[quote EmmaJane247]@jessstan1 no he hasn’t, every time I talk to him, he gives me 100 reasons why he doesn’t want to carry on the pregnancy, anywhere from COVID to finance to job worry’s. I can’t argue against his points as they are valid to some extent but that doesn’t diminish what I will have to go through.[/quote]
Have you told anyone - your parents?
As I said, earlier in the thread, I think you need to be very clear with him: support me or leave. Make sure he understands termination, then staying together and “trying again” is not an option.
(I say this as someone who had a termination that I do not regret, and went on to have children with the same partner. But it was my decision 100%, the pregnancy was accidental and early in our relationship. It was another 5+ years before we were ready for a baby.)
I can’t argue against his points as they are valid to some extent but that doesn’t diminish what I will have to go through.
Your mistake is in talking about it as if he is allowed “valid points” when it’s YOUR decision. You don’t need to argue about it. You just need to tell him you won’t be terminating because this is a planned for and wanted baby.
It must be scary, I’m sorry. But if you’re going to be a parent, if that’s what you want, then you’ll need to take the hard decisions a d start telling other people so you can get support.
Termination is the easy option, in many ways. But not if you don’t want it. I am pro-choice and the CHOICE must be the woman’s, for obvious reasons.