Gender Disappointment

[Tinad91]

I feel like I am the worst mum to be in the world. I was really hoping for a baby girl but we are having a baby boy. Baby is healthy and strong 'touch wood' but I can't help feel disappointment! I feel so guilty. Am I alone in this?

I wanted a girl and it had nothing to do with playing dress ups or assuming she would want to go shopping with me. I had a tough time growing up at the hands of my stepdad and his favouritism of my brother. I wanted to give a little girl a different experience.
I have never been assaulted or victimised by a woman but plenty of men in my life have done this. The perpetrators of DV are overwhelmingly men. It made me nervous to think that I could be tasked with trying to raise a little boy in a way that counteracted our patriarchal society.

Ignore the incredibly tedious people rushing in to tell you how wrong you are to feel what you feel, OP. They, of course, have never had conflicted feelings over anything so couldn't possibly imagine it. The reality is that while yes, anyone can be anything, boy or girl, there are certain interests/hobbies/passions etc that girls are much more likely to have than boys, even if the root of that is just socialization. This pretense that there is absolutely no difference in raising boys or girls is ridiculous. There are many things that through biology or gender roles differ. I will never have a little girl and I have no problem admitting that I'm a little bit sad about that. That says nothing about whether I love my DS1 and 2.

@GoshHashana I think you'll find your comment is actually disgusting. She hasn't said she doesn't love her child for god sake! I'm sure everyone who has an understanding of where the OP is coming from are so sorry they're not as perfect as you. Your comment is neither helpful or necessary!
Were you never taught as a child if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all!? Let's hope your child/children don't learn to be so disgustingly judgmental as their mother!

This is part of the reason I didn't want to find out with my first. I knew I would love them regardless when they arrived so waited until then. My little boy is so much fun to be around.
Pregnant again and hoping for another boy but will find out this time just incase I need to prepare for a girl.

Once again thank you for all your lovely comments. And to the woman who called me disgusting - I feel sorry for you and your poor child/children as they'll clearly never feel empathy from their mother. I'm not commenting again ladies, just another place to be judged by the looks of things.

Well it seems like’ve got over your gender disappointment now so that’s good. Focus on the fact that you are lucky enough to be buttering a healthy child.

Whilst we’re doing the victim olympics you might want to know that all my girl pregnancies died inside me or had to be terminated due to chromosomal abnormalities. The other pregnancies I lost I’ve no idea why, bad luck maybe.

*nurturing