Sleepyhead’s...good or bad?

[Pascal3]

My MIL is really on my case that I need to buy a sleepyhead for my baby as her daughter has terrible trouble with her baby and claimed this was a lifesaver!
My sister in law is a very stressed out person to the point where the whole world evolves around her and she claims motherhood is the most stressful thing in the world and regularly has her mum take care of the child whilst she goes off and loves her life!

My MIL is speaking to me that I need this and I need that as her daughter couldn’t love without it and I must have it! I’ve got to the point where I’ve snapped and said “just because your daughter had a tough time, doesn’t mean I will and all babies are different” she kept on about the sleepyhead but went quiet after I told her several times that I can’t justify spending all this money on something just because my niece didn’t & doesn’t sleep!

Anyways she’s started up again after seeing a photo on Facebook of a friends baby looking comfortable in one....I’ve been told they are not ideal for overnight sleeping and midwives don’t recommend them...
Seriously at the point of kicking off and feel like my baby is already being compared

Ugh..rant over

Loved mine. Best thing we bought. SIL and MIL sound annoying though! Maybe say that if she wants to buy you one you would be grateful

I've heard a lot of good about them, but I couldnt justify the price, then I saw one on the fb marketplace for £50 so gave in & brought it 😁

They sound annoying and I'd like to say sleepyheads are a waste of time, but it's the only thing baby will sleep in. Worth every penny.
We traveled a lot with DS1 too, and we used to take the SH with us and he'd always settle.

I didn't have one, I was reading all the stuff about sleep possitioners being dangerous so didn't. I reasoned that if I desperately needed one Amazon prime would get it to me the next day, or argos round the corner could too.

Could you use the same reasoning for your MIL? Ie you don't really like the idea of them but you understand that with some babies (like your niece) they might be a godsend, if you have a baby like that you will buy one then.

Honestly? Made no difference to my baby's sleep! He would wake every hour for months, only at 11 months have we got down to once or twice a night. I was also worried about the SIDS risk and could never quite put
my mind at rest. If you follow the Lullaby Trusts guideline they are a no no but you'll get lots of support for them online as they do work for some!

Tried it for 3 months then sold it for 50 quid.

I think of it as a bit of a luxury item but definitely not essential. My baby sleeps in it during the day downstairs but in a crib at night.

Its just easy to move around and takes up less space than a moses basket on a stand.

I don't think its help him sleep any better to be honest!

I loved ours, but we bought on marketplace and then sold it on for the same price. Would defo get another for my next baby

You MIL sounds a bit annoying though so I understand your reluctance to get one

Definitely not. The Lullaby Trust (SIDS charity) strongly advises against their use as they are not compatible with safe sleep:

www.lullabytrust.org.uk/the-lullaby-trust-issues-warning-about-some-popular-baby-sleeping-products-sold-in-high-street-stores/

@Pascal3

I havent had baby yet but heard so many things about the sleepyheads. I deffo cant afford one at the mo as theyre so expensive and dont want to buy anything from fb marketplace/second hand with all the covid stuff going around atm.

Found this online which has really good reviews and looks pretty similar?

www.online4baby.com/babydan-portable-cuddle-nest-grey

Might be worth looking into x

I found it to be a lifesaver personally. Worth every penny! Some babies really will not sleep on an open flat surface no matter how hard you try and just want to be held, if your baby is like this and you’d like to sleep at all then a sleepyhead really helps! It’s your choice though. Your MIL sounds a bit overbearing but I think she’s just trying to help, don’t be too sure that you won’t find it hard either - having a newborn IS hard and having family support is helpful so don’t burn any bridges and be open to advice! You can still make your own choices but it’s worth listening and saying thanks for the tip I’ll think about it....

Worth every penny! I bought ours new off eBay so was cheaper. Definitely worth the money, my daughter only sleeps in it! X

I didn’t have one , had something similar and my daughter is def not a sleeper..first time she slept through the night, well for about 3-4h was when she was around 20months..and believe me we tried almost everything. She would be up all night every 30-60min...she is 5now and still doesn’t like to sleep, ready to rock n roll at 5am, full of energy, doesn’t matter how tired she is the day before or late she goes to sleep. We just accepted it..makes life easier. Expecting our second one and friend sent me a link for one of these miracle cots, baskets which is around £800 and her dd apparently sleeps all night..which I won’t be getting either..why don’t you just tell your mil that u are not planning to get one but she is free to spend her money as she wishes so if she wants to get one for her grandchild she is welcome to do so ...and tell her you have other things friends recommended so you are happy to give her the list ..hopefully it will shut her up. I would tell my husband to sort out his mother is she didn’t listen..

DO NOT BUY ONE. They are strongly advice d against in the new safer sleep campaign. I was at the launching information event the evidence is trickerling through they are not safe. Health visitors paediatrics etc will all advice against them. But in the current situation you may not get this advice. Its a east of your money on a product that could endanger your baby.

Your MIL sounds like a pain in the arse. As for the sleepyhead, loved it, our daughter was very happy in it and always looked so comfy. I bought second hand from ebay as you can wash the covers.

Thank you for all your advice 😊
I do appreciate my mil advice etc but when she’s constantly on your case and you do just say thanks I’ll think about she don’t let up! Everything and anytime any product is discussed she reverts back to what her daughter thought and then forced that opinion on me!

When baby comes and if she doesn’t sleep I may be more open to purchasing one to see if it helps but I don’t plan to get one unles I really do have to?
My sister in law was so stressed out I’m convinced my niece picked it up off her and made things worse.

They are certainly a pair and I’m getting very tired of being compared to my sister in law as being a mother already - they have made it clear to me that they reckon I’m going to struggle terribly which don’t help my feelings towards them lately.

All I can say is thank god for lockdown right now

Life saver

I’ve lots of friends who used them for their babies and swear by them but I couldn’t ever get past the fact that The Lullaby Trust advise against them as a SIDS risk. They are only advised for supervised sleep, in which case just hold the baby or pop them in a sling.
I’d never say this to anyone in real life as we all have to make our own calculated risks when it comes to parenting but I’d never, ever forgive myself if my baby was a victim of SIDS whilst sleeping in a sleepyhead (or any sleep positioner / pod etc).

Also, your Mother in Law sounds a pain.

They arent recommended for unsupervised sleep as they are not completely flat and have raised edges. I wouldn't buy one

When I had my LO they were all the rage before the SIDs advice. I couldn’t justify the cost so instead I bought this - life saver
www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/babymoov-cosydream-d3178.html?gclid=Cj0KCQjw-Mr0BRDyARIsAKEFbeeVigKIcwcb7--ytEPKmIU5bDZ6rXquZOo9fok2mvhinOg0zOWA0NYaAlfkEALw_wcB

Not sure if I would use agin now the advise has changed, my understand is it’s ok before they roll and for day naps not nighttime but tbh I would read up more before deciding.

I loved mine and will be using it again for number 2. DS only slept in it during the day, and when he was in the same room as me, but given newborns sleep for most of the day, he spent a fair bit of time in it.

Was honestly my besr purchase.

It's a bit weird that your MIL keeps going on about how amazing it is if your niece is still a bad sleeper? Has it not worked then?!

If she's that bothered she can buy it for you.

I'm planning to do the same as you - wait till the baby is here and see how they sleep, if I need one I'll get one then.

Just jumping on here with a question as I'm also considering getting one - when you say your baby sleeps in them for a lot of the day, where are you positioning it? Do you just have it on the sofa or somewhere else?

Being honest...I slept sitting upright holding my baby for 5 weeks until I cracked and bought a sleepyhead. I had never been able to put him down without him crying to this point, it was life changing!

I think they're worth their weight in gold!