‘DP’ just accused me of exaggerating my morning sickness

[ForeveronEtsy]

I am so upset. I am 7 weeks and have felt absolutely dreadful the past week. Still going to work and when I get home I am so drained I have to go to bed. I am struggling to function and we have a dd who is 3.
DP and has just gone to bed in a huff because I opened the door to let some air in. I have felt this resentful tone from him since I got home. I went upstairs to confront him ‘and he said it’s funny how you feel better all of a sudden’. I have just opened the door because I feel sick? Feeling slightly better after I have had something to eat. Anyway I don’t need to explain. He then went on to say I seem to get miraculously better after dd goes to bed which is not true at all. I am fuming but mostly upset. If they only knew how wretched this feeling is.

I will.provide the alibi. You were definitely video messaging me at the time and I saw nothing untoward. We need someone about to build a patio now.

I'll corroborate the alibi

Dp literally never moans about feeling ill, can hurt himself quite badly and barely wince fucking weirdo and wonders why others aren't the same.

I had an emergency c section with ds, missed the drugs trolley because I was in NICU. I winced getting up off the pitifully low seat and he said "you're acting like you've had a kidney out"

Not sure how he's still alive 🤔

Bloody hell what a cunt! Sorry, this is inexcusably cruel. I couldn't even look at him. I would be looking at the patio though.

Thanks for the giggles. Even more of a kick to the teeth, looks like a night on the sofa for me as I refuse to get in bed with him. Ooh I will make up for it tomorrow though! Honestly get more sympathy from dd.

@ForeveronEtsy

Thanks for the giggles. Even more of a kick to the teeth, looks like a night on the sofa for me as I refuse to get in bed with him. Ooh I will make up for it tomorrow though! Honestly get more sympathy from dd.

Are you fucking joking?! The sofa for you?! Don't cut your nose off to spite your face. Please don't, it's silly. You can say you don't want to talk to him until tomorrow but don't want to miss out on a good nights sleep. Don't set a precedent of sleeping on the sofa or he can say you're being a martyr and as much as I sympathise with how AWFUL he's been (I do not like the sound of him!) that would be true. Mumsnet commands you not to sleep on the bloody sofa please!

Wow.
Well he needs to fuck right off doesn’t he?
What a wazzock.
I’d leave it until you feel a bit better but I think you need to have a serious chat...

You’re right! Have gone up and kicked him out

He makes me feel depressed

I’m not surprised. In the morning, get your DD, water, and a packet of biscuits and lie in bed together watching Netflix until you feel like you can get up. Don’t jump out of bed. And don’t ask him for anything.

Except maybe a divorce.

@ForeveronEtsy

You’re right! Have gone up and kicked him out

Thank god! Is he generally very selfish or is this a one off weird incident? It's bloody horrible!

No generally like this. I don’t even know what I am doing. I feel so lost and trapped 😢

I want to stab him for you! They have no fucking idea how hard it is, and they are bloody lucky they don't.

@ForeveronEtsy

No generally like this. I don’t even know what I am doing. I feel so lost and trapped 😢

You poor thing, he's been horrid and it's so hard to unhear things that really cause a gutpunch like he has tonight. I think it's time for a proper cards on the table talk about just how this made you feel tonight. I would preface it with saying you do not view this as an argument, don't want a shouting match but felt so, so hurt and can't bear not to communicate to him how upsetting it was to hear that when you're carrying a baby and feel wretched. Explain how you felt and try to communicate the sadness it caused. If he doesn't get it then I'm not sure what to suggest. You poor thing

Shocked just shocked 💐💐

The patio is too easy for him!

He needs to learn empathy first.

What would replicate hours and hours and weeks and weeks of morning sickness?

(There must be a toadstool that would make a good soup... or perhaps just a little salmoella sandwich? )

Yep let him see how he likes nausea it’s horrific no I’ve never been pregnant but last year for a month had a floating lens in my eye it made feel sick I had to go on antiemetics for it. Any more and I’d being your gone. How’s he going to be when your poorly other times.

I'm thinking more like laxatives in his drink before he goes to work.

But seriously, this is shit. Would you be able to leave him if you wanted to? What's stopping you and what's making you want to stay? Maybe people here can problem solve for you and find a way out?

I know what it's like being with a man like that when you're pregnant - I was on bed rest for weeks and he thought I was essentially hamming it up. In fact I was petrified of harming my baby by moving when I shouldn't and under strict drs orders to be sitting (with feet up) or lying down at all times.

I was abroad and couldn't divorce. About to be doing it now though.

Glad you got the bed! :)

Vomit on him. That'll do it.

"See, Dave, I told you I needed fresh air"

Vomit on him. I would. Someone told me during my first pregnancy that it was all in my head and I’ve never recovered from the insult years later, I would’ve lost my mind if it’d been DH.

Antabuse in his beer would replicate morning sickness. Not suggesting anything. Just stating a fact.

Someone (a man and noone's DH!) reminded me that pregnancy was not an illness ... this was on one of the days when it might as well have been a bout of food-poisoning.

He is no longer even an aquaintance.

It sounds like he doesnt want to do the bedtime parenting. He sounds like a really nobhead.

Oh god OP. If he's this much of a twat when you're pregnant I dread to think what he'll be like when the baby arrives

What a fucking tit. "Morning" sickness (ime it's 24/7 sickness) is no joke! I'd be livid. Funny how the man who is incapable of growing a human and all that entails is the expert on whether or not your symptoms are real. Tell him to fuck off.

Did you sleep OK OP? Hope so! Time for a sit down today I think