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Unsure who dad is

12 replies

Anonymous2122 · 12/06/2020 17:44

Hi, I don't really have any one else to talk to about this and have found myself in a difficult situation where my baby has two potential father's, please helpme to figure it out 😔 I'm aware I don't look great from any of this and was going through a really hard time, given dates I'm obviously keeping the baby it's just getting to me that there is no real way of knowing until the baby gets here.

My LMP was on December 9th and I usually have a 29 day cycle.

On 15th December I had unprotected sex with guy A.

On 20th December I went on a night out and fooled around with guy B. We didnt have sex but there was some brief touching of genitals without underwear on. we were both really drunk and he couldn't get it up and certainly didn't finish.

22nd December had unprotected sex with guy A again.

Both times guy A finished inside me where as guy B didn't go inside me, the touching was brief (less than 2 mins) and didn't finish at all and as far as I remember there was no precum.

Dates were adding up that it would be guy As Babu However at 12 week scan I was put ahead by 2 days which would make date of ovulation 21st and most likely day of conception 20th so more in line with Guy B.

In my head it is so ridiculously unlikely that it is guy Bs baby given the circumstances of the occasion but being put forward has just caused a niggle in the back of my head that it could be his.

Im not with either guy but would prefer it to be guy As as Guy B doesn't really have his life together and would not be prepared or emotionally available for this.

Please help!!

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Aardvarkitsabloodyaardvark · 12/06/2020 17:46

Baby is A's op I'd bet on it. The scans aren't as accurate as you think. Goodluck Flowers

KindleAndCake · 12/06/2020 17:47

I think its guy A. You're only talking a couple of days difference. I think you conceived on the 22nd.

AdalbertWaffling · 12/06/2020 17:50

There will be people soon saying "of course it could be guy Bs", but by the sounds of it it is highly, highly unlikely. You need sperm to make a baby and if you didn't even have sex, let alone him ejaculate, then the odds are most definitely stacked in guy A's favour. If he "couldn't get it up" then it's even less likely there was sperm involved. I think it's safe to assume it's guy A's - don't forget that sperm can survive for 5 days inside you, so the dates for A could still add up

Sunny4876 · 12/06/2020 17:50

I'd definitely say guy A and I'm saying that as someone who did conceive from pre-cum,but there was at least penetration 😳

midnightstar66 · 12/06/2020 17:53

The scans aren't that accurate- definitely guy A

Marlena1 · 12/06/2020 17:54

I would say guy A too, sorry I imagine this is stressful. I remember them saying the same about my dates and thinking that they couldn't be that accurate. Congratulations!

midnightstar66 · 12/06/2020 17:54

And add to pp's suggestion thy guy A's swimmers could have hung about even if dated were spot on

ladytremaineswig · 12/06/2020 18:00

It's guy A. My scan put me ahead 3 days and I was using ovulation testing kits so I'm pretty sure of my days.

Anonymous2122 · 12/06/2020 18:03

Thank you everyone! I know it probably sounds stupid even questioning it given I didn't even have sex with guy B and he didn't finish but you read all these stories about people getting pregnant from precum/dry humping etc and it's just been niggling in the back of my mind!

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RoseGoldEagle · 12/06/2020 20:41

It’s Guy A. It sounds virtually impossible for it to be Guy B from your description of what happened. I know the date I ovulated, but my scan would suggest I ovulated 4 days before I actually did- and I know I’m right- so a few days out really doesn’t mean anything! Good luck OP

Cherryrainbow · 12/06/2020 23:01

Didn't you post this several times before under different user names? The exact dates of sex with person a and b have been used before, and pretty sure everyone at the time based on the info given then, said that there was no way to tell who was the dad, let them both know theres a chance, and to take a paternity test. It sounds like some of the info has just been jigged about to try and get the answer to change...

Haffdonga · 12/06/2020 23:09

Yes. This has been posted almost word for word more than once.

OP, you cant find out the answer by asking us randoms on the internet. Even if we tell you the answer you want to hear, you don't believe it so I'd stop asking if I was you.

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