How soon did you tell your parents?

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Hi all

Just asking to get a general vibe really. I have very recently found out I am pregnant so I'm 4 weeks pregnant - very early days!

Me and my OH are really close to both sets of parents. I'm in two minds - wait for a scan and tell the parents or tell them sooner but just say it in a way like it's very early days, but we wanted to share the news. I would keep the news limited to parents but I really am that close to them that if anything were to happen I would want to discuss everything with them.

Did anyone else tell parents very early on?

We told my parents at 5 weeks, and my haven't told my partner's parents yet- we are planning to do this at 12 weeks. This is only because they have been wanting this for us for a long time and we know that they will not keep it to themselves.

I told mine v early as it meant I was working from home (Covid). It meant that there wasn’t such a big, happy moment as I was super cautious about how early it was. Even though I’d probably tell them anyway if anything went wrong after the event, another time I’d wait so I could have that big happy moment where we were more sure of things. Congratulations OP-I’m sure they’ll be delighted whenever you tell them. X

20 weeks. No idea why people tell so early

The day after I took a pregnancy test. It was not planned and I was shocked but my mam's response was so much happiness that it allowed me to feel happy about it.

At 12 weeks, after scan. I'd have put it off longer, but DH was tired of being secretive

People wait for the scan in case something goes wrong. Would you like your parents to know if something goes wrong, if yes, just tell them. If you don't want them to know wait for the scan. Everyone knew very early on with me as pregnancy made me so ill!

7 weeks. It was an IVF pregnancy after years of trying and multiple cycles. Didn't get the response I'd hoped for (think they were a little shocked and scared as it was so early on!) so would leave it until 12 weeks if we were lucky enough to get preggo again

Oh, and we waited for the 12 week scan with DH's mum. Figured if something went wrong then I'd need the support of my parents, which is why we told them at different times

Told in laws straight away as I had had a few miscarriages and I knew my dh would want his mums support if I miscarried again. I wanted to tell my mum but decided not to and as the weeks went by it got nearer to Xmas so we put a 12 week scan pic in her Xmas card , she was so shocked and happy I was glad I waited, it was hard thou !

Peed on the stick at 7.30am, left for work at 8am, couldn't wait any longer and rang my mum from the car at about 8.30am then to be fair, I did walk into my office looking absolutely shellshocked and when everyone asked what was wrong I just held up the stick, so my boss and all my colleagues knew at 3+5!! I am glad the people I am around daily knew though as I was very sick and anxious very quickly. I knew I needed my mum's support no matter which way the pregnancy went. Not nearly as close to DH's parents and only see them a few times a year, we told them after our early scan at 8 weeks when we next visited them.

We told our parents and siblings right away, but swore them to secrecy. Everyone else we told at about 14 weeks.

No idea why people tell so early

Because it was literally the most exciting and wonderful thing that had ever happened to me, and we’re close to our families, and it was lovely to share the joy and excitement.

Told my parents at about 11 weeks and DH’s parents and our siblings at 13 weeks after the scan.

We wanted to tell them altogether but I needed to ask my Dad to take my slot in an activity that I could no longer do. It wasn’t just something we could tell him on the day either so forced our hand a bit.

I told my parents immediately. Actually before that I told them we were trying and when I was ovulating etc 😂
We are very close and have a great relationship

No idea why people tell so early
Because nothing about it is shameful, and I have a great relationship with both my family and ILs and it would be weird not to mention the biggest thing going on in my life when I am in contact with them daily. Also I vomited all day every day from 5 or 6 weeks onwards and it would have been really hard to come up with an excuse as to why I couldn’t physically do anything other than lie horizontal for several months!

I told my parents straight away, after a previous loss I felt that if anything happened again I would need their support. My partner is great but I really leaned on my mum last time. I'm now 28 weeks, and don't regret telling them at 5 weeks although it's felt like the longest pregnancy ever haha! But I knew if anything had happened In the early days I would have told them anyway.

A couple of days after both pregnancy tests. I am close to both parents so would find it impossible to keep to myself. DM is an excellent source of support whilst pregnant so I wanted her to know straight away.

Told MIL to make it fair, but could have waited as we arent as close to her.

I told mine I thought I was pregnant before I bought a test, then confirmed it as soon as I'd done the test.

We are tying telling both sets of parents and siblings with my DHs birthday so we will be 15-16 weeks when they are told.

9dpo when I had a positive test as we had booked a holiday the night before (with parent and other family) which was for end of August and baby is due in September. We needed to cancel the trip within 24 hours to get our full refund! Other parents, after 12 week scan.

I had a miscarriage in January at 6 weeks and the first our parents knew about the pregnancy was when my oh rang them from the hospital (I wanted my mum as my oh needed to go to work, it was a suspected eptopic). I then got pregnant again but decided to tell my parents/his parents early due to what happened the first time. We didn’t tell our siblings until we’d seen a heart beat at a 8 week scan though.

I told my mum as soon as I had tested and saw a line. We’d been trying for over a year and I was off work with stress because of it. DH was at work so I told him that evening. Also told my colleagues at work as I was throwing up already (previous HG pregnancy and the same for #2). PILs were told a couple of days later as I was so ill and they also knew we’d been trying and how it was affecting me. Close friends knew within about a week, again because I was so ill. We knew that it was very early but there was absolutely no way to hide it as I was off work on 4 different antiemetics and my daughter was telling everyone I kept being sick.

Tell them when you feel it’s right and don’t let anyone make you feel like it’s too soon/not soon enough.

My parents and siblings were told the same day we found out - I was going through IVF and my parents were aware and knew when test day was etc.

We had a scan at 7 and a half weeks (the norm with IVF) and we told MIL straight away after once we knew there was a heartbeat. My DH has chosen not to tell anyone about the IVF. We told his siblings about the pregnancy at 20 weeks (his choice) though this was partly fueled by his dislike for his sister in law who didn't tell us about her pregnancy till she was well past 20 weeks despite being very visibly pregnant.

To me some of these suggest a level of over-involvement with parents. I'm fond of and close to mine (and my ILs), but I can't honestly imagine sharing details of ovulation, your sex life, IVF etc.

First pregnancy: mum was with me when I got impregnated (IVF) so I told her as soon as I got a positive treat as I knew she would be worrying about the potential news. Told my dad and the in laws after seeing the heartbeat at 8 week scan.

This time: not told anyone except my best friend yet (I'm 6 weeks) and I think e we will wait until after getting the all clear from 12 week scan and tests. It's hard not being able to talk to my mum about it though!