Pregnant at 46

[Catlaw73]

Just found out I'm pregnant at 46. A real shock. Any older mums with similar news? I have a 13 year old son already. Due December if all goes well.

[MATTSMAMMA]

@Chatbash72 I’m not trying as such just leaving it to chance so to speak. Having said that always disappointing when af arrives but I know it’s my age more than likely now that’s against me although I still ovulate pretty regularly. I’m blessed with 2 dc but have always had the feeling I’m not done and it’s been hard to dry and dismiss that, but it’s something that I’m trying to come to terms with.

Having said all that about age my GP has said 56 or 57 is the oldest natural conception age he’s aware of, so you never know!

[Chatbash72]

@MATTSMAMMA I know that feeing.. I don't feel done.. but good to know about the 50something pregnancies.. I does happen.. keeping my fingers crossed for you.. my age is a factor too but I have af regular as clockwork so I suppose that works in our favour xx

[FrankieChips]

I'm 43 and pregnant with my first. It's very early days (almost 5 weeks) but had to be scanned as I have enodo and a blocked Fallopian tube. They think it might be twins! Excited and happy but also trying not to get our hopes up as it is still very early days.

[Chatbash72]

How is everyone doing? My ovaries went bonkers about 8 days after m/c so we just went for it... 🤞🤞🤞

[MATTSMAMMA]

@Chatbash72 Hi - they do say that your more fertile after any type of pregnancy so fingers crossed for you . Onwards and upwards and wishing you lots of luck!

It looks like this thread has gone very quiet now. It’s always a shame when people don’t follow up posts and update - it makes you wonder if everything is ok. Hopefully everyone is fine xx

[Ausbaby43]

Hi all, sorry for the silence. We’ve had an eventful few weeks. We found out at the early dating scan that we lost one of our twins- wasn’t meant to be- but at our 16 week mark today and our surviving bubba is bouncing and hiccuping and looking strong.
At 43, all my algorithms have come back high risk, so that has been playing on my mind. We can’t really do the NIPT test because the demised twin will affect the results. Dr has suggested the amnio for a definitive diagnosis but I’m not convinced. After having 3 MC and now a demised twin, I’m not willing to risk anything else. I’d be interested in hearing others’ opinions.
Hoping you are all well. Would love an update on how you are all travelling.

[Ausbaby43]

@FrankieChips how exciting! Wishing you best of luck for the coming weeks. Enjoy this exciting time.

[Chatbash72]

@Ausbaby43 I'm so sorry that one of your twins hasn't made it..sending lots of love 💕💕💕

[MATTSMAMMA]

@Ausbaby43 - so sorry for the loss of one of your twins but lovely that other little bubs is doing well. I’m sorry I can’t offer any advice re amino but I thought there were more advanced blood tests and procedures available nowadays that weren’t as invasive and risky? Hopefully someone might be able to offer better advice. Wishing you lots of luck going forwards. I really do feel like a gatecrasher on this thread . I’m not pregnant but would very much like to be and follow a lot of over 40’s ttc and pregnancy threads and I didn’t want to read your post and not reply. xx

[ByTheSeaCatsandAll]

@Ausbaby43 No advice but solidarity - I’m 41, 17 weeks pregnant through IVF after 4 miscarriages and we lost a twin early on. I got 1 in 12 for Down’s syndrome, and haven’t been tested yet for Edwards or Pateau as I missed my 12 week scan as husband had Covid. Can’t have NIPT and we’ve decided against an amnio, as ultimately I would terminate if it was positive for Downs.

Have you read about the SAFE test? Its a NIPT test that claims you can do with a vanished twin, but ARC weren’t convinced about its accuracy. And would still need an amnio if it came back high risk. I think we’re going to see how the 20 week scan goes and hope for the best. But thought I would mention it just in case www.thebirthcompany.co.uk/safe-test.php

Wishing you all the best. It’s a difficult position to be in x

[Ausbaby43]

@ByTheSeaCatsandAll wow- sounds like we’ve had very similar journeys. I haven’t heard of the safe test - possibly not commonly done here in Australia? I’ll look into it though. My dr said that after the 20 week scan, if the NT score was still high, then we could do NIPT and it should be more reliable at that stage. He said we are very unlikely to have the other 2 syndromes as they have major abnormalities and everything else seemed normal. Still places a question mark on the health of the baby though. We’ll probably just wait until we meet him/her. We’ve decided to continue with the pregnancy no matter what. Thank you @MATTSMAMMA and @Chatbash72 for your lovely words. All in all, I believe we are just going to keep thinking positive and hope/pray for the best. We figure a 1:7 chance equates to a 6:7 chance of a normal bubba so we’re resting our chances on that. 💕💕

[littleangle46]

[quote Chatbash72]@Midlifebaby that's amazing news congratulations I'm 47 and had another MC at 6 weeks, but haven't lost hope, were you taking any vits ? [/quote]
I am 46 my babies heart stoped at 6 w 4 days. my first pregnancy conceived naturally and easily but I do not know if I can do it again. I am very worried for the miscarriage, I am waiting to miscarry naturally this is my 9 the week and there is no single sign of miscarrying but ultrasound finds no heartbeat and size of the baby got even smaller... they offered me pills to induce abortion I dont know if I did the wright thing but from what I have read those pills rarely work to pass everything and require a surgical intervention. I decide nature to do it s job but I dont how long I have to wait... I wish I was still the club of 46 years old moms to be...

[Ausbaby43]

@littleangle46 I’m so very sorry for your loss. The last time we miscarried was in January- and it took almost the whole month to resolve. In the end I did have a D&C as we wanted to try again ASAP. You know the right path for you- For me, the mistoprostol tablets worked to dispel some tissue but the fetus remained. It was an awful experience and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. For me, surgery meant I could be sure it was resolved- as I found it hard to grieve properly until then. Best wishes to you and I hope you get some resolution soon. 💕

[littleangle46]

Hi ! @Chatbash72

I did the medical abortion in the end, and they could test for the chromosomal abnormalities but for my age doctors in Italy are super hopeless and today told me again if I ever attempt can be chromosomal loss again. I am outraged because they did not test the embryo for any chromosomal abnormalities and maybe my issues are autoimmune, I had 2 chemical pregnancies in my late twenties too... but the doctors are super discouraging.

and you were asking I miscarried you know but I was taking DHEA 25 mg. and Co-Enzyme q10 600 mg. I also took Pfizers premom vitamins. I used to take melatonin too but not regularly. I think all these helped to conceive. Thank you very much and all my best wishes to you. I am not a native speaker so if my messages dont make sense let me know, I can try to write more clear. My best wishes!

[Chatbash72]

@littleangle46 sending lots of love, 💕💕💕sorry I managed to escape for a few days with my bestie to France to drop off some furniture which had been stored in the house for months..
Im sorry your drs are not supportive, I don't think they are bothered with our age group here either..
the spare room is now empty prompting a question from hubs, what do we do with the room... well in my head is a nursery in waiting, so it's staying empty..
💕💕

[Brist74]

Hi, so I've just found out today that at 46 I'm pregnant! Already have an 8 year old and I unfortunately had to have a termination when I was 41 so this is a complete shock to us considering all I hear is that after 45 your chances are 3% was due on last Friday but was getting what I thought was period pains all last week and after being 4 days late I thought I'd better just do a test but wasn't expecting to see a positive sign! I'm in limbo and not sure what to do or if I tell anyone yet as I know my parents will not be at all happy as they have my son whilst I work and I know being in their 70's they won't want a baby in the mix too! I've thrown all the baby stuff away as this was never in my thoughts about having another baby so we have nothing! My mind is just going crazy with all the what do I do or are we silly to go ahead with a baby at our age (my partner is 51) just wondered if anyone has any words of wisdom for this stressed out mummy!

[Chatbash72]

@Brist74 congratulations.. baby stuff can be sourced.. you parents.., well they will come around but give them the benefit of the doubt.. this is a blessing 💕💕💕

[Brist74]

Thank you @chatbash72, I'm going for an urgent scan today because I've been getting some strong cramping feelings they just want to check on things. I'm only about 4-5 weeks so won't be that much to see I wouldn't think, they will try with an ultrasound first but may have to do an internal if they can't see anything. I'm still in shock 4 days later and I'm supposed to be going back to work in August (I'm a nanny) and haven't told anyone apart from a very close friend. My partner is more excited than me but just worried about finances and where we live which is too small for 4 of us! Anyway it's early days and I want to see what today brings and seeing a little dot on the screen may make it all the more real for me! Xx

[Chatbash72]

@Brist74 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞💫💫💕💕🙏

[Brist74]

@Chatbash72 well I went for my scan yesterday and as I'm only 4 or 5 weeks they had to do an
internal which showed at this time nothing there but she did say that that is quite common at this stage as it just might be too early. So they are going to test my HCG levels, I had a blood test done and I go back Sunday morning for another one to see if they are rising like they should be if I was pregnant. They mentioned that it could be an ectopic pregnancy but just don't know until we get my blood results. So fingers crossed for Sunday 🤞🤞🤞🤞🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 I will let you know the outcome. Thank you for thinking of me 💕 x

[Brist74]

So I got my bloods back today which was 7.69 and will have them taken again on Sunday and hopefully they will have doubled or even more! Not sure at 5 weeks if that level is classed as ok? Xx

[Soniaspahiu]

Hi, did you conceive naturally? I’m 45 and been trying for a year any advise ? Xx

[Midlifebaby]

Hi Sonia - it’s definitely possible to conceive and have a healthy baby at 45 but the odds are stacked against you. We did ivf with donor eggs, and the our little one looks more like me than my hubby :). I was so against/worried about the donor egg situation but it’s hands down the best think I ever did - I’ve got a healthy baby who I couldn’t love more, and she is very bonded with me. We will tell her there was a magic ingredient in her creation, but she’s 100% ours and our families xxx good luck to you what ever you decide to do x. We would have wasted so much more time if I hadn’t got my head around a donor x