Silly things people say to you when pregnant?

[babyt2020]

Luckily I've managed to avoid most people's stupidity because of lockdown most of my bump time has been spent indoors (I'm 36 weeks)

What silly or unwanted things have people said to you when pregnant? This is only lighthearted, yesterday my neighbour saw me and we were chatting about my pregnancy, she's a lovely lady. She said 'oooh you WILL be going for everything pain relief wise won't you, have an epidural the lot?' So I said I wasn't ruling anything out as I don't know if I'll be wimp or warrior when it comes down to it. I did say I wanted to avoid an epidural for a few reasons, mainly back problems, to which she said 'yes I had an epidural with my first and I've still got back problems from it now' her daughter was born on the same day as me and I'm 37!! So why, pray tell are you recommending I have summat that's giving you trouble 37 years later? 🤣🤷‍♀️

Another one was I was feeling a bit blue that I'd not seen any friends etc whilst I've got my bump do I posted a picture on Facebook of my bump which is something I wouldn't have ordinarily done and a man I hard to work with said 'you look like a barrage balloon' bloody charming!!! 🙄🙄

A very senior male member of staff at work asked me if I asked my boss's permission to get pregnant.

I'm not entirely sure he was joking ...

Oh loads! Mum told me if it's a boy he'll be fat and smart, and laughed so much at this "joke". Bless her. My aunt called me after I posted a pic on Facebook where the belly is not seen saying don't sit cross legged you'll have varicose veins. I said, thank you, I'll be more careful next time. What the fuss! It's funny isn't it how people want to be helpful.

Haaaaa thankyou got all of your replies ladies, these have kept me thoroughly entertained!! I cannot BELIEVE how many people have the brass neck to ask if a baby is planned?!!!!! Wtf??? 🙄🙄🙄

Op if you get that question you can reply with : 'I feel uncomfortable discussing my sexlife with you, so I don't want to discuss this.'

Or simply ask

'Why do you want to know this?'

I can guarantee you they won't try to ask you more about it after one of these replies.

Im 14+3, Ive had a couple of family members ask if it was planned. I also found that a bit rude and personal. Of course it was!
The worst one so far is when I went for my 12 week bloods the maternity NURSE asked me if it was a lockdown baby! I was really offended by this? I was like, no we were trying and found out before! Dont know if it's my hormones but I was so offended that she thought we were so bored in lockdown we thought we'd just have a baby?!

I had someone at work, tell me I wasn't allowed coffee. He took the coffee out of my hands and poured it down the sink.
More fool him because I spent around 30 mins crying in the bathroom during lunch rush ha.

One work colleague was truly terrible throughout...
“You sure you’re pregnant?” At 8 months pregnant.
“She’s ballooned out” A week later.
“You’ve not been sick/not showing/eat normally/work too hard And I’m sure your scan photos are fake” To my HR manager, who then had to investigate the claim, resulting in me almost getting fired and him joining me for a private scan (Most horrifying experience of my life)
“Don’t eat that”
“You’ll never sleep again”
“It’s gonna be horrible, babies cry all the time”
“JUST YOU WAIT”
“You can’t do that” doing my actual job (I’m a manger, it wasn’t anything bad)
“What an easy pregnancy, you’re not showing/sick/struggling”
THE LIST GOES ON....

The worst was the JUST YOU WAITS. However I did have an easy pregnancy worked until a week before my son was born, forced to start maternity leave early due to company policy, and at much older he’s always asleep and hardly ever cries. So I’m still waiting!

I was asked how my partner "felt" and if he was "happy" that we were having another girl... of course he was, he wanted a baby regardless of sex.

I've also got the whole "oh he's surrounded by girls now then, maybe next time it'll be a boy" 😅😅

I’m 38 weeks with twins so haven’t been out in a while but just before lockdown did have the whole “oh must be any day now!” And then I’d reply with no, have 3 months left or whatever it was, the look of horror on their faces 🤣..

The midwife who took over from the usual one who went on maternity leave is awful and keeps telling me I’m “going to have my hands full”... Really? 🙄.. I already have a 2 year old and all our family live abroad, I don’t need to be reminded thanks...

Most annoying thing for me though was at the beginning the pregnancy, I found out with positive test at 4 weeks, at 6+1 I started bleeding and was sent for a scan a couple of days later waiting to be told it was gone... instead they told me it was twins. We decided to tell our immediate families that day by video call and as soon as we said my MIL says “I knew it! I knew there was something going on with you, you haven’t seemed yourself!!” First of all, I only knew myself 2 and a bit weeks before and secondly I might speak to her once every few weeks by phone so how on Earth she knew it I don’t know, she did the same when I was pregnant with my DD, it’s just this smugness of her thinking she knows it all drives me bonkers

"Do you think you'll have any more?"

Let me get this one out first...

"You think you're tired now, wait til the baby's here."

Actually I found pregnancy far harder than a newborn.

And the worst one "well you've just ruined your life for the next 18 years."

It's just so mean spirited and awful. I love being a mum, hard as it can be. If it's so life ruining why do so many people do it multiple times?

Bugs me when people I barely know comment on the size of my bump , some people are like 'your tiny' others are like yours massive' I think people just comment for the sake of it. 😂😂 xx

I understand the offense taken at personal questions. But are all the pp's on here genuinely offended by questions like what if the baby is ginger?

That would just make me laugh tbh.

Do you think people ask if it's planned because they're not sure if to congratulate you or not?
My two are adults. I never minded all the questions but perhaps as there is more ivf now women are understandably a bit more sensitive.

I honestly think that most people find pregnancy amazing and just get carried away.
If someone asks a personal question then ask them why they want to know. It usually shuts them up as they have to justify their nosiness .

@Coffeecak3 yes, actually, it is offensive when people ask you with horror and disgust.

My SIL said to me "isnt it funny that im losing so much weight whilst you're gaining it all"... The same SIL was pregnant whilst i slimmed down to get married last August and i never would have dreamed of saying anything like that to her, after all she wasnt just gaining weight but a beautiful baby too!!! I just found it incredibly rude.

I of course didn't mention the fact that she's got 5 stone to lose and has lost 7lbs so far whilst ive only gained a stone at 21 weeks...

I think the comments are far worse once the baby is here

“Is she too hot?”
“Is she too cold?”
“Well you can’t drink alcohol can you, as what you eat the baby does”
“She will be sleeping with you won’t she?”
“She will be going in her own room at 3 months won’t she?”

Etc etc. It’s bloody nonstop

I remember now being in the delivery room.
DS was born 30 minutes or so earlier so DH calls his parents to tell them about their grandson. One of the first things my MIL asked : And how many stitches did she get?

Thankfully DH told her that the state of my vagina wasn't any of her business and these kind of intrusive questions were not appreciated.

'Was it an accident?'
'I thought you looked pregnant in November at the wedding' (I was about 4 weeks at that point!)
'Wow your bump is bigger than most, are you sure it's not twins?'
'You do realise that you are going to have to lose the weight after baby is born'
'You eat enough to feed a small woodland creature for a year'
'Wait till you are in labour then you wont be so excited'

Plus countless stories from other women about how their pregnancy symptoms were worse than mine.

At the moment:
'Theres a pandemic, and you are pregnant!'
'If you knew there would be a pandemic would you have still got pregnant?'

@imgardening gosh. I am shocked that someone asked that with horror and disgust. How on earth did you reply?
People are strange.
I always wanted a redhead and didn’t get one. My friend got 3.

@Honeybee85 lol i genuinely don't think my husband would even twig that was an inappropriate question and would actually tell my MIL the answer

“It’s amazing but your whole life changes and you get no time to yourself” and basically saying it’s shit!

This come from someone who’s got 3 kids and now wants a third but has no time to do anything for herself and has no life that doesn’t revolve around her kids.

*fourth

@Honeybee85 LOL yep, I just asked him and as expected, he thought that was not an ok thing to tell his MIL

*WAS an ok thing

@MrsRose2018

Thank Goodness! I guess we are lucky with our DHs! Though I am pretty sure my ex would have told his DM and there are more guys like him . Some people really think pregnant women and new mums are not really entitled to any privacy!

I was asked if it was congratulations or not by my manager. My first pregnancy was a lot of "oh wow, you don't even look pregnant from behind" and comments about such a neat bump and looks like I'd just put something up my top.

My second pregnancy I was told how massive I was all the time, and asked if we'd be having a third (or in fact told we would) when we found out we were having a second girl.