‘DP’ just accused me of exaggerating my morning sickness

[ForeveronEtsy]

I am so upset. I am 7 weeks and have felt absolutely dreadful the past week. Still going to work and when I get home I am so drained I have to go to bed. I am struggling to function and we have a dd who is 3.
DP and has just gone to bed in a huff because I opened the door to let some air in. I have felt this resentful tone from him since I got home. I went upstairs to confront him ‘and he said it’s funny how you feel better all of a sudden’. I have just opened the door because I feel sick? Feeling slightly better after I have had something to eat. Anyway I don’t need to explain. He then went on to say I seem to get miraculously better after dd goes to bed which is not true at all. I am fuming but mostly upset. If they only knew how wretched this feeling is.

I had this from bil. His Dp didn't have morning sickness at all, therefore it was all in my head.

I’ve never felt this bad! I slept ok, still in bed (waiting for my apology). He’s looking after dd so don’t want to discuss in front of her. But fine by me as don’t feel I can even look at him at the moment.

@Handsoffisback thank you for your kindness. I am sorry you are going through this too how far along are you if you don’t mind me asking?

I hope you find the strength to do what is best for you both @ForeveronEtsy and @Handsoffisback

At the start of the year I ended a relationship with someone who sounds eerily familiar to your partners. He was so low key mentally abusive that I spent so long having my confidence chipped away at, it took me a long time to realise he was the one with the problems and not me. I can’t fathom why anyone, nevermind your partner and father of your unborn child, would berate you or undermine your feeling so unwell.

I hope at the very least, you get an apology for the way he’s acting.

What was he like with the first?

Thank you @HappyDaze90
@Handsoffisback I feel the same, like I can’t go on feeling like this.
@Newwayofthinking not great. He drank and gambled, but said he would be better this time. He has changed a lot since then...but god I feel stupid writing this down now.

Drunk and gambled last time, cruel and selfish this time. Being a single parent is much healthier than being in a relationship with such a horrible person. And reduces the amount of healthy relationship dynamics your children will be exposed to, making them less likely to be in unhealthy relationships when they are adults. Please consider taking some steps to leave this man, this is more than one comment one time

Feel free to go mental on him.
Men need to realise they cannot question anything a pregnant woman is going through.

I can also provide an alibi.

I'm sorry if this is triggering but

Would you consider a termination or not and leaving him.

He sounds awful and lazy

I don't have children, never been pregnant and won't ever be pregnant but I'm aware of how bad 'morning' sickness can be and what pregnancy, labour and breastfeeding can do to a woman mentally and physically. I absolutely do not believe these types of men don't know unless they're incredibly stupid. The same as I don't have testicles but I know it's painful to be kicked in them.

I also don't want to sound cold or upset you but I was thinking the same as @Newwayofthinking

My exhusband was like this. I felt trapped too and had an awful second pregnancy (he was okay with the first then turned out to be utterly horrendous and emotionally abusive when the baby came along and he was no longer the most important person in the room at all times). It took me till our second was 5 to separate and I wish I’d done it years earlier (youngest is an adult now). For me, the longer I stayed the more he chipped away at my confidence and the more I lost track of how a partner should be (kind, sharing, enjoying the kids with you, supportive when you’re ill).

Hope you feel better today OP. Morning sickness is the worst and it would be even more challenging with an unsupportive partner. It’s completely debilitating. Have you gone to the doctor for tablets? Cyclizine helped me x

@Newwayofthinking

I'm sorry if this is triggering but

Would you consider a termination or not and leaving him.

He sounds awful and lazy

I'd have to agree with this to be honest .

I have thought about it, trust me. But I can’t. I did the same last year because I was so depressed and struggled with it since. It was really traumatic. All I’ve wanted is to be pregnant again. Which is why this is hurting so much now. I just don’t know what I’m doing. I really struggle with my mental health generally, but especially in pregnancy. That on top of feeling so physically awful is just unbearable. Felt a bit better today but that is because I have been in bed all day

Nobody knows I am pregnant yet so I can’t talk to anyone irl. I appreciate all your comments x

He has just called me ‘bananas’ after a blazing row. I have left the house in the car. If it wasn’t for my dd I would honestly end it now

He’s an arse and you deserve better.

I’d seriously consider leaving with your 3 year old and consider your options regarding this current pregnancy.

Is there anywhere you can go at least for a couple of nights? Assuming he won't leave the house himself because he sounds like the kind of prick who would rather you and little one were inconvenienced than him. I'm so sorry he's being such an arsehole, it's time to get a plan together

@ForeveronEtsy you need to LTB now for the sake of your DD plus baby. A depressed mother is no good to either if you can get out. I'd lock it him out and if he does manage to get back in I love the idea of a PP of vomiting on him. Abuse doesn't have to be physical, he's subjecting you to emotional abuse.

He is working the next few days so I won’t have to see him. Just worried about looking after dd on my own and feeling like this

Oh lovely, those peak morning sickness weeks are HELL. Your husband sounds like he has no empathy or understanding as to how shit early pregnancy makes you feel. The good news is in a few weeks, the chances are you'll feel much better. I told people that I'm close to when I was pregnant after 6 weeks as m/c rate drops after that point. If you need support, reach out to those you trust - I'm 22 weeks now and doing just fine after telling close family early. I hope your husband finds some perspective, I second the suggestion of vomiting on him x

I would make plans to leave him, he sounds abusive and will be doing nothing to help your mental health.

Away your life will be much calmer, I'm not saying it will be easy, but you won't have the added stress of a man who won't step up to the mark.

I'm sure if you stay, it will get worse, not better.

Even if you dont leave now, put things in place so you could if you wanted.

You say you really want to be pregnant again and that you don't know what you're doing etc etc. Could it be the lack of love/affection in your relationship is driving some of the broodiness? You might be aware that you have a need to feel loved and wanted but your DH isn't fulfilling that.
Just an angle to consider as the theme of feeling like you feel that you don't know what youre doing was coming through in your posts