Christmas babies thread 5 ❤️

[Katbaby]

Just setting up what may well be our final thread ❤️ good luck today @maverickdanger

Good luck to those of us still pregnant ❤️

[dixiedo]

Hello everyone. I was on the thread in the beginning but drifted off as I was due beginning of January however the January baby thread died completely when they moved to Facebook. I've been a lurker though.
I had my baby on the 28th December induced a little early. He is lovely but looking for some support. Same thing really as I've been reading. Sleeps well unless it's nighttime or I put him down.
He is my third so I know it must pass and get easier.
I can't remember it being this hard or the feeling of not knowing what to do or when. 😂 he is 11 days so still so new I'm sure we will find a routine. Just tiring at nighttime trying not to drop off whilst holding him x

[MaverickDanger]

We’re exactly the same @calipoppy - just doesn’t like being put down & is currently fighting sleep.

I did 3am - 9am this morning and he pretty much fed/changed/dozed/fed/changed from 3-6.30. Managed to get him in his Moses basket for 30 mins and then had him in bed with us for a couple of hours until another feed.

[calipoppy]

Very reassuring to know I'm not the only one although really feel for you all, the sleepless nights are taking their toll!
I hadn't thought of reflux but will look into it thank you, can it be worse/only come on at night?

[Sunflower0000]

Sorry to hear of the struggles girls, been through exactly the same things with Octavia and like you say some days are much better than others.
At first she would only sleep on us but we found putting a top with my scent (ie soaked in breast milk!) in her Moses basket and a hit water bottle before she went in means she sleeps in there now.
@Nic2908 Noah is such a lovely name! Sorry to hear you're struggling with the feeding. Definitely second the health visitor and there are some Facebook groups for breastfeeding that I've joined that are a great help plus you can call the NCT feeding line until midnight, you don't need to have done the course. I've found them to be a great help x

[Sunflower0000]

NCT feeding line are great x

[Katbaby]

Hey girls hows everyone doing?

Im absolutely loving being a mum but one thing I'm finding hard is Elodie won't settle in her crib to sleep, she will only sleep on me or jordan😩 the sleep deprevation is real. We are having to take shifts to sleep, I've tried a swaddle up, my top in the crib and a ewan sheep. Anyone else have a clingy baby that will only sleep on you?

Also I'm ebf so no long sleeps for me even when jordan takes the shift

[calipoppy]

@Katbaby we had this but only for 2 weeks and now she'll sleep in the crib once she's fallen asleep on on of us! The best tip I can give in the meantime is just start shifts super early so you can both get a decent amount of sleep, we did about a week of one of us going to bed at 7 and carrying on shifts until like 10am!
Also we moved her crib into another room so whoever's on shift can keep trying putting her down without the other one waking up! Then we snooze on the sofa next to her.
Fingers crossed soon she'll be good enough sleeping we can all sleep in the bedroom together again! 😂
Hope that helps I know it's so tough especially the earliest days when you're still recovering from labour ❤️ hang in there and take all the help you can get!! X

[MaverickDanger]

Same here @Katbaby. It’s only been in the past two nights that he will sleep for short stints in his Moses basket, but not in the day.

We do shifts (me sleeping 7.30-2.30 & DH sleeping 3-10) and DH wears him in a sling so he is hands free to do other things.

Love to dream bag and heating the crib with a hot water bottle have helped him get a couple of hours in the Moses basket. He’s 13 days old today.

[Charl88]

We were the same in the first 2-3 weeks. Baby would only sleep in our arms or next to us but now he is settling for a few hours in his crib between feeds (he will be 4 weeks on Wednesday) so it does get better. We use the love to dream swaddle and ewan as well. I switch ewan on during night feeds too to try and keep him in a sleepy zone (no idea if this works but not doing any harm) cant wait for more than 2.5hrs sleep x

[Bumble84]

How’s everyone getting on?

We seem to have hit the no sleep face. Our baby will lie in her cot for 15-20mins awake after a feed and then start fussing and just refuses to sleep!

[Katbaby]

Hey girls so I felt like we had a breakthrough night before last Elodie slept in her crib for 6hours only waking for feeds and going straight back down, was so happy.

Last night was back to square one constant crying wouldn't settle ended up in bed with us which I don't like as I know the risks of Co sleeping 😩😩😩

[Bumble84]

@Katbaby I feel you, I was sooo tempted to take ours into bed last night and she wasn’t too bad at n the beginning sleeping wise! It is really hard. I really want to do the right thing for her all the time and make sure she is comforted but at the same time I don’t want to create a baby that will never sleep on her own. This is why parenting is difficult, the constant questioning of our decisions!!!

[MaverickDanger]

How old is she @Bumble84?

I feel like I’ve been lulled into a false sense of security so far - he’s so chilled, feeding well & gaining a stack of weight. He’s sleeping for 2-4 hour stretches at night in his Moses basket but expecting changes coming up as he comes up to his first leap!

[Bumble84]

@MaverickDanger she’ll be 4 weeks on Thursday. She’s not putting on a huge amount of weight either, definitely in the smaller centile but the health visitor doesn’t seem concerned about it.

[makingababy]

Hi everyone. Hope you’re all well and making progress with sleep.

Our little girl Betsy arrived on 6 Jan and we’re in love. She had a really rough first few days - she was perfect for the first few hours and then she was taken away to neonatal intensive care. She spent two days in an an incubator while a leak/hole in one of her lungs healed.

She was an absolute trooper though and healed really well. We finally got to hold her again on Day 3, she moved out of intensive care on Day 4 and we got to go home on Day 6.

It was a really stressful time and felt so helpless watching her with her breathing tube in, and she had feeding tubes in both her nose and hand, and a chest drain coming out of her side.

I’m in awe of her though and she is so perfect.

Now we’re home we’re just trying to establish feeding and also struggling with sleep. Her feeding is coming along really well but it’s difficult since she was fed by tube until Day 4 so didn’t ever feel hungry when I did try to feed her. She is doing really well considering what’s she’s been through though! ❤️

[Nic2908]

Oh wow @makingababy sounds like you have been through quite a time. Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl.

[Katbaby]

Congratulations @makingababy sorry you've had such a difficult journey x

[Nic2908]

Can I ask a question to the girls who have had sections.... how long after did you have a bath? I'm 4 weeks post tomorrow would love a deep hot bath but because i had an ongoing infection I havnt just had showers so I'm just wondering really how long others left it.

[calipoppy]

@Nic2908 I had my first bath 2 days ago so 3.5 weeks after the surgery, but I didn't have an infection so it was more about waiting until I felt able to get in and out of the bath by myself! Maybe you could call the midwife if you're unsure and they might be able to give you some guidance?

[Bumble84]

@Nic2908 I asked my midwife this as well. I asked her at 8days post section and she said it was fine to have a bath but not to put any products in it. I’m not sure when you are able to start putting products in it right enough! I wasn’t desperate for a bath at that point but just wondered when I’d be able and I had my first bath about 3weeks post op. My wound was absolutely fine. I didn’t spend ages in the bath though and it wasn’t too hot either

[Nic2908]

Thanks guys the midwives discharged me today and said that the skin has come together well and that like you said its ok to have a bath with no products in it. I guess its just about me feeling brave enough now in terms of it not getting irritated.

[calipoppy]

Hows everyone getting on? This is my first week solo parenting, feeling very thankful DH is working from home! Don't know what I would do otherwise!

[Bumble84]

@calipoppy my DH is back at work tomorrow and I am dreading it! He is a shift worker so can’t work from home! I think this is when having a baby in lockdown will really kick in. I’m going to go a walk with the Pram am and pm just for my own sanity. Worried about how I’ll manage to get a shower though!

[Katbaby]

Hey everyone, Elodie is 2 weeks old today and I feel like I'm taking to motherhood as best I can, my dh is back at work tomorrow too though and I'm totally dreading it! How am I meant to get anything done 🙄😩

[Nic2908]

Noah is just over 4 weeks old now. Luckily hubby still isn't back at work until next week. I think we're doing ok... its hard though... sometimes I do think what the hell was I thinking having a baby. Usually when he is crying none stop and I don't know how soothe him. I'm loving seeing him grow every day.