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Did you find out the sex of your baby?

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TeddyIsaHe · 29/05/2020 21:48

Dp and I are currently in a discussion re finding out the sex of our (currently imaginary) baby.

I found out with Dd. I was beyond certain she was a girl from the moment I conceived I just had to know! I’m erring on the side of surprise this time. I just think the ‘it’s a girl/boy!’ moment after birth would be lovely to experience!

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momtoolliex · 29/05/2020 22:16

Yep I found out exactly 16 weeks - I was too impatient and was over the moon to be having a boy we also got some very bad news at our anomaly scan too so I'm glad I found out the gender separate to that scan, as it wouldn't of been an exciting experience due to finding out his condition

SneakersandSocks · 29/05/2020 22:18

Yes, we wanted to know, I felt strongly DC was a girl and she was! We had our name decided and I loved being able to talk to her and say her name, it felt like I was closer to her somehow. I do like the idea of the sex being a surprise so perhaps with DC no.2 (hopefully) we will not find out, although I’m not sure I could wait!

Chirpychirpy3 · 29/05/2020 22:19

We didn’t find out and it was the best thing ever. I was convinced I was having a boy so when we looked down and saw it was a girl we were shocked but so happy. I love a surprise.

walkingchuckydoll · 29/05/2020 22:22

We have such a different taste in names that finding one name we both like is hard enough, let alone two! Plus that I hate surprises with a passion. There is enough anxiety surrounding the birth for me to not need another surprise.

JoandLily · 29/05/2020 22:25

I didn't find out and it was honestly the best suprise ever, I loved listening to everyone's guesses. I'm trying for a second now and I wouldn't find out again. I think it's like someone giving you a wrapped up present and telling you what's in it before you open it x

FourPlasticRings · 29/05/2020 22:28

Found out with the first but not doing with the second.

SunbathingDragon · 29/05/2020 22:29

Did twice and didn’t twice. Both times we didn’t, I really regret it and wish that we had.

BeMorePacific · 29/05/2020 22:31

DC 1 we found out, but told everyone we didn’t know (purely so they wouldn’t try and get it out of us!)
This time around we’re going for a surprise. Almost 18 weeks, and I feel like I’ll be even more excited for the birth not knowing x x

ilovetomatoes · 29/05/2020 22:32

Found out with my first which was great as I just needed to know and Helped me feel like I was in control if you know what I mean. Second was a surprise which was Utterly wonderful as no expectations. So either way is fine but on reflection I think not finding out was better. It was amazing to meet them for the first time without any preconceptions

BakewellGin1 · 29/05/2020 22:33

First time we didn't find out... This time we did...mainly for DS benefit as he was desperate for a baby brother and luckily got one. Scan was lovely but I was so tense waiting as I knew he had pinned all his hopes on a boy.

secretllama · 29/05/2020 22:33

Nope, I wanted my husband to tell me at the birth what we had. Hearing him say Its a boy was just the best feeling, and worth the 9 months of not knowing

kyles101 · 29/05/2020 22:37

Found out accidentally 10 mins before he came out - had to have a scan to check positioning and dr said "oh, he's a big boy" 😂

TeddyIsaHe · 29/05/2020 22:38

I am also a hugely impatient person so may crack at the anomaly scan anyway!

I just love the idea of Dp being the one to tell me, and a nice surprise at the end of Labour. He wants to know though, so it may be a bit of a fraught discussion

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Giganticshark · 29/05/2020 22:38

'birth was not as exciting' oh ffs.

Found out both times, makes nothing more or less special.

FourPlasticRings · 29/05/2020 22:43

I thought it would help with telling DS1 as well, but if we mention it's a boy he gently corrects us. 'No, it's a baby.'

That's lovely.

Scythrop · 29/05/2020 22:51

Found out when she was born. I was quite surprised by how invested people were in the sex of the baby - colleagues declaring the baby would be a boy because of the shape of the bump, etc. It was sweet of them though a bit tiresome for me - I must be unusual not to care

sel2223 · 29/05/2020 22:56

I was always adament I wouldn't find out but OH was so excited and keen to find out, i gave in.
Seeing how much he is bonding with our unborn child and how excited he is now makes me feel it was the right decision for us.

Crabbo · 29/05/2020 22:59

Found out with both of my girls and I’ll be finding out this time too. It’s still a surprise when they come out as you get to see who they are (which turned out to be my husbands grandma with dd1 )

samandpoppysmummy · 29/05/2020 23:03

I didn't find out with either of mine and I'm very pleased that I didn't.

It was so exciting finding out when they were born :)

Spotsonmyapples · 29/05/2020 23:34

We did for first. I didn't feel strongly and thought I'd find out anyway at some point so might as well find out at scan. Had a strong feeling it was a boy and it was.
Now pregnant with second and had 20w scan yesterday and I don't know the sex, I looked away at the important bits because the minute the probe touched my belly last time the willy and balls were right there
We had the experience of knowing and now we'd like the experience of not knowing (and this will probably be our last).
I want it to be a certain sex so I hope I'm not just holding out for it to be that, but I know I won't actually care when it's here and healthy and I'm looking forward to finding out a different way.

bee222 · 30/05/2020 00:35

Nope - I really don’t care what sex it is. Plus it stops people from buying me loads of pink and blue tat.

ProudMarys · 30/05/2020 00:40

I found out with both of mine it was good snd a nice surprise at 20 weeks plus we could get gender based things if we wanted. But in all honesty I kind of wished I had a waited until the birth at least once. DH was adamant he wanted to know second time when I said I like a surprise wish I said no.

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SquigglyOne · 30/05/2020 05:18

Before getting pregnant I always thought I would want a surprise but the second I saw that second line I was desperate to find out. Had gender scan at 17 weeks and did a gender reveal (very unpopular on here) with close family and friends. Finding out we were having a boy at the same time as the people we love was such a special moment for us. I was also so so convinced we were having a girl so total shock 😂

ChipsAreLife · 30/05/2020 05:33

I didn't find out with first two and haven't this time. For me that moment at birth when DH told me is like no other and I feel so excited that we get it to do it again!

Once you get through the 20 week scan the temptation is gone (unless you have more scans of course). DDs love guessing and talking about it what its going to be, as do we!

peachypetite · 30/05/2020 05:37

I’m pregnant and we have decided not to find out. I can’t wait to have a surprise at the birth!

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