Overdue and fed up

[bleachblondemom]

I’m 4 days overdue which I known isn’t a lot but I’m desperate to go into labour naturally as I really really don’t want to be induced. I’ve tried everything- walks, birthing ball, sex, curry, raspberry tea, clary sage oil in the bath! I’ve got no signs at all- no mucus plug loss, no loose stools, no regular cramps at all. I do feel some mild cramps in my lower abdomen but maybe one or twice a day, and that’s it. Don’t know what else to do! Due at the midwife tomorrow so will accept a sweep if offered but part of me thinks that won’t bloody work either.
I’ve also been trying to collect colostrum all week as I won’t be breastfeeding, and nothings happening there either. My body has just decided to be completely uncooperative and it’s getting me down.

Morning ladies - sounds like it's a bad day for all of us  I've not slept a wink yet, was up all night with horrible pain in my lower back and bad cramps... no idea if you could call them contractions but I think probably not, was convinced it was the start of something but it's all stopped! Going to get a few hours sleep hopefully, and midwife/aunt is going to come and see me this afternoon.
Definitely feel a cry coming on, really thought I could avoid induction on Sunday and potentially days being stuck in hospital alone but now I'm not sure. Ugh. Hating this.

@Scotabroad24 sounds exactly like what I had last night! I was really hoping to be woken up in the night by some proper contractions but no luck. Don’t lose hope yet you’ve still got a few days, great that you’ve got someone who can come and see you later. Another sweep on the cards?

A big question I've got is how do you know when you're having actual contractions?? I have lots of pains and each time I'm left wondering if they were contractions? 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Stargazer87 I think they’re meant to feel more like tight cramps that last a few seconds at a time, whereas I just have continuous mild cramps which makes me think they aren’t contractions ☹️

@bleachblondemom I've been getting the tight painful cramps that come and go but only seem to get a maximum of 4-5 in a row and then nothing! 🙄

Ughhh definitely lost all my positivity today 😟 midwife/aunt checked and just managed a bit of a sweep but I'm still barely past 1cm, and baby's head was in front of my cervix again. much more painful than the other day.

I asked her today how am I meant to tell if it's cramp or a contraction, and she said if you rest your hand at the top of your bump it should almost tighten and harden, then go soft again and that's a contraction, whereas think I just had bad cramps because the pain was much lower  sounds like we're all pretty much in the same boat here @Stargazer87 @bleachblondemom

I'm missing my wee dog already and just want to go home (wherever that is between the renovation and old apartment) feel like we're in limbo hanging around in parents house which makes me feel really ungrateful as they've been so welcoming and mum is desperate for us to feel at home here with baby until we can move into the new house. It's definitely a rollercoaster of emotions

@SEP880 have you seen your MW today? Hope you got some more information about the way forward for you and baby!

@Scotabroad24 I'm with you in terms of losing positivity, I've felt so down and emotional today.

I've heard that before about bump tightening during a contraction...not sure if it's just me but my bump is always quite hard and tight at the top? 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m struggling to feel positive today, I’m so fed up. Nothing is working. But I feel like I can’t let myself get upset about it because then I won’t go into labour, because hormones, so I’m stuck suppressing it all day which makes me feel horrible.

@bleachblondemom You're stronger than me, I've had several lots of tears today, I feel like I just can't control my emotions.

@Stargazer87 I had a little cry when DH got home, I couldn’t help it. Sending you big hugs, hope things start to look up for both of us. There’s still time 🤞

Hiya, just interrupting your thread to say that this was me earlier this year. I was 13 days over in the end and really upset - we had just gone in to first lockdown and all I got was messages asking if I was feeling worried about Covid / being overdue etc. Errrrr yes 100%!

In the end I was induced and it was all absolutely fine. Baby came and was and is just gorgeous.

Really hard to do but I’d go back and tell my past self to just relax and make the most of being able to have baths / eat what I want / watch a film etc. It feels like the baby will never come but I promise you it will.

I also was induced and ended up in c-section so happy to answer any questions on those too

Good luck everyone, babies will be here before you know it

@ShirleyPhallus thank you, that is really nice to hear xx

@bleachblondemom hang in there!! You've done a great job so far cooking your little one and in all likelihood, you'll have your baby in your arms by this time next Friday! Maybe take a hot bath and watch some tv in bed.

@Chanel05 thank you :) starting to cheer up a bit again. Think I’m just very up & down at the moment.

Hey ladies
It's so nice to read everyone's stories.. and I know in my rational mind that once baby is here I won't care how it got started but god it feels like the end of the world just now 

@Stargazer87 I'm sorry you've had such a bad day today, fingers crossed you get a good sleep and feel a bit better tomorrow.

I'm currently laying in bed, got really really sore lower back and every time I'm falling asleep or drifting off the pain wakes me, starting to feel really sleep deprived between last night and looks like more of the same tonight.. all feels very pointless and frustrating considering I'm still not even 2cm according to MW/aunt just want it over already!

@Scotabroad24 you’re right once we have our babies we probably won’t care, but right now it’s all I care about. I hate that my body isn’t doing what it’s meant to do. I feel like I’m failing already 😞 it’s so frustrating to keep feeling like progress might be happening and then it disappears. I feel for you 🙁

Today- I’ve been on two long walks and am now walking in circles around my living room. I’ve been on my birthing ball so much my legs ache. I’ve had sex. I’ve smothered myself in clary sage oil. I’ve chugged raspberry leaf tea. I’m bloody knackered! I’m getting lower back pain, pressure & pain in my pelvis and period-style cramps. A little bit of pain at the top of my bump but nothing like contractions. And I bet you any money I’ll still be ZERO dilated tomorrow.

Oh and lots of nipple stimulation which I cannot do anymore as they are killing me 😆

Evening all ! It seems all the worry about how my birth would pan out it actually resulted in an emergency c-section this morning and our little girl Emily was born at 5:45am - a healthy 9lb.11.1/4 !

A full head of dark hair and her dads chubby cheeks, she is a dreamboat. We are still
In hospital, hopefully just tonight and she has been wonderful to feed and is very sleepy !

I must agree with @addler, although this was far far from the birth we planned, it was still a really positive experience and resulted in a safe delivery for baby and I, which at the end of the day has to be the priority !

Really hope to hear some more baby news from the group in the coming days.

@bleachblondemom 🤣🤣 at least you can say you put 100% effort in! God I hope things are moving for you tomorrow and you manage to get a sweep!

I'm so tired, but just can't sleep, partly due to the pain and partly due to my mind being in overdrive. It's stressing me out even more because I keep thinking if this is the start, I'll be too tired by the time I get to hospital after 2 nights with no sleep! Arghhh! Even looking at OH lounging on his back in bed is giving me the rage!

Yaaaaay @SEP880 congratulations she's beautiful!! Not as big as they predicted either well done you!

@SEP880 congratulations!! Welcome to the world beautiful Emily!

@Scotabroad24 you can’t say I haven’t tried haha 😂 oh god you poor thing, is there anything that usually makes you sleepy that you can try? You could have a bath or read something. If you stay up late at night, can you catch up with a nap in the day? I struggle to drift off as well as I can’t shut my mind off, but fortunately once I’m asleep I’m not waking up several times a night like I was a few weeks ago, seem to have passed that phase. Although now I’m going to bed praying to be woken up by contractions 😆

Managed to drift off for a while around 1am then woke up 30 mins later...wide awake now on my ball with contractions!! Still pretty irregular but getting quite painful. Fingers crossed this is actually the start. Determined to avoid the hospital for as long as I can and wait it out with OH 😬

Bless you... Sounds exactly like my first pregnancy. Baby just did not want to come out, no matter what I did! I got a few "teasers" like loose bowels and occasional cramping, but nothing concrete. I tried everything. I ended up being induced. None of it mattered in the end, because my beautiful baby came eventually and it didn't matter how she got there.

I'm not sure why I'm posting... I suppose just to let you know that I know how you feel! You have very right to complain a lot, because being very overdue is fucking shit. I hope you are being very nice to yourself xx

Just been asked to go to the hospital for my pre-induction covid test...it's all seeming real now! 😢