Pregnancy insults and weird questions

[Oldestchild90s]

Just wondered if anyone has had any of these?

So far i've had:

1- Disappointment that i'm having a baby girl

2- Asked if i had IVF (a weird one considering i'm 27 and the person doesn't really know my life to ask such random things)

3- A colleague told me if she had red haired kids she would send them back and be really upset (i'm a red head and was gobsmacked 😂)

Anyone care to add?

@Oldestchild90s

The comments about the cats my MIL said something similar about my kittens and the highly probable chance they would kill my child she's convinced my baby is allergic to them too, she's really got it in for them.

I had a few annoying comments...but unfortunately for other people I've got no problem putting them straight. My poor mum and MIL have been on the receiving end of my sharp tongue multiple times since having dc.

God I'm desperate for my kids to inherit DPs red hair. I'd have asked her if she meant to be discriminatory.

Oh yes I've had a few don't know what it is about pregnancy that makes people think it's ok to talk about your weight ,sex life and touch your stomach without permission! I once had a lady at the bus stop (who used to work at the hospital ) ask me loads of personal questions and who my doc is ECT. I got all the oh my God your massive Alot..after I had given birth the lady in the shop was asking what size the baby was so I told her and she omg really she's so small you were huge!wtf lol

I went into lockdown whilst I didn't have a bump, so by the time I go back to work, when I come off Furlough in June, I'll be a decent size! I've already put on a stone 😭😭
Can't wait for the 'fatty' jokes to start chiming in and 'wow, you're massive'

With my hormones the way they are, I'll end up getting the sack as I'll end up smacking someone in the face if they think giving me Derogatory comments is funny!
The way I'm feeling at the moment I could do with a punch bag! 😂😂

The nurse at my whooping cough vaccination asked.me.(jokingly) if I was smuggling a second one in there 🤣 and my university lecturer also said she thought it was twins (tbf I've shown early both times). I had someone pass comments when I was having a grumble about my hips hurting "you'll keep.your legs shut next time" - no, no I won't, what would be the point in that when we were actively trying? Barely knew me and I think.she assumed we had been caught out. That's the only one that I was mildly offended by though

My first appointment with my midwife for my first pregnancy... Is it an IVF baby? No it bloody isn't!
There's nothing wrong with IVF I would have looked into it myself if I hadn't met my DH but I was 39 for my first and no one could believe I had become pregnant naturally.
Then for my second, because there is only 19months between then, I got both the... Is it IVF and also was it an accident. No we wanted two children and we wanted them close together but thanks for that!

I think they have to ask that about IVF.

@Mucklowe it really wasn't said as a standard question it was said with a grimace and in hushed tones. Got it from everyone who couldn't believe a 39 year old could actually get pregnant naturally.

Well i'm 27 and got the question, and i second that i'm all for IVF but i haven't ever hinted to anyone i cannot have children or would struggle to. Does this mean the lady thought i was quite a few years older than i look? 😂 or did she think i was a spinster?

@blondehalo I get the worry with cats but couldn't you say that about anything? Oh no don't put the baby near a rabbit, or a car, or a brick wall, or on the grass, in the fresh air.. it could go on forever really 🤦🏼‍♀️

Before lockdown it was a daily question if I was having twins, I'm not I've just got a large bump. to be honest I'm glad I've been isolating for the last 4 weeks of pregnancy as I think I may of bitten back by now.

Oh my god EVERYTHING @lockdownpregnancy said 🤦😡

That list is the most comprehensive one of the annoying things people say, especially related to decisions you make!

@BestBeforeYesterday yes me too! I can't believe it when people ask me if it was planned. I would never ever ask someone that question, it's so personal.

My Mum said I was a wimp for having an epidural. In front of my friend... who is an obstetrician... and had had two epidurals herself. I've barely spoken to the friend since out of total shame and horror.

Someone I considered a very very good friend said, ‘What is it with all these 40 year olds getting knocked up by accident? God you’re so f*d’ when I told her the good news!

(I’m 41 and my partner and I had been openly discussing kids saying we’d give it a go and see if we got lucky.)

That gem (delivered 3 times in some variation during the same call) was followed by a nice rant about ‘single mothers’ as one of the 3 women she was referring to has been badly let down by her partner. After asking her why she feels the single status reflects badly on the mum and not the dad, she’d the cheek to ask me for that mutual friend’s address to send her a congratulations card.

I’m currently exercising the most extreme form of social distancing from this muppet.

Upon hearing we're having a girl "Is DH disappointed?" Umm no why would he be??

"Was it planned, aye?" said by a young male colleague I barely know.

"You're still very tiny/very neat bump/oh you're starting to show now etc etc" by a female colleague who loves babies and means well but her constant observations on the size of my bump were starting to irritate me.

In a way being in lockdown has been good as I don't have to talk to people!

I'm 30 weeks tomorrow and wasn't prepared for people to stop looking at me but at my bump all the time.

I'm a beauty therapist and had a client tell me my boobs had grown 🤷🏼‍♀️ wtf

And why do people feel the need to tell you that baby doesn't need socks, they don't need this they don't need that when you've already bought it, you don't care what they say you were just being polite and showing them the nursery and what you'd bought 🙄

I'm quite glad I'm isolating at the moment so I don't get all these comments people make to you when you're pregnant 😆

I never got asked anything like this I think you need to surround your self with better people.

I was asked once if it was planned. I answered that “no it was not planned as needing 6 cycles of IVF to become pregnant was never part of any plan”.

Was also asked if I’d be “getting rid” of my cats now I’m having a baby. Um no, why would I? If I’m not responsible enough to be able to manage cats and a baby I’m probably not responsible enough to be a parent in the first place.

I never had anyone try to touch my bump, but was led to believe I’d have to bat people away from it.

"Well that was very quick, you didn't hang about"

From a work colleague everytime I see her. DH and I had been trying for a while, but funnily enough, I don't go into the minutae of my private life with my work colleagues. It just so happens that the month after I made a comment trying to be vague of "yeah perhaps on our radar for later this year", when she asked me directly about kids, I happened to get pregnant.

Wouldn't mind as much but she says it so loudly, half the office must think we were at it like Rabbits.