Silly things people say to you when pregnant?

[babyt2020]

Luckily I've managed to avoid most people's stupidity because of lockdown most of my bump time has been spent indoors (I'm 36 weeks)

What silly or unwanted things have people said to you when pregnant? This is only lighthearted, yesterday my neighbour saw me and we were chatting about my pregnancy, she's a lovely lady. She said 'oooh you WILL be going for everything pain relief wise won't you, have an epidural the lot?' So I said I wasn't ruling anything out as I don't know if I'll be wimp or warrior when it comes down to it. I did say I wanted to avoid an epidural for a few reasons, mainly back problems, to which she said 'yes I had an epidural with my first and I've still got back problems from it now' her daughter was born on the same day as me and I'm 37!! So why, pray tell are you recommending I have summat that's giving you trouble 37 years later? 🤣🤷‍♀️

Another one was I was feeling a bit blue that I'd not seen any friends etc whilst I've got my bump do I posted a picture on Facebook of my bump which is something I wouldn't have ordinarily done and a man I hard to work with said 'you look like a barrage balloon' bloody charming!!! 🙄🙄

Ha at the start a few people asked me when I told them my news 'is it planned' I don't know I just found that a really odd thing to say!
Since I've had a bump not seen many people but I did see someone I know post a bump pic and some of the comments were YOU'RE HUGE or SURE ITS NOT TWINS. Stopped me from putting one on, I can't deal with that sort of negativity right now!

"Sleep now while you still can! Har har har..."

OH THANKS JIM I DIDN'T THINK OF THAT. If only the sickness and heartburn and round ligament pain would let me.... 😡

I work as a retail manager. When I announced it to my team ( who are mostly young) I didn’t get much of a reaction from them. I had a few people ask me after, in private, if I was on birth control . I’m in my mid 30’s and married lol. When I told them I got pregnant on purpose everyone was like OMG CONGRATULATIONS !

When I first told one of the people I worked with his response was "is this congratulations or I'm sorry?" I was wetting myself laughing.

One not so nice one was when I said I wanted some alcohol free wine and was informed that if I couldn't go 9 months without a drink I must have problems. Bitch I just wanted something to drink that wasn't water! I wanted to join in with friends having a a drink and a laugh, god knows what would be said if they found out I have a sip of boyfriends beer every now and then

Oh and my favourite "you can't eat that" yes I can I specifically asked my midwife because it's my favourite food. "you shouldn't lift that" it's a bin bag...how do people manage if they don't have a partner at home to lift mildly heavy shit for them .

Yes @Thekindyoufindinasecondhand I had the same! Someone asking was it planned. Found it such an odd question.

I had lots of work events which involved drinking so I always had a becks blue - the no alchocol ones but I literally got so many weird looks and I had to explain so many times eventually just went to orange juice. As if I would be standing necking bottle of beer! 🙄

'It will all be worth it' and 'that's a good sign' when you're as sick as a dog. I know it's true but it freakin annoys me

I'm a red head myself.

I've been asked "What will you do if the baby turns out ginger?!". I mean... there are no words.

@imgardening my response would be "I will be so lucky, they will be gorgeous!"

I'm 38 and a FTM. When I announced at work I got asked if I'd had fertility treatment (!) I'm now 21 weeks and got a nice bump but apparently too big for the liking of some with comments like "you're going to be huge" or "are you sure it's only one in there?". The comments about what I eat for lunch (normal packed lunch with nothing I shouldn't be eating) have meant that I avoid people on my lunch break because I can't be bothered to argue any more. Oh, and I cycle to work, you can imagine the comments I get about that!!

"Have you tried ginger biscuits?"

"My sister/friend/cat SWORE by ginger biscuits when she was pregnant"

"I've brought you some ginger biscuits!"

I haven't had any really silly comments apart from.

"Wow.. your so neat, you dont really look pregnant, it just looks like you have a football up your dress!"

To be fair. I do. (look like that, not have a football up my dress, I mean😄)

A colleague of mine who is a mother herself decided to let me know that she thinks child birth is lot harder for the husband/partner compared to the woman actually pushing out a human!!

There was a few questions that my parents kept asking repeatedly that really annoyed me.
Mum: will you cut your hair now before the baby is born so it will be easy to manage?
Dad: will you trade in the car and get a jeep so it will be easier on your back once the baby is born?
It was a big NO every time they asked either of these questions.
I didn't have to cut my hair or get a jeep when I had my first child so why would I have to with my second?
Baby is 11 months now and I still have my medium length hair and family car

@Dk20 that's funny. When I was having my dd my mum warned me not to cut my hair. She said everyone does it when they have a baby and then regrets it. I went in the other direction and had 20 inch extensions put in lol

A man asked me if it had been planned which I thought was strange and slightly personal!

Also I got a few "are you allowed to do/eat that"...

O I've just thought of another.
A person at work said "I heard about your problem", meaning she had heard I was pregnant. Problem?????

Random bloke in WH Smiths whilst I was browsing for a birthday card

'Congratulations, how far along are you?'

(Bit rude to ask a complete stranger but fine)

'Oh thank you. 18 weeks'

'Oh god, you're barely pregnant at all, you've got loads of time to go yet'

'Um'.

"Was it planned?" ... um, yup.

"Are you happy about it?"... that'll be a yes or I wouldn't be waving my scan pic about!!

@GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou oh my god the bloody ginger biscuits 🙈. I had terrible nausea for the first 16 weeks and so many people were like “ oh, have you tried ginger biscuits” I did but they definitely are not the magic cure!

@itsnotcakeitsbaby I’m getting a lot of people saying, rest as much as you can with a concerned look!

One lady keeps saying she hopes they find a second baby hiding!? I’m like, “ I don’t!”

We didn’t find out the gender and so many people annoyingly shared STRONG opinions on what gender I was having . My best friend was 1000% sure it was a girl and could not see me with anything but a girl . Same with my sister in law who even bought me girly gifts .

Well it was fun to announce our baby BOY to everyone 😝!

But to my annoyance my mother in law smugly knew all along anyway . Apparently it was so obvious by how I was carrying baby 🤦‍♀️

Not really silly, but a bit bewildering albeit sweet. Waiting for a friend in a pub and a guy came over and started chatting. It came up early on in the conversation that I was pregnant, and he was beyond excited. I think his reaction went something like, "What, like, right now??? There's a baby in there?? At the moment??? Oh my god that's incredible! Oh it's magical! I can't believe you're just walking around with a whole human life inside you!..." for a full 2 or 3 minutes. I'd have started thinking he was taking the piss except he then wanted to talk about nothing else for the next 20 minutes until my friend turned up 🤷🏽‍♀️
Stupidest thing anyone said was "you're not going to get him vaccinated are you?" Um, yes. Yes I am.

Quite a few of you obviously agree but people asking if it was planned, we're you trying? It's like basically being asked by a colleague how much sex you've been having, I just find it a really personal question

Asking about my symptoms and the constant - "have you had any morning sickness?"

When I said "no, none" I was shocked at the amount of breezy "oh, easy pregnancy!" type comments before I'd had time to say anything else. No having pelvic girdle pain which keeps u up all night isn't easy! I found it so presumptuous.

Equally irritating - "oh you know what they say, easy pregnancy... tricky baby!!" Why couldn't people just be happy for me when I was enjoying my pregnancy?

And the most annoying thing is you can't say anything to complain because of course it's all just "a joke".

I remember another one from a colleague too when I was expecting dc2. She asked if the dad of dc1 and 2 is the same

I couldn't believe that the woman thought it was any of her business!