Cancelled baby shower

[2020firsttimemum]

I knew it was gonna happen but now it's official. My baby shower for 7th June has been officially cancelled.

I still feel massively upset and annoyed at the world about it even though I expected it.

And it's been moved to September even though our baby boy is due 3rd July. It almost seems pointless to me.

Not too sure why I'm posting this, a bit of a rant I guess.

As a first time mum, all the fun things have been taken away from this experience and I think my baby shower being cancelled is the final straw.

Anyone else feeling this shit about it? 😭

Can you do it online OP?

You cannot have a baby shower after the baby is born, how bloody ridiculous . They are bad enough in the first place. Cancel it full stop.

Once the baby arrives you will no longer care.

You can go for long walks, Nap .

Mine was supposed to be tomorrow, baby due June 10th, obv cancelled. I'm not bothered though, and I'm also a FTM. More concerned about the birth experience during covid 🤷‍♀️.

I've got pretty much everything I need anyway.

It's disappointing but you'll move forward, try picking out some nice baby bits on Amazon.

You’re going to get some harsh response on here I’m afraid. Pregnancy can be hard in the best of times, especially towards the end, and it’s great to have little things to look forward to that get you through that- like a baby shower. Of course it’s ok to be pissed off but try not to wallow in it. Your friends are still there, they still love you and your baby boy is still getting ready to meet you- try and plan another way to celebrate that. It won’t be the same, nothing is, but try to stay positive

I am no fan of baby showers however I think anyone is entitled to feel disappointment and a bit pissed off at something they have been looking forward to being cancelled. Even at the moment. I was meant to be at a concert tonight and that we can’t is shit even if it’s a tiny thing in the grand scheme of things.

Try and look at the rearranged date as a chance for your family and friends to be able to get together to meet the baby

It's difficult when something you were looking forward to has to be postponed especially at a time when there is lots of other restrictions.

I've only been to 4 baby showers, 3 prior to the birth 1 had to be postponed as the baby decided to arrive the day before the baby shower. The only difference was the lack of guess the weight /date and name games. The rest of the baby shower was pretty much the same, if anything better as the mum was more involved now she wasn't heavily pregnant and there was a baby to cuddle.

Be disappointed today, tomorrow think of the positives and alternatives.

@Thisismytimetoshine not sure if you're being deliberately goady but that clearly isnt what nap was saying. she was saying it helped her in terms of support being able to see family and friends.

I have a 6 month old and suffered horrifically with anxiety for the first couple of months. the only way I managed to cope was being able to have my family and friends around me and being able to get out and about, trying to recreate my old "normal"

dont be so preachy

Personally I think it's nice to be able to see all your friends and have a catch up before the baby arrives.

That’s not a baby shower, surely? That’s catching up with friends. Baby showers involve a party-style gathering and the showering of expensive gifts on the mother-to-be.

No, I didn’t really want a shower anyway 🙈

More bothered about not having seen my parents for 7 weeks and my cleaner not coming 🙈🙈

But in seriousness, could you do something virtual? Zoom baby shower??

Can't people just send you all your vouchers and gifts directly?
Then if you want to talk to them, you could call them?

Mine was supposed to be 4th April but was cancelled.

I wasn't bothered about having one at all though. My family/friends wanted to do it for me (knowing I'd said I wasn't fussed).

I believe they are thinking about rescheduling but won't be before baby is due now (I'm 39 weeks) will probably just end up being a baby meeting/welcome/gathering when lockdown is hopefully over which I'm pleased about as I never wanted all the attention to be on me ☺️ so happy for baby to steal the limelight.

OP, you were never going to get much sympathy on MN. Pretty notorious for hating baby showers.

I understand that the event you had planned has been cancelled and you’re disappointed about that. If you had said wedding or 50th birthday, the responses would have been different. Obviously, it’s not the end of the world but we’re entitled to be disappointed about the things we’re missing out on.

I’m due in September and I’m seriously hoping this is all over by then. I want to do the mid week coffees with my baby friends. I want to do the baby classes. I didn’t get any of that with my DD because I was 19 and everyone looked at me like I was chavvy. None of my friends had babies. I’m older now and know two other people due within a month or so of me. I know it’s selfish to think like that but that’s how I feel.

Not gonna lie but I think there are bigger things to feel shit about. Is your baby happy and healthy currently? If so then that's all that matters I'd have thought... I had a shower planned but I wasn't that keen in the first place so saw it is a good escape. Also had my birthday in lockdown and had a lovely day at home with husband. 🤷🏻‍♀️ baby is happy and healthy at the mo and that's all I care about

Some people are absolute dicks!

You’re entitled to how you feel OP & like you I am also disappointed in all the things I am not being able to experience during this pregnancy! I have suffered a couple losses so I am completely grateful to be having this baby, but I also want to enjoy all the fun part of being pregnant & having a baby shower was one of them! I’m due August so hopeful I still may have one but I’m coming to the realisation I may not I haven’t been able to shop for prams or nursery furniture & it has really got me down!
Yes I’m well aware that “they’re are people that are dying”, but we are all entitled to how we feel. We should be able to celebrate how pregnancies with family & friends & feel that we can’t do this. My poor gran is so excited to be a great granny for the first (& possibly only time) & she’s gutted she can’t go out to a shop with me & pick things for baby. I’m completely with you OP, it’s not fair at all. It’s also not fair that people are missing out on big birthday celebrations, religious ceremonies, funerals & all the other things we took for granted. I know it’s also not fair that people are ill & dying & not getting to spend time with their loved ones who might not make it, this situation as a whole is unfair.

If it is really that important can you not arrange a zoom one with games that you can play whilst waving to your friends etc? I suspect once you have the baby you will realise how insignificant it is in the grand scheme of things. As someone else suggested have a welcome party later this year.

Hush all the nay sayers! 100 percent is very sad op.

I’ve got incredible memories from my baby shower, we had a garden party, most of my village turned out, they all had pimms and champagne. We played games. Theme was Alice in wonderland and my dad dressed as the mad hatter. Everyone talks about it too and my daughter is nearly 2!

The only bit I didn’t like was having to open all of the presents in front of everyone. I didn’t do that for my daughters 1st birthday as found it awkward. It’s lovely to have presents for your baby, makes you feel so loved.

I also had gender reveal Party 🥳 🙈

Make sure you make it a welcome baby party still celebrate!

My cousin had to postpone her baby shower as he unexpectedly arrived 7 weeks early so it ended up being after he was already here and out the hospital.
It was so lovely and an amazing way for everyone to meet the baby and have cuddles! It was also a celebration as he'd been poorly in hospital for a bit so we were all so relieved he was ok.

It really put me off the idea of a baby shower before your baby has safely arrived as you really don't know what might happen. I'm going to intentionally plan for a celebration get together after baby is here.

Also makes you feel like you and your baby are supported on the bad days and you know who you can call.

You don't say?

Personally, I’m not a fan of baby showers but I absolutely understand why you’re upset, OP. It doesn’t matter whether posters think a baby shower is pointless or if there are bigger things going on, we can all be disappointed that our plans are being cancelled/postponed. I understand that people are dying, that people have lost loved ones, people are facing job losses but I’m really disappointed that I’m not on holiday.

OP is literally just looking to rant. This is not how she saw her pregnancy going and she’s disappointed. Whether you agree with baby showers or not - she had something she was looking forward to, like we all probably had, and she wants to rant that she doesn’t get to do it. It’s not that hard to understand.

Aww OP, I totally understand why you’re disappointed. MN is very anti baby shower but I have been to a couple and have always really enjoyed them.

I think it’s a nice idea to have a get together after the baby is born. People can meet the baby then, and it will be a good chance for a post Covid catch up. It will be something to look forward to

Perhaps someone can host a virtual shower for you. As others have said, a catch up with loved ones after the babies arrival is a nice alternative.

Baby showers are massively overrated. A lot of people who attended mine haven't even met my baby and she's now 5. I think a few months after the birth is lovely. You'll have recovered from birth, you'll be used to baby and things will be starting to easier. Take baby with you and let everyone have a cuddle while you enjoy a hot drink/or a glass of something stronger. Or leave baby at home and enjoy a couple of hours of 'me time'.

A baby shower??? Really?? I've had two sons and never had a 'shower' (apart from the ones they both gave me when whipping off their nappies being weighed!).

Totally ridiculous, a waste of money and tempting fate IMO.

Unless you're featuring in some reality TV show, are a celebrity craving publicity or are an actor in a US film, WTAF are you thinking?!