Silly things people say to you when pregnant?

[babyt2020]

Luckily I've managed to avoid most people's stupidity because of lockdown most of my bump time has been spent indoors (I'm 36 weeks)

What silly or unwanted things have people said to you when pregnant? This is only lighthearted, yesterday my neighbour saw me and we were chatting about my pregnancy, she's a lovely lady. She said 'oooh you WILL be going for everything pain relief wise won't you, have an epidural the lot?' So I said I wasn't ruling anything out as I don't know if I'll be wimp or warrior when it comes down to it. I did say I wanted to avoid an epidural for a few reasons, mainly back problems, to which she said 'yes I had an epidural with my first and I've still got back problems from it now' her daughter was born on the same day as me and I'm 37!! So why, pray tell are you recommending I have summat that's giving you trouble 37 years later? 🤣🤷‍♀️

Another one was I was feeling a bit blue that I'd not seen any friends etc whilst I've got my bump do I posted a picture on Facebook of my bump which is something I wouldn't have ordinarily done and a man I hard to work with said 'you look like a barrage balloon' bloody charming!!! 🙄🙄

I've been asked "What will you do if the baby turns out ginger?!". I mean... there are no words.

Don't miss a beat, look them dead in the eyes with a straight face and tell them you'll be taking the traditional route of exorcism on a stone altar at midday on the summer solstice. Will make then realise how ridiculous they're being.

I had two male colleagues separately say ‘was the timing deliberate?’ (it wasn’t but feel very neatly into the business year). The first I floundered in response. The second I’d had time to think up the answer I wished I’d given the first...smiled sweetly and asked whether he really wanted that much detail about my sex life.

Three drunk work colleagues (Afrikaans, which my South African DMIL says is relevant...as apparently completely normal there) at a work do when I was 8 months asking DH if they could feel the baby kick?

As I was young and only 19 with first DC people always felt the need to say something along the lines of, “Gosh you’re young!” Or “What did your parents say?” Or “you should have lived a little first. You’ll never get to go travelling!”

I always had people ask me:
Was baby was planned?
Are you happy about being pregnant?
Have you tried ginger biscuits for sickness?

The one the got to me the most was, “When are you going to start trying for the second?” Jesus Susan give me a break and let me pop this one out first!

FTM here, with my first, and most likely, only IVF baby... was asked by my boss of all people (who has three children of his own) if I felt a bit irresponsible bringing a child into an already overpopulated world!

Having twins and I've been asked / told about a million times

Do they run in the family ?
Was it IVF ?
Ooooh you look too small for twins
Oooooh you look big no wonder its twins
( how it can be both I dont know 😅)
Two boys ?! Yourll be trying for a girl wont you
That's a shame a boy and a girl would have been perfect

Also got lots of the “was it planned? Are you happy”. One man went down a rabbit hole of asking if I’d rather have a baby with someone I hate or lose a hand.... ummm its ok, I’m happily married and very happy to be pregnant, just congratulations would have been fine.

You look massive / tiny - on the same day

Horror stories about their birth experience. I now just politely decline any information. Why would you tell any pregnant person this?

Shock / disappointment that we didn’t find out the sex

DH is from Brazil where over 90% of babies are born by elective CS. Shock that I gave birth naturally, couldn’t we afford to pay for the op? More horror that we didn’t find out the sex and announce the baby’s name in advance. Anger that we didn’t announce the pregnancy until 12 weeks and many other cultural differences.

A person at work continuously asking me if I ‘was sure I was pregnant’ as I didn’t have a huge bump or show until about 28 weeks. Then when I did have a bump around 34 weeks saying ‘ooh you can see you’re up the duff now’ aggh!!!! Yes I do know I am pregnant 3 years of fertility treatment I definitely am!! And ‘up the duff’ well there are no words

Oh and I was asked about timing of baby eg would wouldn’t it have been better if baby born in September. (In a teacher.) - No love it doesn’t work like that!

When telling people "is this good news?" and "Congratulations I didn't think you had it in you!" ..... this is my 2nd child ....

Also "oh if it's a girl it will have beautiful hair" (I'm a redhead and clearly if I have a boy with ginger hair it's the end of the world)

From a colleague when we mentioned that we weren't finding out the sex and i genuinely didn't mind boy/girl...."i really hope for your sake it's a girl." Had a beautiful DS 😍

I really hated it when people asked me: was it planned?

It's such an intrusive and rude question and the requested info has no added value other then to satisfy the curiosity of very nosey people.

37 weeks' pregnant with my third.

I've had quite a bit:
"Oh it's your third, you shouldn't be in hospital all that long then."
"Well hopefully not at all."
"You whaaaaaaaaaat?!"
"I'm having a home birth".
"Wow, you're brave!"

Drives me crackers when they say that!!

"It must be a girl because you're skin looks amazing" it did!! Pregnant skin rocked

I have one colleague who keeps telling me I’m massive. She does have a point but I’m only 14 weeks so I’m pretty sure some of it is just bloating so it’s not the best thing to comment on! She’s a midwife so really should know better.

The most memorable’Do you think you’ll have another?’ Asked the midwife. In the delivery room.
Erm, how about we just focus on this one for now?! It was funny.

'Your bump is so small is everything ok with the baby'

"You can't have long to go now?"

Actually I'm only 6 Months.

"Oh Dear, you're out numbered now with a House full of Boys!"

"It must be a girl because you're skin looks amazing"

Nah, I think the opposite. If you've got terribly skin in pregnancy, I tend to guess it's a girl. If a pregnant woman looks awesome I tend to think boy.

Probably absolute twaddle of course, but it's worked with my tiny sample size thus far.

Asking if it's planned is incredibly rude. I got asked this by a colleague, even though I'm a lesbian and they all celebrated my civil partnership at the time, only a year or so before my pregnancy. No idea how she thinks it would be an accident, or what a lesbian is.

I got asked a few times if I was pregnant, which annoyed me as I was still in the first trimester and not telling anyone yet so had to lie. Plus, I wasn't that big! I thought it was in the social contact 101 handbook that you don't ever ask a woman if she's pregnant unless you're an HCP and it's relevant for the purposes of prescribing medication?

I’m 30 weeks now with my first baby and my due date is July.

Prior to lockdown (5 months ish along) when anyone asked me when I was due they all kept saying “ohhhh you’re not far along then/ohhhh you’ve got a while to go then”

I was like “ERMMMM tell that to my 12 weeks of morning sickness, diarrhoea, sciatica, aches, pains, food aversions and exhaustion! Feel like I’ve been pregnant forever”.

Honestly must have gotten that from about 9 different people! Really annoyed me! 😂

@Whatelsecouldibecalled oh yes, a familiar one. I'm a teacher and I'm having a September baby this year. Lots of oooh that's well timed, clever you etc. Thank you, yes, ever so clever. After two years of ttc, fertility tests and a mmc in between, I was so clever planning for a September baby . I was happy whatever month I fell pregnant!!

Whilst struggling with fatigue and generally feeling terrible a colleague told me "he finds it genuinely sad when women don't make the most of enjoying every second of pregnancy because it is a wonderful thing"

One of my colleagues said 'I'm guessing that was an accident!' ...why? I'm married, own a house and we both have stable, professional jobs (I'm not saying those things are essential to having a baby, but what more did she want?)

'Get some sleep now, you wont know what hit you!' as PP said upthread, wow, hadn't thought of that! Also, my baby is a terrible sleeper, always has been and I still sleep better (when I'm actually asleep) then when I was pregnant and aching all over!

And my personal favourite:
'Wow you have PILED it on!' said by my husbands nan when I was 37 weeks. I measured small for my entire pregnancy so can't imagine how small she expected a full term pregnant bump to be!

Agree with all the people saying "was it planned?" I find this so rude and nosey. I would never ask somebody this!