Pregnancy insults and weird questions

[Oldestchild90s]

Just wondered if anyone has had any of these?

So far i've had:

1- Disappointment that i'm having a baby girl

2- Asked if i had IVF (a weird one considering i'm 27 and the person doesn't really know my life to ask such random things)

3- A colleague told me if she had red haired kids she would send them back and be really upset (i'm a red head and was gobsmacked 😂)

Anyone care to add?

It's a never ending list, what people find acceptable to do or say to you when pregnant is very odd!

That I must be having twins

That I'd have one baby then have another one straight away as if I was having a baby to get time off work

The good old wanting to grab your belly!

"Hopefully it's a boy and you'll be done". That drove me insane! I didn't care either way and was always having two.

There was a big age gap between my two older DC and my youngest. The amount of people who barely knew me asking if they were by the same father was genuinely jaw dropping for me, and if he was 'planned'. Seriously people, mind your own bastard business (they are, and he wasn't, but still!)

Wait until you get:
"What have you bought that for?"
"You don't need that, it's pointless"
"I wouldn't do that if it was me"
"What do you mean you want to bottle feed? I don't agree with that"
"Why have you spent so much money on that"
Or
"That's a bit cheap! I would have bought something better"

Honestly, I've had it all and I'm only 17 weeks!
I've literally sobbed today over lots of different things!

In my opinion keep as much as you can to yourself! Including baby names!
I feel like a crap mom already! It's vile! I feel so judged!
I know most people's intentions are good and they want to help but sometimes, you just feel like you're being attacked! 😭😭😭

I hated it when people asked if my pregnancies were planned. Even work colleagues asked me that! Why would anyone think it's an acceptable question??

I've never had any of these questions! I'm genuinely agog at the rudeness of some people.

Maybe try the old mumsnet mantra of 'Did you mean to be so rude?' if someone asks another impertinent question.

A family friend in her 80s, when my husband (not married then but together years) told her I was expecting, asked ‘is it yours?’

People are so rude, I'm only 16 weeks and I've already had

• oh I take it that was an accident then - I'm like sorry what is that suppose to meAn?
• you don't really have a bump, do you have your dates right?- which as a first timer sends me spiralling into a panic mode. - ironically the same day someone else said how huge I looked and am I sure it wasn't twins?!

And the usual people always ask names and then give me their unwanted opinions on them. Or judging me for what I'm going to buy the baby!?!

It's your baby and you do what feels right, it's hard but now I'm only telling my mum and partner what I do and don't like etc and what we're buying etc as even my mother in law likes to put a downer on things!

Xx

Another good one I found was being asked if I was really happy in life by GM a few days after getting engaged and being heavily pregnant.
No, just decided to get engaged and have a baby with someone on a whim 🙄

I know not everyone finds it rude but I think “Was it planned” is both rude and weird to ask. I always want to say “no it was a one night stand and the morning after pill didn’t work so here I am” to see how people react

My mother: "I don't want to be known as Gran or Nanna. I want to be known as Mama."

FUCK OFF, YOU ABSOLUTE NARCISSIST.

If you didn't laugh it off you would cry.. lots, and if you have already cried i'm sorry people have upset you! It's crazy what people come out with and how they think they need to tell you their opinions.

Also had the 'you will definitely breastfeed though yeah?' and 'But you have cats, how will that work? You'll probably have yo get rid of them as they kill babies you know?' Ah yes, i understand the risks and will take extra care that my cats do not kill my baby 👀

"You are fat"

That actually made me cry

I’m on number 3 and I’ve had everything as you can imagine!

I’ve got 2 girls and expecting girl number 3 and the main comments have been ‘will you try for a boy next then?’ ....errr no, 3 is plenty thanks! And ‘oooh your not very big/you’re huge’ (often on the same day!)

I work in a pub and the amount of male regulars who ask how their love child is is insane!

My work colleagues all asked if this one was planned as "not long since your last child" it's nearly been 3 years!

DD is 6 so we have quite a gap so I’ve had the was it planned one. Also had how will you cope with 2, this was the first comment from MIL after her knowing for 2 weeks before I actually saw her or heard from her, no congratulations. I wouldn’t mind but we cope perfectly well with one and don’t rely on outside support so don’t see how 2 would be any different. And then after not seeing her due to isolation we went to drop some shopping off. I stayed in the car and got a snarky text later saying I should have got out the car to show her my body coz she wanted to see her grandchild. There has been a lot more including the belly grabbing. Most of the time I just smile and walk away.

Can’t believe the red head one! .. haven’t had anything too weird. FaceTimed my grandad last night (he knows I’m pregnant) “your face looks big how much weight have you gained”.

Ohhhh I'll play:
With DS2 - chemist: not long for you now then!
Me: ages, I'm only 20 weeks
Chemist: Is it twins???
Me: no
Chemist: are you sure???
Me: are you calling me fat? (She still avoids me nearly 6 years later 👍)
Also with DS2 - 'you're having another boy? Aww that's such a shame. You'll have to try again for a girl.' I'm currently pregnant with number 3 and have lost count of the amount of people 'crossing everything for me' that I get a girl.
With DS1 - 'what, you're going to breastfeed exclusively? How will the dad bond with him if he can't feed him? That's very selfish.' Ermmm maybe he'll bond by idk, being a good dad?

Also the usual 'was it planned?' every single time plus my lovable colleague who likes to inform the whole office of my condition by shouting 'Hi Fatty!' whenever he sees me.

I've had loads across two pregnancies. The recent ones that come to mind are:

• you will be breastfeeding though, yes?
• you look like you're about to explode (at 30 weeks)
• are you sure it's not twins?
• oh no, I wouldn't choose that name, it means [word] in [foreign country I've never been to, don't plan to visit and have zero connection with]
• I don't envy you, I'm so glad it's not me

I've actually enjoyed responding to them this pregnancy as I don't give a flying you-know-what about anybody's opinion!

I had the “was it planned?” From dp’s dad. For our first DD. We had been together 13 years.
Now I’m pregnant with our second DD I got “never mind maybe the next one will be a boy”. My response was a firm “I’m not having anymore!”
Mostly older people who ask me do I know what I’m having have the response of “oh, are you ok with that?” Or I had “well two girls might be nice”.

'After all this time!' We'd been married 4 years.

'At your age' I was 35

'I was beginning to think there was something wrong with the pair of you' DH's grandma when we told them we were having Ds1.

'You're keen' When I was pregnant again almost 2 years later

'You two pop them out considering you're getting on' A 'friend' of DH's from football when we were having DS2, our 3rd.

Only 11+2, only parents and my nan know, I've had
"Did you plan it or was it an accident?"
"Oh, you're gonna have to move house then, its too small and old for a baby" I live in a 2 bed with just my partner and I don't think the baby will care if its a new build or old cottage!
"Are you happy then?" I really wanted to say no to the MIL when asked that!
"Well, its about time"

Just to clarify, I am happy, but imagine if I wasn't!

@LuluJakey1 I had that one too, about my age!
Also 35! 'You need to be careful, you're high risk! You could end up with a severely disabled child, because you waited for so long!' 😳😳😳

I've also had 'it's not about you anymore, what you want doesn't matter, it's all about the baby!'
I do believe that seeing as though I'm carrying this baby, I do matter and my well being is extremely important is it not???

Either way you cannot win! There is always going to be someone that has something vile or judgemental to say!

That's why I've decided to stop talking to people I know about the baby, just my closest friends, my mom and of course my DH know the details.

I was in Tesco car park at 41 weeks pregnant. A man shouted something over to me.. I didn’t hear, but assumed he was asking if I want any help.. I said.. “pardon?” He said “fu** me you’re massive”
Such a gentleman!