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How long did it take and what she were you

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Timetotry123 · 12/07/2020 19:39

I’m 33 and been TTC for 11months currently in the tww. My doctor has referred me for initial fertility tests I’ve had 21 day bloods and all fine my partner has to get a sperm analysis too as the hospital will be looking for these results. It’s very disheartening every month. When I first started trying I looked at statistics and never thought I would still be trying nearly a year down the line. You spend your younger years thinking it’s very easy to get pregnant and to be careful but I wish I knew then what I know now. What is everyone else’s experienceSmile

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BlueLagoona · 12/07/2020 22:41
  1. Age 19 - TTC for 2 months. Miscarriage at 9 weeks.

2. Age 20 -TTC for 3 months.

3. Age 22 - TTC for 13 months. Doing absolutely everything ‘right’. Was just in the process of being referred for investigations when I became pg.

4. Age 30. Not TTC at all. I was on the pill (used properly) AND we used a condom (used properly) AND it was completely the wrong time of the month. Still can’t quite work out how it happened.

I think there’s very little rhyme or reason to it tbh just pure luck. Fingers crossed for you op.
JamMakingWannaBe · 12/07/2020 23:12

OP, do you have an ovulation tracker?

mumworkstudywine · 12/07/2020 23:17

First baby was a surprise baby and I was 19 when I conceived, 20 when I gave birth.
Fast forward and second baby took five months to conceive and a chemical on the third month. Meticulous planning using an insane amount of apps and OPKS. I am currently 20+5 and I'm 28 years old.

Timetotry123 · 12/07/2020 23:24

Thanks so much, makes me feel a little better I think I just expected it to be quite easy and I’d have my baby by now instead I have every TTC accessory under the sun lol. I use the Flo app but I also use clearblue advanced digital ovulation tests. I do get spotting before my period anywhere between 3-5 days before which is annoying and I thought could possibly not be helping as it’s shortening my LP but my doctor didn’t seem to be too concerned about that. I have a 27-29 day cycle and ovulate around cd13-cd14. I’ve started taking B6 this cycle to see if that helps with the spotting. Your stories all give me some hope yet my only regret is I probably should have started younger, we’ve been together for 16 years lol just too busy going on holidays, getting our careers buying a house ,urgh boring adult stuff lol. Thanks again everyone :)

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emma911030 · 12/07/2020 23:26

About 5 months I was 26, my partner was37. I know it's probably what people don't like to hear but you asked for experiences.., we didn't ever label what we were doing as 'trying' together we said ok I'll stop taking my pill and will just see what happens. I had the 'flo' app but it just gave me an idea of when to expect my period rather than looking at 'fertile days' we didn't want it to be a stressful chore so just tried to enjoy the sex we had just not protected anymore.

Pipandmum · 12/07/2020 23:41

40 and 42, four months each time.
My friend took six years to conceive (low sperm count) then had three in three years without intervention.

Fatted · 12/07/2020 23:58

32 with my eldest. It took me nine months. BUT my cycles were very irregular after coming off the pill. And I don't think we were having sex regularly enough. It took six weeks of doing the deed every 2-3 days to get BFP.

I was 34 with my youngest. It was on the first month of trying. Another BUT with him. I had stopped the pill for other reasons about six months before so it was well out of my system and my cycles were regular. Again lots of sex outside of what I thought was my fertilie window, which was totally wrong, so it's a good job we still carried on for a few weeks afterwards!

Camia · 13/07/2020 00:36

Beat of luck to you op, I hope you get it soon

I'm 22 and mine came as a huge surprise to us. We were planning on waiting a while longer to have kids but definitely wanted them before too long. Expecting baby boy any time now

kittenpeak · 13/07/2020 00:42

Hi OP. Conceived first at 33 on cycle 4, however had been having unprotected sex for over a year, "hoping" it would happen but not checking calendars as we wanted to be chilled. Our wedding was coming up too. Was getting quite down as couldn't understand why it wasn't working, but then tried the "sperm meets egg"
Process and bam it worked. I mean, it might have worked anyway, but I am a believer in it!

DramaAlpaca · 13/07/2020 00:42

It took me 11 months to conceive DC1, at 28. I was starting to think something was wrong.

After that, DC2 took 1 month and DC3 4 months.

Pinktruffle · 13/07/2020 00:45

2.5 years, one miscarriage after 12 months (I was 35) then one round of IVF at 36 and it was successful luckily, currently 37 and due in November

happymummy12345 · 13/07/2020 01:04

I was 21 when I conceived and 22 when I gave birth. I came off the pill in the July and conceived in the November, so 4 months.

Timetotry123 · 13/07/2020 08:17

I tried SMEP this month just got something different lol. Every other day until positive opk then everyday for 3 days miss a day then do the next. I think that’s correct. The doctor says try to just enjoy yourself and don’t be stressed but it really is easier said that done. I’ll just hang in there a little longer Smile

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MaryShelley1818 · 13/07/2020 08:23

Age 39 and took 5 cycles
Age 42 and took 18mths (currently 10wks pregnant)

CD28 · 13/07/2020 08:33

I am currently 18 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I came off the mini pill in February at 28 yo and took 3 weeks to fall pregnant. I was shocked and prepared for it to take longer if I'm honest. Sometimes I think there is no rhyme nor reason?! I genuinely thought I'd struggle to conceive as I am overweight and been on every type of contraceptive since I was 14!

BlueLagoona · 13/07/2020 13:46

I know it’s only anecdotal but I have heard lots of other women who’ve had similar...

With dc2 (which took 13 months TTC) I did everything ‘right’. Took vitamins, monitored my cycle, did it at the right time and all the rest.

Nothing for 12 months. Month 13 when I got pg was the first month we didn’t ‘try’ - we were in the middle of buying a house, I was snowed under at work, we were away for a week and all the planning and trying went out of the window - and that was the month we were successful.

I’ve heard similar stories from others so it may be worth keeping on DTD but trying to throw yourself into a project for a couple of months to take your mind off TTC just in case it makes a difference.

Timetotry123 · 13/07/2020 14:27

I really would love to be able to do that because it is quite stressful but I just know when that time comes around I go into some sort of crazy mode lol. If I could just live without knowing what date it is I would be ok and could take the laid back approach. If not successful this time then I’m going to have to try this though as it’s becoming mentally hard and disheartening.

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Imonlydoingwhatican · 13/07/2020 14:31

1st 19 (wasnt planned)
2nd 27 (ttc 2 and half years)
3rd 35 ( ttc 3 months)


sel2223 · 13/07/2020 14:34

It's easier said than done to just relax and not think about it but I really do think it works!

I came off birth control last Aug to give my body a few months to adjust before starting TTC properly in Jan. We didn't use any contraception but we didn't track or anything either and just DTD as often as we normally would. I actually never gave it a second thought.
I conceived unexpectedly on the second cycle after coming off birth control while enjoying a lush, relaxing holiday with copious amounts of eating and drinking (at age 37)

SqidgeBum · 13/07/2020 14:46

On DC1 I was 26 and it took 9 months. On DC2 I was 28 and it took one night of throwing caution to the wind. I had just received a diagnosis of uterean polyps and a nurse told me it will 'cause problems' TTC.

I really think it's just pure dumb luck, which is really hard when you are TTC and every month is a disappointment. All you can do is keep trying Flowers

London91 · 13/07/2020 15:14

I'm 28 and it's taken 3 years, I've had 3 miscarriages in that time and an op for endometriosis. I'm now 33 weeks pregnant.

IsItGinOclock1 · 13/07/2020 16:17

1st - 31 - first month
2nd - 32 - a surprise
3rd - 36 - first month but ended in a miscarriage at 6/7 weeks
4th - 36 - 1 cycle after the miscarriage

We’ve been very lucky bar the miscarriage.

Viletta · 13/07/2020 17:05

4 years and 4 rounds of IVF. DH sperm to blame but all worth it!

roro87 · 13/07/2020 17:22

@Timetotry123 I'm the most stressy person who obsesses over everything honestly I had apps tests you name it. the one month I did nothing (apart from sex, and that was because I wanted to didn't even realise it was near ovulation) it worked. So there is a lot to be said for it and tbh when people said it to me previously I thought to myself you are full of S* what would you know, turned out to be true for me. I hope you get your BFP soon x

Umberta · 13/07/2020 17:25

Just coming back to say, I struggled with those silly ovulation tracker apps for about 12 of our 18 months. Felt so relieved when I finally gave up and just DTD whenever. It's like you said OP about going into crazy mode around the fertile window, it's awful really. So we sort of "gave up" and if family and friends asked, we just said it might never happen (sadly), and they stopped talking about it sharpish.
In the end (probably TMI hehe) we actually conceived when my DH was recovering from an injury and his leg was in a cast! Took some acrobatics but I just fancied him haha we definitely weren't thinking about TTC that day. Stopping stressing over the apps might not have scientifically helped us conceive but definitely helped me enjoy it more!

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