad you are OK. 6 days so not too long now. Xx

Just thought I'd add I tried not to take scans as security, more 'I know the baby is still OK for now', I didn't dare let my brain think all will be ok. I still struggle now and I'm 32 weeks tomorrow. Always waiting for movements etc. Checking. I've had to start getting things ready for baby cause that can't be put off forever but it's nerve wracking. Always worried I'm cursing things x

You can't curse things, but I agree scans aren't a guarantee of all working out fine, but they are a snapshot of security at the time of doing them. I go with the theory of not relaxing until me and baby are home safe and healthy for a week, I said it with my first and it was a good plan because I ended up very ill and we were both in special cares after birth for days, I was sick for months after it. But a scan will tell me if I need to acknowledge and plan for imminent miscarriage or if I can put that off for another month or so until the next scan.

Good luck with your scan today, @NI101 xx

Hi ladies. I hope you are well.

Unfortunately not good news from me hence why I’ve been a little quiet.

So I wasn’t feeling too great on Thursday as the bleeding had increased. I called the EPU who kindly rescheduled my appointment from the Wednesday to the Friday before. At the scan, I should have been 7.5weeks the GS had grown from 4mm to 10mm but there was no yolk sac, fetal pole or any other structure. I was asked to take a hcg test that day and then again 48hrs later. The results came back on Sunday with a slight decrease but the docs asked to see me again on Tuesday for another scan. Monday night, I was in excruciating pain, and a few hours later I officially miscarried and passed the sac. I was able to store this along with the tissue to take with me to the hospital. On Tuesday, there wasn't much point in doing a scan as I was heavily bleeding and I was certain I had miscarried. The EPU sent the tissue for genetic testing which I wont get back for several weeks. Even so I’m not expecting an answer as most of the time there isn’t a reason. That day I also took a blood test to check thyroid levels which also came back as normal.

It is a really tough time, but I guess it’s no surprise. After all I had been bleeding for over 3weeks.

Thank you for checking in on me. I will be taking a break from mumsnet just to refocus my energy on something different.

Wish you all the best ❤️

@NI101 I am so, so sorry to hear that, it’s heartbreaking. Sending you lots of love and strength, look after yourself and take it very easy. You will be ok eventually. Big hugs xxxxx

@NI101 I’m so sorry!!! You must be feeling dreadful. Take really good care of yourself and do whatever you need ❤️

@Garman congratulations! I went for a first scan at 8 weeks. I thought it was a perfect time as you could see baby and the heartbeat etc and actually statistically, if you see a heartbeat at 8 weeks you are much more likely to have a successful pregnancy. Obviously I know that’s not always the case but it doesn’t mean nothing to have a good scan at 8 weeks x

@NI101 oh I’m so sorry. Sending you lots of love, look after yourself xxx

@NI101 so sorry to hear this lovely, take sometime for yourself. Sending lots of love xx

@NI101 so so sorry to hear your sad news 😥 big hugs to you xxxx

@NI101 so sorry tonhear your news. Take care of yourself xxx

Know most of us are now on the Facebook group but for those who aren’t or anyone who’s just lurking, baby Aria was born on Tuesday 9th March, 36 hours after being induced due to repeated foetal movements. The birth was long and difficult but she’s perfect and worth every painful second of those 36 hours. We stayed in two days after the birth due to tongue tie and feeding issues and I cried every second of the way home with her when we finally left the hospital - the 14 months of appointments there from both pregnancies suddenly came flooding back as I realised we were actually getting to take our baby home. What a journey. Thank you to all of the ladies past and present for being a part of it and I hope everyone gets their happy ending soon 🥰

@SkyBlue20 congratulations, I didn't realise everyone was on Facebook. I wondered why the thread was so quiet.
How do I join?

@Lollol86 I think I can DM you the link, let me give it a go, otherwise we might have to add each other as friends and I can invite you in! Did wonder why you hadn’t joined, think most of us are in there now ☺️ You’ve missed a fair few births! Xx

@Lollol86 I can’t seem to DM the link, can you DM me your Facebook name/profile link and I can add you as a friend briefly to add you to the group? Xx

@SkyBlue20 ahhh gutted I've missed loads of births. I've just pm you xx

@SkyBlue20 massive congratulations... haven't been on MN in ages but wanted to check in on everyone and see how you were all getting on. How are you finding being a new mama? xx

@SmileyT Thank you! Not going to lie, the first couple of weeks have been brutal but I feel like we’re turning a corner now 🤞🏼 I had a really long, quite traumatic birth and then we were in hospital for two nights afterwards, so I don’t think that helped, plus Aria has tongue tie so is struggling to latch on so we had to get our heads around formula and expressing etc pretty quickly and then there’s the physical recovery (episiotomy, second degree tear, general baby blues)... but like I say, all getting so much easier now. Am currently sitting with her asleep on my chest and it’s just the most beautiful thing! How’re you getting on? Is baby here or still waiting? You are still more than welcome to join us in the Facebook group if you like - lots of updates in there, I think we have nine babies now! Xx