How soon did you tell your parents?

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Hi all

Just asking to get a general vibe really. I have very recently found out I am pregnant so I'm 4 weeks pregnant - very early days!

Me and my OH are really close to both sets of parents. I'm in two minds - wait for a scan and tell the parents or tell them sooner but just say it in a way like it's very early days, but we wanted to share the news. I would keep the news limited to parents but I really am that close to them that if anything were to happen I would want to discuss everything with them.

Did anyone else tell parents very early on?

I told mine at 13 weeks, after scan.

13 weeks. We waited until we had our scan and NIPT test. I probably would have told them sooner but my sister had just experienced a pregnancy loss so didn't want to tell people until it was safer.

The day I had a positive pregnancy test, there was no way I could not have told my mum, we're quite close and would have wanted her support if something was to happen

19 weeks.

We told them at 8 weeks after a private scan to confirm there was a heartbeat but just go with what feels best for you.

I told my parents and in laws straight away with my first baby as I wanted to share the good news and would have hated it if the first they new about it was because something sad had happened. I trusted them not to tell people and I made a point of saying it was such early days. I told quite a few people (close friends and work friends) because I know I would have shared sad news with them and needed their support if that had happened. I didn’t post online or tell a load of strangers that would mean awkward questions later on.
I waited a little longer with my 2nd baby as my sister had just found out she was pregnant and I didn’t want to steal her thunder.

My parents within about 15 mins of positive test (walked straight round with DH to tell them). In-laws live a long way away so FaceTimed them as soon as we left my parents. Both sets of parents knew within an hour of the test! We didn't tell anyone else until later in the pregnancy but we're so close to both sets of parents it felt right for both of us to tell them straight away

3 months here.

It depends on how you are.

I am quite shy and both sets can be very effusive!!! Had to tell them at 2 months first time. That made me feel very uncomfortable.... I was super scared about miscarriage (don't know why...) and they wouldn't stop going on and on and on! they wanted to buy baby bottles!!!! At 2 months!!!!

3rd pregnancy DH told FIL (he had his obsessive reasons....) and I did miscarriage very early. 2 days after he told him. It was awful, I couldn't look him in the face (and we live in the same house).

15 weeks. I wish I'd waited longer because I cannot bear the fussing and flapping. Not close to DM at all. Very close to MIL, and would have told her the moment I got the BFP, but the fallout from DM would have been epic.

We waited until after the scan dating scan xx

We told ours at 5/6 weeks; I also told my best friend and sister. I wanted to be able to share it with them and I don’t think I could have gone weeks of only talking to DH about it.

We told at 8 weeks but it was Christmas and we knew everyone would twig if I wasn’t drinking! We did have an early scan to confirm heartbeat and told everyone it was very early days not that that stopped MIL from getting super over excited as usual

I told my mum about 2 minutes after I showed dh the positive pregnancy tests both times!

I also told my mum immediately after the positive test - whether it had gone badly or (as it seems to be going!) well after that point, I would have wanted to talk about it with her and have her support :) the OHs family knew within a few weeks.

Late on. I don’t have a close relationship with either mine or my in laws.
18-20 weeks I think, even then it’s because I happened to see my mother (can’t remember why) and she asked as I had a bump).
Probably would have just text when baby was born to let them know.

@MrsN2121

We told them at 8 weeks after a private scan to confirm there was a heartbeat but just go with what feels best for you.

This is what we did too

5weeks. I had two previous miscarriages, and knew how important their support had been. My thinking was if worse happens I would be telling them about miscarriage, so let them enjoy the happy news. Now 24weeks!!!!!

My parents at 8 weeks after a private early/reassurance scan

His parents at 12 weeks after the dating scan (MIL is terrible at keeping secrets so we waited to tell them just in case it got out before we were ready to let more people know).

Close friends and family a few days after that.

I rang them at 715am on the morning of my IVF official test day 4w 2 days. I had known for a few days already as I was naughty and tested early. They knew that we had been going through ivf and had been there for us so it was important they knew! Equally told some friends that day too
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A couple of days after we found out with baby number one (we had no idea of gestation then as I have really irregular periods but it turned out to be very early on) and 6 weeks with baby number two for my parents and PIL. We’re close with both sets and would have wanted their support if anything had gone wrong anyway.

7 weeks here. They'd have known something was up anyway as we see them regularly and I was quite sick so I interrogated them for tips on how to help ease the sickness!

After the dating scan. Really good relationship with parents but knew they would let it slip to other people so waited until ready to share the news more widely

Yep I told my parents as soon as the line came up, just after dh have done with all four pregnancies - 2 Dc and 13 weeks with #3

10 weeks my parents, 20 weeks the in laws once all the tests came back ok. They are chronic worriers and we weren’t interested in dealing with their worries on top of our own!